Well the CSA calculator says I need to pay less than I am doing now!
I knew it wouldn't be long before she started giving me grief... she text me telling my son had a temperature and wasn't too good so I instantly text back asking how he was and if she was taking him to the doctors.
2 hours pass and I get a text from her asking why I'm not bothered about him? I text her back telling her I replied and also send her a screenshot to prove. She starts up with the whole "you don't really care about him, you only care about yourself. Don't come on Friday"
This is despite sending her proof I did text back. She would have got the messages, she's just doing it to get a reaction.
So predictable.
I'm definitely thinking CSA and court action for this one.
The online calculator often gives a different figure than the one they end up using but its definitely worth doing for records etc.
Unless there has been claims of domestic abuse you're going to have to apply for mediation first, which is a an absolute joke according to most people as its none binding, though if you can afford a solicitor then they may find away around it.
It will take time but make sure you end up with a court order that is reasonable for both parties, if you're in a position to you can probably push for shared care meaning you'll have your son 50% of the time each week.
...I have quite a tough head on my shoulders but I have a feeling this is going to end up making me ill.
It's very hard going and I'm not going to lie, my situation ended up with me being suicidal several times (though I do suffer with clinical depression anyway) but if you feel you need help, seek it sooner rather than later!
Stop texting so much and use phone conversation instead. Texts allow miscommunication and also gives her time to consider a response at length, often with mean tendencies it would seem. Have an adult conversation on the phone, you can put her on the spot with poignant questions and also convey how much you do care about your child.
This unfortunately, and I mean absolutely no disrespect to Robocod, is bad advice in situations like these. You cannot record phone conversations without the other persons consent, much less submit them to court if things start going badly. My demonic ex tried to have me done for harrassment because I'd called her 3 times in one day in regards to my son being ill, came as a complete surprise to me as the conversations had been civil.
Text messages are the lesser of two evils and can be made available in court easily enough, if the only way you two are communicating is through them then you have a solid record of what's been said.
I hope I'm wrong my friend but you should prepare to go through the mill on this one, just stay strong and remember you are not alone!
