Is 3 days of zero contact with someone you are seeing acceptable?

MikeTheNative said:
Now we have the actual story of that she also didn't text for 3 days. I reckon that he was wondering whether she is actually in to him and wanted to see if she would even initiate the conversation. If after three months a girl I was seeing still wouldn't text me first I would probably dump her.
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She does and has contacted him first, and that is now more often than not how the contact goes. So from fairly even from both party, to her being the main initiator of contact, which obviously make her worried and also doesn't want to seem like she is being clingy, so when she doesn't contact, he doesn't either.

Damned either way. :p

To re-iterate, if this is how he had always been, no problem, but it is instead a somewhat large shift in behaviour in just a few weeks. From making plans to see her multiple times a week and daily contact, to this.
 
dazza13 said:
May be he didn't like getting pegged during the weekend away and needs time to come to terms with it.
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I like this reason, he's now sat contemplating if it now means he might be a little gay even if he didn't enjoy it.
 
krooton said:
She does and has contacted him first, and that is now more often than not how the contact goes. So from fairly even from both party, to her being the main initiator of contact, which obviously make her worried and also doesn't want to seem like she is being clingy, so when she doesn't contact, he doesn't either.

Damned either way. :p

To re-iterate, if this is how he had always been, no problem, but it is instead a somewhat large shift in behaviour in just a few weeks. From making plans to see her multiple times a week and daily contact, to this.
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Oh ok might let her off then. I imagine that he probably didn't have as good time as her on the break and doesn't see a future.
or one of these. :p


dazza13 said:
May be he didn't like getting pegged during the weekend away and needs time to come to terms with it.
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tom_e said:
I like this reason, he's now sat contemplating if it now means he might be a little gay even if he didn't enjoy it.
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krooton said:
Damned if she does (god, she's ALWAYS texting me, so clingy!), damned if she doesn't (god, she NEVER texts me, clearly she isn't interested!) :p

He probably set a fake precedent with his earlier comm strategy and can't keep up any more, which sucks as early on in the relationship she made it very clear that she doesn't want to play games and that they can just talk about whatever, which he was keen on.

In terms of her asking him what is going on, well that's the point of this evening, as having that kind of a discussion over whatsapp is silly.
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Then why is she even interested? Should get him to have a word with Pele.
 
dazza13 said:
May be he didn't like getting pegged during the weekend away and needs time to come to terms with it.
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Or maybe he did... and needs time to come to terms with it.

Either way, three days without txting is a bad sign. Even if it's not one persons responsibility to keep the conversation going - and I agree it shouldn't be - you'd at least expect after three days silence one party would want to know something bad happened to the other.
 
h4rm0ny said:
you'd at least expect after three days silence one party would want to know something bad happened to the other.
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I think you've missed a conjunction out there as that is reading like something completely different to what I guess you are meaning.....unless you are one of those bunny boliers who goes mental at any perceived slight! :eek:
 
Don't see anything wrong with this myself? Quite often go a couple of days without comms if having a busy week. 3 days may just be pushing it but why is that a big deal?
 
soundb0y said:
Don't see anything wrong with this myself? Quite often go a couple of days without comms if having a busy week. 3 days may just be pushing it but why is that a big deal?
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It isn't for some people, which is kinda why I asked for a poll, I know some people would be ok with it, and others wouldn't, and I was interested to see the split.

I can't speak for all men, and my good male friends are with me in the 'if I liked a woman, I would keep in more contact than that' camp, so to the internetz!
 
Has she asked him what he's been up to?

Not in the "what on earth have you been doing the last few days i've not heard from you". But just dropping it into the conversation casually.

I'm not saying that it is acceptable, but he may have reasons which she won't know without asking.

Also, you don't mention in the OP if the communication was 1-sided - i.e. has she reached out to him over those 3 days? If not the same question could be placed on the other foot and this guy could be thinking why is she not talking to me.
 
So he went out Saturday which she was aware about?

He probably got hammered, didn't get in till 5am, slept till two, proceeded to lay on the sofa in despair and just didn't think of texting her.

When is the 'meeting'? Or has it been?
 
If I was seeing a girl for a few months and she ceased communication for 3 days I would be pretty concerned I have to admit.
 
3 days seems a bit long, and based on the behaviour your describing it sounds like he is getting cold feet in regards to the relationship as a whole.

The GF text sometimes just once each way in a 24hr period, but that works for us, any won't work for others.
 
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