Fancy dress, am i being harsh!

Break up with her so that she can meet someone who trusts her. When you're comfortable in your own skin and think your ready to put the level of trust into a relationship that truly great relationships need and deserve, get back out in to the dating world.
 
If you listen to everyone writing here you will go mad with torment. Only you know what your girlfriend is like so ask yourself "Is she the kind of girl to go off and snog other blokes for the hell of it?" forget the porking, only real ***** get up to that and if they are all out together chances are its never going to happen, these are far and few situation.

If she really doesn't want to go the only reason why she is having to go is because she will feel like a wus to her chav friends if she doesn't go. So let her go, get yourself out with your mates on the same night to take your mind off it.....meet her back at home and arrange the following night or next weekend a hotel room away for yourselves so you can enjoy each other. If you kick off you'll regret it.

If she's going to be like the other chav's then you find out eventually and its better to find out now rather than later.
 
If two of them are knocked up then get your missus to leave where shee works otherwise in a few months your going to have to go shopping with her to buy baby Berburry caps and stuff. Get her outta there quick before she starts wearing soverign rings and 5 inch gold loop ear rings "You get me bruv, init!"
 
So, she doesn't want to go and she doesn't want to wear the clothes the other slags are wearing? WTF is the problem. She tells them she'd rather be with you or she goes but tells them she doesn't want to dress like that and wears something a bit more classy. Tell her to grow a pair of girl balls and woman the **** up.

Alternatively, if she insists on going out dressed like a whore then the least you can do is give her a good bitch slapping before hand just to get her in character.
 
brightside229 said:
Nope. they are getting a limo at 4pm from doncaster and heading to skegness, getting picked back up at 2am by the limo again, it isnt a themed night out their or anything just a birthday theme for the group
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ooh i live near doncaster, not the nicest of places and neither is skegness.

Ill give you some advise friend. it boils down to instict and inner feelings, you know your girlfriend better than anyone, do you think shed do anything based on her character and the way she is ? i say this because ive had a few girlfriends who i just couldnt trust, one in particular, also from same said crummy town, i just could not for the life of me trust her, i left her as i felt she wasnt telling me everything. month later she got with my best friend.

the people on here who are saying you going to have to test the waters are right, if she was going to do it she can will and is going to, if she isnt then she wont. look at it this way, if she was that kind of person wouldnt you rather find out now than in years to come when youve got a family and house with her ? now is the best time, its the perfect real wolrd worst case scenario to test. if she dosent do anything now she never will.

best to just send the odd text to see how shes getting on, dont hassle her though, but like any girl, just be weary.
 
I think we need pics of her burlesqued up in order to make an informed opinion (her friends too while you are at it).
 
My girlfriend went to Magaluf for 6 weeks. Did I mind? No, I want her to enjoy herself and have a good time. Trust your bird and hope she bas a fun night. Your relationship will be better for it.
 
If you can't or won't trust your gf/partner/wife/whatever then it's time to call it a day. Don't waste their time and don't waste your own either. "Oh but what if she -" is no way to live your life.

I take it from having read the thread again that you're young so you're going to do stupid things and make silly decisions and get upset about crap that doesn't really matter (and, hilariously, not worry about the stuff that does) but have a think about what you want from life and the type of person you want to spend yours with. If you really don't trust her then that's a massive red flag.
 
I dont think you have any control whether she goes or not, you can only request that she doesn't and if you do that you will only cause yourself grief in the long run as she will think that you dont trust her.

Her friends might be a bit rough but it doesn't mean that she is, you have to trust that she can make the right judgement calls for herself, she's a woman after all, not a little girl. If you go through life always expecing the worst to happen then your gonna cause yourself uneeded stress and find later on that it was unfounded from the very beginning.
 
brightside229 said:
its not that i dont trust her, i dont trust the men that will be around her,
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Rubbish. Unless you fear she will be sexualy assaulted against her will, then whether you care to admit it or not, it is her you do not trust, not them. You don't trust her ability to say no or not to encourage things.
 
brightside229 said:
Girlfriend is going on a night out for some ones birthday where she works, she works in a factory and all the other girls that work their are pretty much chavs, i kid you not!

Anyway they are all going in fancy dress which just so happens to be burlesque dancers, (google it if unsure, basically strippers) And all the rest of them are pretty much going to get attention from guys, and pull, even though most of the girls she is going with are not single... aparently what happends in (blabla town) stays in blabla town...

This alarms me!! And I have told her that I don’t want her to go, am I being un reasonable to be apprehensive about her going out until 2am, which is when the limo picks them up, 100 miles away from where I live dressed as a hooker?
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burlesque isn't all strippers, whilst thats the end result not everyone will be walking around with tassles on their breasts.


As for your closed minded opinions the internet can't help re-assure you, you will just have to get over yourself or ruin your partners night out.

If you haven't got trust you have nothing son.
 
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