The OcUK Relationship Counselling and Hugs Thread
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This
And this.
If I were a guy then there wouldn't be all this fuss and targeting at my posts. Nothing new, happens all the time on this forum
I think because you're in a minority a lot of guys are interested in what you have to post. This isn't in a the Neanderthal sense that they all just want to pro-create with you (although I'm sure some of them do
). It's just intriguing to know the story and opinions of the opposite sex for the very reason that you are from the opposite sex. It is like a bit of an insight for many I imagine.If I were a guy then there wouldn't be all this fuss and targeting at my posts. Nothing new, happens all the time on this forum
Maybe not, but in almost every other thread that pops up, in which the poster has been dumped by someone who starts dating or seeing someone else so soon after, that person is typically vilified.
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If I were a guy then there wouldn't be all this fuss and targeting at my posts. Nothing new, happens all the time on this forum
If you were an unattractive woman, you'd draw less attention. Such is life.
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#smoooooth
I'll have you know, when Thompson_NCL makes a move on a lass, he's much smoother than this. In fact, they don't even know about it till they wake up in my dunge-... wine cellar.
And most members don't comment. But I'd wager the sort of posters who feel that GD is the place to discuss their relationship woes, have been here longer than five minutes.
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Right enough is enough, get the thread back on topic and stop the bickering.
Ahh, well, it's been 24 hours now and she's not contacted me. I'll leave it and see if she contacts me tomorrow. She was supposed to come over and do some work for my friend but made up an excuse of her friends dog peeing on the floor and her feeling sick so she worked from her place instead. Given that she could talk to him and not me it would seem like she's avoiding me, although it might be that she feels obligated to talk with him due to working arrangements.
I'm doing my mates school run for him tomorrow morning and my "gf" mentioned I should bring us both a breakfast back when I told her about this yesterday morning, so that might be a fairly innocuous way to initiate some contact.
I'm doing my mates school run for him tomorrow morning and my "gf" mentioned I should bring us both a breakfast back when I told her about this yesterday morning, so that might be a fairly innocuous way to initiate some contact.
What are the odds, the one thread I need and it's at the top...
My girlfriend and I took a break about 3 months ago, we tried to cut talk and stuff but ultimately ended up messaging just less. I recently got back from a 2 week tour around Europe. I said we would talk and hash it out when I got back to see where we each stood.
I love her, she loves me. She is crazy about me and I hate it as I feel I've dragged her along a little.
Anyway, last week we spent some time together, it was nice, but it went back into the old ways very quickly, lots of arguments. At each others throat multiple times. The arguments simply don't change. We try and make it work but we just argue. I feel like if she doesn't get what she wants, it's mind games until an argument or I succumb. It's most likely not, but yea...
Today, I said we need to talk and the obvious nature of the talk, which she instantly picked up on is that we are ending it, what ever it is.
I feel like after all this time apart, to reflect and think. We are still going around in circles with our arguments.
My question is, my heart, I feel like I'm doing the wrong thing, but then at the same time I don't. I know if I don't do it now, it will be at some point in the future.
Am I making the right choice? If I've not fully committed to my choice of ending it out right? I'm dragging it along.
She also bought us a hotel room for this Friday coming, a gift to me, I feel terrible as she will now lose the money from it.
My girlfriend and I took a break about 3 months ago, we tried to cut talk and stuff but ultimately ended up messaging just less. I recently got back from a 2 week tour around Europe. I said we would talk and hash it out when I got back to see where we each stood.
I love her, she loves me. She is crazy about me and I hate it as I feel I've dragged her along a little.
Anyway, last week we spent some time together, it was nice, but it went back into the old ways very quickly, lots of arguments. At each others throat multiple times. The arguments simply don't change. We try and make it work but we just argue. I feel like if she doesn't get what she wants, it's mind games until an argument or I succumb. It's most likely not, but yea...
Today, I said we need to talk and the obvious nature of the talk, which she instantly picked up on is that we are ending it, what ever it is.
I feel like after all this time apart, to reflect and think. We are still going around in circles with our arguments.
My question is, my heart, I feel like I'm doing the wrong thing, but then at the same time I don't. I know if I don't do it now, it will be at some point in the future.
Am I making the right choice? If I've not fully committed to my choice of ending it out right? I'm dragging it along.
She also bought us a hotel room for this Friday coming, a gift to me, I feel terrible as she will now lose the money from it.
