No I've not made it explicitly clear, but I don't think people should assume either? Just like I would never assume that someone would want a serious relationship just because they're on a dating site.
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You said a few pages ago that you aren't likely to be on the dating scene again for a long while. And now, a few days after the break, you are on dating sites, arranging to meet up with people, while you are still emotional about the break up?
That doesn't seem like a good idea, you might rush into things as a "rebound" or a way to get comfort.
That doesn't seem like a good idea, you might rush into things as a "rebound" or a way to get comfort.
I'm not 'messed up'. I'm just a stupidly emotional person. I often cry when talking about unhappy things, be it relationships, family or just unhappy events in general. I cry even just telling my boss about my family history/problems!!
I may not be ready to jump straight into another relationship, but is it so bad to just date for the time being? I don't think everyone on dating sites are looking for just serious relationships (just to clarify, no - I'm not looking for 'fun' only either)
I didn't mean 'messed up' in a horrible way, just that you may actually need time to get the previous person out of your system.
I didn't say that? Or at least I can't remember saying that. Link my post?
I've not arranged to meet up with people? You ought to read my posts properly before making comments on what you thought I said.
I didn't arrange it though did I?
I didn't initiate conversation or bring up the idea of meeting up?I didn't arrange it though did I?
Does it make much difference if you initiated it or simply agreed to it?. Acme was simply displaying some concern because he mentioned you went from one of the spectrum to the other.
Perhaps it wasn't a few pages ago, or even you then. I don't come in here that often but I thought I remembered you saying something along those lines. My apologies if I was mistaken.
Though, as a few others have said, I'm not sure if it is a good idea to do anything relating to dating/dating sites/speaking to potential dates etc etc~ for a while...
Though, as a few others have said, I'm not sure if it is a good idea to do anything relating to dating/dating sites/speaking to potential dates etc etc~ for a while...
Agreed to it and arranging to meet are two completely different things.
I'm simply just defending the fact that what Acme said was incorrect and untrue.
I did not say this.
I did not say this either.
Not meaning to sound harsh, but that sounds like wasting other peoples' time in all honesty unless you're going to be very clear about your intentions to the other person.
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Acme. Shut up and love me
I agree. Soon as guy becomes single they are encouraged to put it about like its going out of fashion.
I think every person is different, some are comfortable going straight back out into the dating world, some aren't.
The only concern i would have is leading someone on etc.... and i would be honest about recently breaking up
Each to their own, There's no set way to do it
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No, I wouldn't.
It isn't a brilliant idea to start dating again immediately after a break up, because your reasons for doing so will be all wrong...
You shouldn't fall into another relationship immediately for comfort or to forget or because you "feel alone" or "feel like you need someone" or to "help you through it" or to "ease the pain" or "fill their shoes" or whatever other common reasons or excuses people give.
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Do you really put that much emphasis on being asked out on a date vs asking someone out on a date? Does it ultimately matter who asked who? What's the difference?
I've found it pretty common regardless of who's asked who for both people on a date to say it's been "arranged"
Like I said before, people shouldn't automatically assume that just because someone is on a dating site then it means they want a serious relationship. That's not to say I'm not going to be honest and tell them what I want, I'm just saying - never assume.Not meaning to sound harsh, but that sounds like wasting other peoples' time in all honesty.
I'm used to it, being the small minority of the female population here means I'm always having to defend and explain myself
Yes I do. Yes it does matter.
Had it been my choice, I would rather talk for a week or so at least before even thinking about meeting up. There is no set period of time on how long it takes to 'get over' someone. I may still be upset now, but I could be fine next week?
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I'm used to it, being the small minority of the female population here means I'm always having to defend and explain myself
Amen sistaaaaaa