I told you this ages ago MTFU stop crying and start lifting for gods sake.. its the lack of PROPER MEAT in your that makes your balls shrink
enough with that veggie crap 
The OcUK Relationship Counselling and Hugs Thread
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I told you this ages ago MTFU stop crying and start lifting for gods sake.. its the lack of PROPER MEAT in your that makes your balls shrink
enough with that veggie crap 
Im in a similar situation..havent spoken to my ex for over 14 months but still got her in my head non stop, main reason being that with the few girls ive got with since then, I havent felt that 'magic' I had when I first met her so its just making me remember the good times and analyse what happened between us over again and wonder maybe she regrets we finished etc etc arghhhhhhh lol
I seriously need to move on too! On Wednesday signing up to the gym again
Hopefully will kick me into gear to go back out there and find someone even better.
As the famous yet unsuitable saying for this forum goes "Excrement happens"
The ex in my case went to extremes though, she'd shower daily but was never out of pyjamas never did her make up just sat on the couch or on turdbook for hours on end going from the beautiful girl I met to something that, although nowhere near as bad when we were still together, now looks like it could be an extra in star wars.
As newman says, give her a reason to present herself, but don't be holding her to unrealistic ideals! Assuming she doesn't turn into a stunt double for a Gamorean (the green pig things in that epic sci fi franchise) then cut the girl some slack and be happy in the knowledge she is comfortable enough around you to totally be herself.
The ex in my case went to extremes though, she'd shower daily but was never out of pyjamas never did her make up just sat on the couch or on turdbook for hours on end going from the beautiful girl I met to something that, although nowhere near as bad when we were still together, now looks like it could be an extra in star wars.
As newman says, give her a reason to present herself, but don't be holding her to unrealistic ideals! Assuming she doesn't turn into a stunt double for a Gamorean (the green pig things in that epic sci fi franchise) then cut the girl some slack and be happy in the knowledge she is comfortable enough around you to totally be herself.
Bit harsh, but also true.
I think some of you guys need to listen to a bit of the Bill Burr pod casts.
You really need to try and reign it in and keep your dignity as you will look back on your actions and feel like a bit of a fool in a few month. I went through it when I was younger (18) fortunately and now know the do's and don'ts.
The end of a relationship and getting back out there have been some of my best moments in life. The realisation you really don't care anymore is so refreshing and exciting! Weight loss, re discovering yourself, working out, going out and doing whatever the hell you want is great.
Try and get it all in perspective.
You really need to try and reign it in and keep your dignity as you will look back on your actions and feel like a bit of a fool in a few month. I went through it when I was younger (18) fortunately and now know the do's and don'ts.
The end of a relationship and getting back out there have been some of my best moments in life. The realisation you really don't care anymore is so refreshing and exciting! Weight loss, re discovering yourself, working out, going out and doing whatever the hell you want is great.
Try and get it all in perspective.
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Im in a similar situation..havent spoken to my ex for over 14 months but still got her in my head non stop, main reason being that with the few girls ive got with since then, I havent felt that 'magic' I had when I first met her so its just making me remember the good times and analyse what happened between us over again and wonder maybe she regrets we finished etc etc arghhhhhhh lol
I seriously need to move on too! On Wednesday signing up to the gym again
Most guys haven't been in love like this.
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im guessing this is your first true love etc...
most guys that respond on here, will have felt exactly the same when their first love broke up.
They will have handled it differently, everyone handles it differently, some opt for jump to the next woman, some sit and mope about it (its not a bad thing unless its for a long time, i spent months moping, thats BAD!), but at the end of the day everyone you speak to will have all felt that "true love" you describe at some point in their life.
im given to understand, that the first one is always the worst and leaves the biggest mark on you, and that the next time it comes around its easier to handle.
its all just part of life and everyone goes through it and handles it differently!
best thing to do is take your mind off it, get on with your life, take some me time and work on improving yourself! (im not saying you need improving, don't take any offense!)
When you stop caring, dont give a S***, and realize your problems aren't as bad as you actually think they are is when you start to enjoy what you have and are actually get on with your life, i learn't that recently!
Dude... Snap out of it for god sake! You are beginning to sound like a woman!
It's over, move on!
Not only that, but learn the difference between 'of' and 'have'. Sorry, couldn't help myself
Girl get comfortable around you = you scored - (stop whining)
Critical of driving = tell her to STFU - (man up)
Fitness bandwagon - talk to her - (man up)
If you missed it - MAN UP, pussy.