Was only joking. 
Anyway, something relevant to the thread has happened. Le female has messaged me randomly out of the blue after I honestly thought she had forgotten I exist.
I think I'm going to have to have a chat with her and bring things to a close. I'm not feeling it anymore. Too much crap has happened.
Anyway, something relevant to the thread has happened. Le female has messaged me randomly out of the blue after I honestly thought she had forgotten I exist.
I think I'm going to have to have a chat with her and bring things to a close. I'm not feeling it anymore. Too much crap has happened.
Get some mods together and go out on the prowl.
Ban the next thing that comes along.
Been there, in my previous relationship, in some ways it was great but in others it was horrible. I ended up losing respect for her and resenting her to the point that it was a massive relief when it ended and I could finally move on.
listen to these lyrics...good song when you have broken up with someone
Try and forget that its from a game
Lyrics:
Try and forget that its from a game
Lyrics:
Well here we are again,
It’s always such a pleasure,
Remember when you tried to kill me twice?
Oh, how we laughed and laughed,
Except I wasn’t laughing,
Under the circumstances I’ve been shockingly nice.
You want your freedom take it,
That’s what I’m counting on,
I used to want you dead but,
Now I only want you gone.
She was a lot like you,
(Maybe not quite as heavy),
Now little Caroline is in here too.
One day they woke me up,
So I could live forever,
It’s such a shame the same will never happen to you.
You’ve got your short, sad life left,
That’s what I’m counting on,
I’ll let you get right to it,
Now I only want you gone.
Goodbye, my only friend,
Oh, did you think I meant you?
That would be funny if it weren’t so sad,
Well you have been replaced,
I don’t need anyone now,
When I delete you maybe I’ll stop feeling so bad.
Go make some new disaster,
That’s what I’m counting on,
You’re someone else’s problem,
Now I only want you gone,
Now I only want you gone,
Now I only want you gone.
It’s always such a pleasure,
Remember when you tried to kill me twice?
Oh, how we laughed and laughed,
Except I wasn’t laughing,
Under the circumstances I’ve been shockingly nice.
You want your freedom take it,
That’s what I’m counting on,
I used to want you dead but,
Now I only want you gone.
She was a lot like you,
(Maybe not quite as heavy),
Now little Caroline is in here too.
One day they woke me up,
So I could live forever,
It’s such a shame the same will never happen to you.
You’ve got your short, sad life left,
That’s what I’m counting on,
I’ll let you get right to it,
Now I only want you gone.
Goodbye, my only friend,
Oh, did you think I meant you?
That would be funny if it weren’t so sad,
Well you have been replaced,
I don’t need anyone now,
When I delete you maybe I’ll stop feeling so bad.
Go make some new disaster,
That’s what I’m counting on,
You’re someone else’s problem,
Now I only want you gone,
Now I only want you gone,
Now I only want you gone.
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Pretty much same thing happened to me, kept it going but resented everything she did (or she didn't do). Finally we moved out and I realised I was much happier without her.
Now with the new misses and couldn't be happier, being with her made me think all women were like her but the new misses is completely different
You say an argument starts when she isn't getting her own way? Like what? Over serious stuff or do you guys implode over what to watch on the TV?
For example, the other day, she is off work due to stress, but I had a few days left on my holiday (I'm contracted, so no pay for holiday). I wanted to do absolutely nothing.
She was meant to be cat sitting so even if I hadn't of been around, she still would have been doing the same.
Anyway, my mates invited to an evening event, I hadn't decided to go or not. I wanted the option closer to the time. I said to her that I'll likely spend this day of my holiday gaming. She wasn't happy. Then in my head I realised that if I did, I would void my own choice to go out with my mates as it would cause an argument later that evening along the lines of 'you played games all day and now you're going out with your mates. What about me?'.
So I threw in the towel just as an argument was brewing over my days choices so I decided to stay with her and do what ever she wanted. She wanted to go home and get some stuff and wanted me in the car for company.
So I did so. I didn't go in the end to my mates thing. But still...
The point is, the 2 weeks are my holiday, not ours, I wanted to do as I liked as it was the first time I have had off in a long time and she's been off for months. It has been ages since I've laid in bed all day playing games. Sure it's not a nice thing or adventurous. But I enjoy it. I had to throw that in and accept I was losing money just so she had company in the car and to save my self the headache of an argument. Which still happened anyway.
Lol