Been with girlfriend 22 years, got my ribs smashed in and ear nearly ripped off for not putting 5 tins of soup away.
The joys of life... lol
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Been with girlfriend 22 years, got my ribs smashed in and ear nearly ripped off for not putting 5 tins of soup away.
The joys of life... lol
You don't know what to do? Why are you even wasting precious seconds of your life thinking about this? The past is the past, block her, ignore her, never think of her again. No good can come of it.
No **** Sherlock!
But my daughter is a good kid and doing well so they just superficial wounds.
If I did not have my daughter, she would be kicked it the long grass and I would set fire to it.
No **** Sherlock!
But my daughter is a good kid and doing well so they just superficial wounds.
If I did not have my daughter, she would be kicked it the long grass and I would set fire to it.
This sounds like a healthy family life and example for your daughter.
I think he is joking, seems perfectly normal to me to get moaned at for the slightest thing
For example how many times have people booked time off work to do what they want then the other half finds out and you wake up with a list of jobs to do
That above is pretty much my life, I have all weekends off so I have lists of jobs on the weekends. I try blitz it in one day so iv got Sunday free but she's getting wise to this and giving me more. I need a new plan :')
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Hi everyone, I'm back again and I'm ready for the "I told you so" 
So everything was going very well until two weeks ago when previously mentioned person turns up and starts talking to me again. Anyway not being a "savvy" individual I proceed. Fast forward a few days and she goes down the road of I still love my ex again and I console her. This week she seems happy again and I continue chatting to her and she seems really bubbly only to drop a bomb on me this evening that she was going on a date tomorrow.
Naturally I'm miffed and say so and she goes down the road of "It hurts me too" and "I want you to be happy" and "I still love my ex". I'm upset so I just leave it to be told by her friend that I am being unfair and I should be happy for her.
Okay, go ahead. You all told me so and now, I'm done as she clearly doesn't feel the same way about me (This may be what I needed). I just wanted her to say she wasn't interested but she wouldn't and just kept saying she didn't want to loose me.
So right now I'm sitting down, being told I've been unfair by her friend and even her friend say's that I should move on so I am.
So everything was going very well until two weeks ago when previously mentioned person turns up and starts talking to me again. Anyway not being a "savvy" individual I proceed. Fast forward a few days and she goes down the road of I still love my ex again and I console her. This week she seems happy again and I continue chatting to her and she seems really bubbly only to drop a bomb on me this evening that she was going on a date tomorrow.
Naturally I'm miffed and say so and she goes down the road of "It hurts me too" and "I want you to be happy" and "I still love my ex". I'm upset so I just leave it to be told by her friend that I am being unfair and I should be happy for her.
Okay, go ahead. You all told me so and now, I'm done as she clearly doesn't feel the same way about me (This may be what I needed). I just wanted her to say she wasn't interested but she wouldn't and just kept saying she didn't want to loose me.
So right now I'm sitting down, being told I've been unfair by her friend and even her friend say's that I should move on so I am.
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£120 got me a Vibra-King from Ebay. Pretty much the best thing you can get any woman. Ever. And they were made back in the 50s, lol.
Needed a voltage convertor though.
Hi everyone, I'm back again and I'm ready for the "I told you so"
So everything was going very well until two weeks ago when previously mentioned person turns up and starts talking to me again. Anyway not being a "savvy" individual I proceed. Fast forward a few days and she goes down the road of I still love my ex again and I console her. This week she seems happy again and I continue chatting to her and she seems really bubbly only to drop a bomb on me this evening that she was going on a date tomorrow.
Naturally I'm miffed and say so and she goes down the road of "It hurts me too" and "I want you to be happy" and "I still love my ex". I'm upset so I just leave it to be told by her friend that I am being unfair and I should be happy for her.
Okay, go ahead. You all told me so and now, I'm done as she clearly doesn't feel the same way about me (This may be what I needed). I just wanted her to say she wasn't interested but she wouldn't and just kept saying she didn't want to loose me.
