The OcUK Relationship Counselling and Hugs Thread
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You're missing a piece of the puzzle. It's best not to get caught up in trying to understand the wherefores. It just is.
She could have a partner, she may have just used you for jollies, she may have met someone else, she may have a personality disorder, or it could be any strange confluence of undetermined events.
We just don't know and it's doubtful you're going to get an answer from her, so just let it go.
I've not been in here for a while! but guess it's somewhere to vent my problem.
I've been talking to a really nice girl for about 6 weeks now, we went on a date after the first one got cancelled as she told me she had to look after her cousins.
anyway, she seems quite genuine, and things were going quite well despite her cancelling a second date up until the point I had a panic attack in my dig's away from home. as she was the only one I was talking too, I told her and explained that I have anxiety due to past relationships and if she didn't want to meet again then I'd rather just be told.
Came to this week, I asked her if we could meet on Wednesday which she said she would get back to me on but looked good. I asked her the night before and received no messages until Christmas even despite her looking at them.
I don't want to be dragged along again but I do really like her after the first date.
I'd really like to see her again, but I don't think I can face being blanked for a day after asking her out. I know perfectly well what people are capable after one really bad relationship.
Should I just call it quits? I really can't help but think I'm driving into a disaster here.
Mate there is no point chasing after this one, been talking for 6 weeks, been out once and had two cancelled and already getting no replys?! dont txt her again and move on. Trust me, been there done that, its going nowhere.
Maybe this one is crazier than the last one.
I sent her a bit of a crappy text and basically called her a bad person.
Excuse her English, she's Swiss.
That last sentence screams trouble.
I'd like to say I won't reply, but I probably will when I've had a few beers.
I sent her a bit of a crappy text and basically called her a bad person.
Excuse her English, she's Swiss.
That last sentence screams trouble.
I'd like to say I won't reply, but I probably will when I've had a few beers.
Maybe this one is crazier than the last one.
I sent her a bit of a crappy text and basically called her a bad person.
Excuse her English, she's Swiss.
That last sentence screams trouble.
I'd like to say I won't reply, but I probably will when I've had a few beers.
I wouldn't bother, even after a few beers. Clearly it wasn't going any further.
The problem is, I'm always too honest for my own good. I'm pretty fine with calling things quit's if they or I don't want to take things further. But I get ignored for a day or two then all of a sudden it's like she's awaken from her sleep.
I had an anxiety attack at the wrong time and told her that I get them from time to time, I can't get away from it and like to just not go any further if it's a problem.
Just have to keep looking
Maybe this one is crazier than the last one.
I sent her a bit of a crappy text and basically called her a bad person.
Excuse her English, she's Swiss.
That last sentence screams trouble.
I'd like to say I won't reply, but I probably will when I've had a few beers.
DELETE DELETE DO NOT TEMPT FATE
The problem is, I'm always too honest for my own good. I'm pretty fine with calling things quit's if they or I don't want to take things further. But I get ignored for a day or two then all of a sudden it's like she's awaken from her sleep.
I had an anxiety attack at the wrong time and told her that I get them from time to time, I can't get away from it and like to just not go any further if it's a problem.
Just have to keep looking
Just work on your text game and you'll be fine, you can literally Google "how to improve my text game"
Getting a number is the easy part, getting a relationship out of it is a different ball game.
Single mother's with young kids especially under 2 years old isnt relationship material in my eyes unless you have kids yourself.
Oh here we go again..
Had a text message from someone who I have met before (not like that, just in passing) but have her as a FB friend.
"Would I like to go out sometime before the holidays end, maybe a walk?....."
I can't take that any other way than just a random walk can I.. there's more to it isn't there.. Tell me I'm right
Had a text message from someone who I have met before (not like that, just in passing) but have her as a FB friend.
"Would I like to go out sometime before the holidays end, maybe a walk?....."
I can't take that any other way than just a random walk can I.. there's more to it isn't there.. Tell me I'm right
Oh here we go again..
Had a text message from someone who I have met before (not like that, just in passing) but have her as a FB friend.
"Would I like to go out sometime before the holidays end, maybe a walk?....."
I can't take that any other way than just a random walk can I.. there's more to it isn't there.. Tell me I'm right
Pretty much sounds like a tentative invitation to me!
Nope no other way to take that in my view from what you've put there.
It's not she sent the Netflix and chill message rofl.
Just a simple friend catch up end/
To be fair, and maybe this is me being a little harsh, if they can't be stight from the start (e.g say would you like to go out on a date before the end of the holidays) without some semi criptic message, i walk away in the opposite direction and friend zone them.
It's not she sent the Netflix and chill message rofl.
Just a simple friend catch up end/
To be fair, and maybe this is me being a little harsh, if they can't be stight from the start (e.g say would you like to go out on a date before the end of the holidays) without some semi criptic message, i walk away in the opposite direction and friend zone them.