I think you have the right attitude. Unfortunately, many do not. I would say most of what you have said is also true for a large proportion of meat eaters. They take issue with vegetarians but can't last 30 seconds in a rational debate on the issue.
I'm not a fan of militant veggies either, but there's the other side of the coin of meat eaters who look upon veggies as if they're some sort of freak. I once went to a sandwich shop and the guy thought I'd asked for ham, so I asked him to take it out, and he then went on to proclaim that he hates vegetarians.
I'm not sure why people can't just accept the diets of others.
I agree there are "meat eaters" that are like that, however I would just class them as morons as eating meat for most people isn't a sort of stance, it's more the "norm" and a lot if not most people will consume meat without much thought on the matter as that's all they know.
Vegetarianism will usually be a stance that has been purposefully chosen and unfortunately that type of thing *seems* to attract a certain type of person.
I will admit to looking down on "vegetarians" (not by default, of course) based on the overwhelming number of nutjobs that are militant over it, while not actually being able to articulate why like I was saying in my other post.
As for the meat eaters who try to convince vegetarians to eat meat, I don't find it annoying as such because it usually stems from invalid reasons why they don't eat meat. Now I wouldn't try to convince a vegetarian to eat meat myself, but I'd have no respect for them as a vegetarian if their reasons for being a vegetarian were inconsistent and made no sense. Like I mentioned about the fish thing, I've come across so many vegetarians that don't eat land mammals due to "ethical" reasons, but can't get enough of the fish, and it just demonstrates that they don't actually know what they stand for and why they're even doing it.
I think the reverse doesn't work quite so well because meat eaters don't tend to have illogical reasons for eating meat as they haven't had to come up with any sort of thought process to rationalise it, they eat meat because they like it, and generally that's it.
I kinda see it as a religion of sorts, and often it's more than just the diet, a lot more. It's the whole way of life thing that they get caught up in. I do know that it is a crazy bunch of people ruining it for everyone else of course, I'm just waffling about general experiences I've had, but most of them who've tried to lecture me on eating meat have been able to be shot down by the fact that they're sitting there in leather or suede shoes, wearing make up tested on animals, or something to that effect.
It's unfortunate that those people are the face of vegetarians to most other people.