So right now I'm sitting down, being told I've been unfair by her friend and even her friend say's that I should move on so I am.
She's playing games. Cut her out of your life ASAP.
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I have done, I should listen to the advice from you guys more often
Feel like I should treat myself in the mean time though as other than this my week has been relatively good (Got to look on the positives right?)
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Yeah although her friend did say I should move on and find someone else better for me. Still life continues
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Horses for courses and all that jazz.
Actually read the whole thing and it would appear she's feeling trapped hence the behaviour. Some people just aren't cut out for relationships, married life, kids, mortgage, the yearly trip to Butlins. However, they get shamed into doing all that by friends (some that's secretly unhappy and trying to get others to make the same mistakes they did), pointing out that your chosen lifestyle is empty, shallow and you'll end up alone.
It even happens in this very thread sometimes, some idiot trying his very little hardest to shame you into HIS chosen lifestyle. There was a guy here a few months ago, can't remember his screen name now, harping on about how we'll all end up alone and snide remarks like that. I perused his posting history and I can unequivocally say that I would literally blow my brains out in the middle of a busy street if I had even a week of his life. No money, debt to his eye balls, crap menial job, lives in a rubbish northern hole of a town, late 30s with probably little hope of career improvement. I found his Facebook account and saw his partner. Think enlarged blowfish with the face of a camel. Each facet of his life is my worst nightmare. Yet he's obviously under the impression that we all should end up like that because that's what HE likes. I did wonder if he really is as happy as he claims to be as he was trying awfully hard to shame people for choosing differently. I think I know the answer to that
Look, some people can't function on their own and need a partner to help them steer the course of life. They need the chaos of kids, the warm fuzziness of a dirty home, kids parties, a nagging wife (or a happy wife), that's just how they function. My best friend is like that. He'd literally be lost in life without his girlfriend. I love going round there because I can feel all, I don't know, 'family' or whatever. But after a few hours with a kid running around and coming up to us asking stupid questions, random bouts of hysterical crying, mess and chaos everywhere, I'm ready to bail. Not the greatest of examples I admit, there'll obviously be families that's better trained
p), but I'd still feel trapped. And maybe that's the problem with the woman/wife mentioned in the letter. Just not cut out for all that jazz.
Hi everyone, I'm back again and I'm ready for the "I told you so"
So everything was going very well until two weeks ago when previously mentioned person turns up and starts talking to me again. Anyway not being a "savvy" individual I proceed. Fast forward a few days and she goes down the road of I still love my ex again and I console her. This week she seems happy again and I continue chatting to her and she seems really bubbly only to drop a bomb on me this evening that she was going on a date tomorrow.
Naturally I'm miffed and say so and she goes down the road of "It hurts me too" and "I want you to be happy" and "I still love my ex". I'm upset so I just leave it to be told by her friend that I am being unfair and I should be happy for her.
Okay, go ahead. You all told me so and now, I'm done as she clearly doesn't feel the same way about me (This may be what I needed). I just wanted her to say she wasn't interested but she wouldn't and just kept saying she didn't want to loose me.
So right now I'm sitting down, being told I've been unfair by her friend and even her friend say's that I should move on so I am.
Had you laughed in her face when she said that (like I would've done), you would've nailed her the same night and many nights after that. It doesn't hurt her at all because she has arms to fall into the next night. She tested you and you failed the test. Chalk it up and learn from it.
Women like that are utterly confused but get away with it by having a relatively high SMV, something they know all too well. The moment you call them on it they'll try whatever they can to exert that power over you too. There's already 1000s of little yapping lap dogs (males) available to them, but it's the one that don't even look at them that pique their interest. I've been dumped once after a date where she straight up told me that she doesn't want to see me again because 'I can't be controlled'. In other words, the whole date she was sizing me up, gauging for weak points and levers to pull on. Hey, at least she was honest about it. Sadly on that occasion I didn't get anything afterwards but a good chuckle on my way home
Don't give in to their childish crap games for 1 second. There's some good ones out there and that's who you want to find. In the mean time you can just play the players until you find the right one.
