I personally think it's just because I'm a ****.
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I personally think it's just because I'm a ****.
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thanks for the advice guys Ill drop her a message in a min!
if anyone has or is interested in aspergers i would give these two movies a shout where the main character have it. They portray whats it like in my head sometimes and how I act better than any book or leaflet I've read. The latter film might give the wrong impression though lol
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if anyone has or is interested in aspergers i would give these two movies a shout where the main character have it. They portray whats it like in my head sometimes and how I act better than any book or leaflet I've read. The latter film might give the wrong impression though lol
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Don't get too ahead of yourself, ignore some of the love Casanovas above 
Last thing you want is to make a move prematurely because you thought she wanted 'a good seeing to' and mess things up.
Definitely ask if she fancies the film and some grub afterwards though and who knows, maybe she she will invite you in again
or ask if she wants to come back to yours for a 'night cap'.
Last thing you want is to make a move prematurely because you thought she wanted 'a good seeing to' and mess things up.
Definitely ask if she fancies the film and some grub afterwards though and who knows, maybe she she will invite you in again
or ask if she wants to come back to yours for a 'night cap'.Wow just saw my last comments on this discussion, it's quite surreal moment when you realize that it was over a year ago I was seeing someone else and split up from my ex.
well things are going good, we are still together after a 6 months separation. Not heard from the other women after her little spout in January last I saw she was with someone a month after. To think I was living at home with the parents last year is quite weird whereas now we have our own place.
well things are going good, we are still together after a 6 months separation. Not heard from the other women after her little spout in January last I saw she was with someone a month after. To think I was living at home with the parents last year is quite weird whereas now we have our own place.
*sigh* why God always throws me a curve ball i will never know.
So anyway just back from a couple of weeks in thailand....on the second last day (yep
) i met probably "the One" (i know i know)....a thai lady i had been chatting to online previously. I've went out with thai women before (and women from many different cultures) so this isnt omg farang falls in love with thai lady generic 101 fail.
Ive been around the block a few times and apart from my first love this is at least the same level. So im pretty ****ed at myself.
We have talked about skype and me visiting again in January for another couple of weeks (finances withstanding). So the plan is just to holiday there regularly and see how things go but i know long term as a foreigner the jobs market is likely to be english teacher (again). Unfortunately this happens just as i plan to start a 4 year networking degree course in UK so now im not 100% sure what to do. I already have teaching qualifications to teach abroad (degree and celta) however i cant say that i wholly love it whereas a networking job would yield higher wages as well in the long run. But can you do this kind of work as a foreigner in thailand? Anyone been in a same kind of boat? Or is this boat my own kind of crazy?
So anyway just back from a couple of weeks in thailand....on the second last day (yep
) i met probably "the One" (i know i know)....a thai lady i had been chatting to online previously. I've went out with thai women before (and women from many different cultures) so this isnt omg farang falls in love with thai lady generic 101 fail. Ive been around the block a few times and apart from my first love this is at least the same level. So im pretty ****ed at myself.
We have talked about skype and me visiting again in January for another couple of weeks (finances withstanding). So the plan is just to holiday there regularly and see how things go but i know long term as a foreigner the jobs market is likely to be english teacher (again). Unfortunately this happens just as i plan to start a 4 year networking degree course in UK so now im not 100% sure what to do. I already have teaching qualifications to teach abroad (degree and celta) however i cant say that i wholly love it whereas a networking job would yield higher wages as well in the long run. But can you do this kind of work as a foreigner in thailand? Anyone been in a same kind of boat? Or is this boat my own kind of crazy?
Totally agree with this, no rush to settle down.
I'm an antisocial mofo and just use internet dating and in the year i've been single i've had plenty of matches through tinder and had a nice number message me first on pof. On the dates i've had a few have said it's so annoying with the amount of thirsty guys messaging trying to get with them. They also say 85% of them just want a one nighter
Really good looking girls hardly ever make any effort and like some of my friends will mostly always go for a guy with, and i quote 'muscles and tattoos'. lol then they'll cry when he treats them bad as they've purely gone on looks and jumped straight into bed without getting to know the dude.
But anyhoo, going on a study date today with an absolute beauty! She's got uni essays to write so i said we can nandos and smash through her work
*sigh* why God always throws me a curve ball i will never know.
So anyway just back from a couple of weeks in thailand....on the second last day (yep
Ive been around the block a few times and apart from my first love this is at least the same level. So im pretty ****ed at myself.
