I am considering a trial separation thing, I have mentioned this before and all she says "your makings take a step backwards!". Without even thinking we are in this position due to her choices and actions.....
We just had another 2 hour chat.... I know now basically everything is my fault...... an example:
Her "So what I am just supposed to accept that for an entire day I get 2 kisses only!!!" (This to her is not normal and people do not kiss less than obviously a higher figure than this)
Me " But you know why that was it was due to you being a nightmare and just blaming me for something so insane " (The sausage roll instance for example or something similar which led to a huge debate)
Her "Yes I know it was my fault but its still wrong, no couple does that"
So basically twisting her doing back onto me :S.
The problem is we have an issue as well with the house....
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I paid the deposit, mortgage etc etc so the deeds are in my name.... the mortgage is in my name...... She has 20k inheritance which it was agreed she would pay back to me and I could pay back to my parents as they loaned this to me when she was put on.
It was agreed that she would go on in October last year, however things were very bad and I got her brother and sister in law to sit down with us to discuss these things, and it was agreed (not by her) that it was insane to put her on the mortgage in this position with things so on the edge. Then we said we would look again in January as long as things were better etc etc. Now December came and was no different exactly the same and she was still "Trying" and she "I can fix this", so we said March......
Now all of this and this has gone on for so long noting that we go no longer than 2/3 DAYS!!! without something and thats a maybe and a stretch! so I have had a think and decided its not a good idea to do the mortgage..... Simply because I don't believe even by some stroke of lightening that she did fix this for 2 weeks or even 2months that it couldn't come back. I would like to see something like 6 months! of actually showing she appreciates me and actually cares/loves me.....
OMG that was it I explained this and she went off the rails
. She wants to be put on end of and blames me for not putting her on! even though she will admit she is the reason for not going on......
I have to talk to you guys on here as basically I don't have a lot of friends which I can talk to for advice lol.