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I have more updates, got some comments today on how I really hurt her yesterday despite apologising to her yesterday. I've had enough now as I'd had a good day and didn't need this anymore so I just said I have done enough and offered enough but she just kept saying I'd hurt her and wouldn't understand how much it hurt (Clearly didn't understand how it affected me then). Left it there, I've had enough so I'm moving onHad you laughed in her face when she said that (like I would've done), you would've nailed her the same night and many nights after that. It doesn't hurt her at all because she has arms to fall into the next night. She tested you and you failed the test. Chalk it up and learn from it.
Women like that are utterly confused but get away with it by having a relatively high SMV, something they know all too well. The moment you call them on it they'll try whatever they can to exert that power over you too. There's already 1000s of little yapping lap dogs (males) available to them, but it's the one that don't even look at them that pique their interest. I've been dumped once after a date where she straight up told me that she doesn't want to see me again because 'I can't be controlled'. In other words, the whole date she was sizing me up, gauging for weak points and levers to pull on. Hey, at least she was honest about it. Sadly on that occasion I didn't get anything afterwards but a good chuckle on my way home
Don't give in to their childish crap games for 1 second. There's some good ones out there and that's who you want to find. In the mean time you can just play the players until you find the right one.
I have more updates, got some comments today on how I really hurt her yesterday despite apologising to her yesterday. I've had enough now as I'd had a good day and didn't need this anymore so I just said I have done enough and offered enough but she just kept saying I'd hurt her and wouldn't understand how much it hurt (Clearly didn't understand how it affected me then). Left it there, I've had enough so I'm moving on
Why are you apologising??? You did **** all wrong.
You can clearly do without **** teasers like that in your life.
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I have more updates, got some comments today on how I really hurt her yesterday despite apologising to her yesterday. I've had enough now as I'd had a good day and didn't need this anymore so I just said I have done enough and offered enough but she just kept saying I'd hurt her and wouldn't understand how much it hurt (Clearly didn't understand how it affected me then). Left it there, I've had enough so I'm moving on
She's playing games, so don't engage. It will drive her nuts, and make your life better.
You put up with all her crap and was nice to her because you held a torch for her. Now that torch has gone out and you can now see what a selfish, manipulative, awful person she is, you don't have to be nice to her at all. Be brutal, tell her she's gone too far and that you don't want her in your life in any way. You're done, don't waste your time.
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That's pretty much what I said as I've had enough of being messed about, just need to move forward now
Yeah, just something that is ingrained in me (Need to work on it to be honest)
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There's been more purchases for me from the new girl, I'm going to pay her for them and call it off, it's all a bit too much and I'm pretty sure now that it's not going to go anywhere long term.
It's been fun but I've already had the first bit of drama with her this Saturday night. I was out with friends, as was she on a separate outing but we ended up in the same nightclub. When she saw me I was chatting to an old school friend, this school friend and I go back 25 years, but because she's female I'm not allowed to talk to her apparently. She kicked off at me, I walked away as I don't want drama or any hassle.
In the morning there's a string of messages on my phone, blah blah blah, heartbroken etc etc - just CBA, I've known you three weeks, chill out!
It's been fun but I've already had the first bit of drama with her this Saturday night. I was out with friends, as was she on a separate outing but we ended up in the same nightclub. When she saw me I was chatting to an old school friend, this school friend and I go back 25 years, but because she's female I'm not allowed to talk to her apparently. She kicked off at me, I walked away as I don't want drama or any hassle.
In the morning there's a string of messages on my phone, blah blah blah, heartbroken etc etc - just CBA, I've known you three weeks, chill out!