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Lol
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Just broke up with my girlfriend of 6 years. It wasn't going well lately and we both knew it, though I'd have been willing to work on it. She kissed one of my best mates on Friday and didn't tell me about it. I guess that was the easiest way out for her.
Just been out walking around and coming back and opening the door to an empty flat is one of the worst things I've ever had to do. I feel like I've lost my right arm. I'm not going to be ok for a while
Just been out walking around and coming back and opening the door to an empty flat is one of the worst things I've ever had to do. I feel like I've lost my right arm. I'm not going to be ok for a while
Just broke up with my girlfriend of 6 years. It wasn't going well lately and we both knew it, though I'd have been willing to work on it. She kissed one of my best mates on Friday and didn't tell me about it. I guess that was the easiest way out for her.
Just been out walking around and coming back and opening the door to an empty flat is one of the worst things I've ever had to do. I feel like I've lost my right arm. I'm not going to be ok for a while
Sorry, friend. I've been there, many of us have. Don't know what to say apart from... I know what it feels like.
Of course there is no cure but time. Though in the meantime I recommend music and beer - and lots of it - rinse and repeat at will.
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cheers, buddy, I'm going to go blub down the phone to a mate
Hmm.. Don't really know how I'm feeling at the moment. Looking on Facebook now, I can see:
- friends posting photos of their babies
- updates and photos from an ex about his his new house purchase with his girlfriend
- photos of friends and their engagement rings
- photos of weddings
- check ins of friends and their other halves when they're out and about
Knew I shouldn't have re-activated my account...
I'm not jealous of my friends, but maybe a bit envious. I'm not desperate, I don't feel lonely, I don't feel sad. However, I do feel a little lost. Like I'm plodding along in life and will quite possibly end up growing old alone.
I've been single for 5 and a half years now. I don't really get the chance to meet anyone new because I hardly go out these days (friends are all busy). I've tried the whole online dating thing but I gave up on it. I don't have to be single but I choose to - because I refuse to be with someone who I'm not 100% happy with just so I won't be alone. I'm too picky. Too confident. Too proud. Too independent.
It feels wrong for me to 'lower' my standards and just get with a not-so-perfect guy just for the sake of not being single. It would be unfair on the other person and will most definitely not be true happiness.
What to do.
- friends posting photos of their babies
- updates and photos from an ex about his his new house purchase with his girlfriend
- photos of friends and their engagement rings
- photos of weddings
- check ins of friends and their other halves when they're out and about
Knew I shouldn't have re-activated my account...
I'm not jealous of my friends, but maybe a bit envious. I'm not desperate, I don't feel lonely, I don't feel sad. However, I do feel a little lost. Like I'm plodding along in life and will quite possibly end up growing old alone.
I've been single for 5 and a half years now. I don't really get the chance to meet anyone new because I hardly go out these days (friends are all busy). I've tried the whole online dating thing but I gave up on it. I don't have to be single but I choose to - because I refuse to be with someone who I'm not 100% happy with just so I won't be alone. I'm too picky. Too confident. Too proud. Too independent.
It feels wrong for me to 'lower' my standards and just get with a not-so-perfect guy just for the sake of not being single. It would be unfair on the other person and will most definitely not be true happiness.
What to do.
Hmm.. Don't really know how I'm feeling at the moment. Looking on Facebook now, I can see:
- friends posting photos of their babies
- updates and photos from an ex about his his new house purchase with his girlfriend
- photos of friends and their engagement rings
- photos of weddings
- check ins of friends and their other halves when they're out and about
Knew I shouldn't have re-activated my account...
I'm not jealous of my friends, but maybe a bit envious. I'm not desperate, I don't feel lonely, I don't feel sad. However, I do feel a little lost. Like I'm plodding along in life and will quite possibly end up growing old alone.
I've been single for 5 and a half years now. I don't really get the chance to meet anyone new because I hardly go out these days (friends are all busy). I've tried the whole online dating thing but I gave up on it. I don't have to be single but I choose to - because I refuse to be with someone who I'm not 100% happy with just so I won't be alone. I'm too picky. Too confident. Too proud. Too independent.
It feels wrong for me to 'lower' my standards and just get with a not-so-perfect guy just for the sake of not being single. It would be unfair on the other person and will most definitely not be true happiness.
What to do.
You're not alone there. Only difference for me is a year down the line I'm quite honestly still very much broken in some respects emotionally despite being fine on the surface, which is an overwhelming reason to stay single as unleashing that on anyone would be massively unfair.
C'est la vie.