We have talked about skype and me visiting again in January for another couple of weeks (finances withstanding). So the plan is just to holiday there regularly and see how things go but i know long term as a foreigner the jobs market is likely to be english teacher (again). Unfortunately this happens just as i plan to start a 4 year networking degree course in UK so now im not 100% sure what to do. I already have teaching qualifications to teach abroad (degree and celta) however i cant say that i wholly love it whereas a networking job would yield higher wages as well in the long run. But can you do this kind of work as a foreigner in thailand? Anyone been in a same kind of boat? Or is this boat my own kind of crazy?
If you have nothing routing you to the ground, why not move abroad for a while and do the course online. I know Cisco do online networking courses and they're very well respected and recognised. Or just move her over on a tourism/working visa and keep her on lockdown.
Asian girls are still on my to do list, but i'll save that for my local brothel.
She had a farang ex boyfriend and has visited the UK before but wont move to here as its too cold. It will be hard to do the degree online as well as teaching (ive taught before and it consumes a lot of time).
My plan is to save money and go for holidays to thailand to see her and see how we get on. If it turns out well i'll start handing out cvs etc and planning to get an apartment in Bangkok. Ive sorta been in this position before as i sold all my stuff to go and live in Taiwan, albeit there wasnt a woman involved. I like Bangkok and Thailand more than Taiwan tbh. Im getting on 40 now damnit (though shes actually older lol 45).... to quote Mr Murtaugh.....
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tried that and decades later Mrs Surfer hasnt appeared....just possibly might have appeared now ....just on the other side of the planet haha
It is depressing the **** outta me right now tho.
*sigh* why God always throws me a curve ball i will never know.
So anyway just back from a couple of weeks in thailand....on the second last day (yep
Ive been around the block a few times and apart from my first love this is at least the same level. So im pretty ****ed at myself.
We have talked about skype and me visiting again in January for another couple of weeks (finances withstanding). So the plan is just to holiday there regularly and see how things go but i know long term as a foreigner the jobs market is likely to be english teacher (again). Unfortunately this happens just as i plan to start a 4 year networking degree course in UK so now im not 100% sure what to do. I already have teaching qualifications to teach abroad (degree and celta) however i cant say that i wholly love it whereas a networking job would yield higher wages as well in the long run. But can you do this kind of work as a foreigner in thailand? Anyone been in a same kind of boat? Or is this boat my own kind of crazy?
I would do the degree in the UK and see how it goes with the woman in Thailand. But I would never alter my education plans just to be with someone. If you can study your networking degree course in Thailand then great! But dont do it because of her. If it doesn't work out then you might end up in Thailand miserable and that could distract you from your studying.
The last May day bank holiday I took a weekend break to Budapest. I met a lovely women from Serbia. We hit it off well and I spend my last day in Budapest just chilling and getting to know each other. I gave her my email address as I don't used social networking and never thought I see her again, holiday romance and all that rubbish. 6 months on, I have visited her twice in Serbia and planning to go again soon. We keep in touch and talk nearly everyday on WhatsApp.
I am currently studying to get my Windows 10 certs and planning to move from the UK in 2 to 3 years time or sooner. Which ever country I end up, I don't know. Hopefully she will be able to come along with me no matter where I end up moving to. As visa's for the UK is a pain in the bum and she has already had her UK visiting visa rejected, so I told her not to waste another £90 apply again and I happily visit her every 2 months. Flights are not too expensive and its only 4 hours flight time. But I am not moving because of her and I am not moving to Serbia either.
I had a plan before I met her and I am going to stick to it. I suggest you do the same.
I would do the degree in the UK and see how it goes with the woman in Thailand. But I would never alter my education plans just to be with someone. If you can study your networking degree course in Thailand then great! But dont do it because of her. If it doesn't work out then you might end up in Thailand miserable and that could distract you from your studying.
The last May day bank holiday I took a weekend break to Budapest. I met a lovely women from Serbia. We hit it off well and I spend my last day in Budapest just chilling and getting to know each other. I gave her my email address as I don't used social networking and never thought I see her again, holiday romance and all that rubbish. 6 months on, I have visited her twice in Serbia and planning to go again soon. We keep in touch and talk nearly everyday on WhatsApp.
I am currently studying to get my Windows 10 certs and planning to move from the UK in 2 to 3 years time or sooner. Which ever country I end up, I don't know. Hopefully she will be able to come along with me no matter where I end up moving to. As visa's for the UK is a pain in the bum and she has already had her UK visiting visa rejected, so I told her not to waste another £90 apply again and I happily visit her every 2 months. Flights are not too expensive and its only 4 hours flight time. But I am not moving because of her and I am not moving to Serbia either.
I had a plan before I met her and I am going to stick to it. I suggest you do the same.
Thanks very helpful post bud
But I'm sure you know yourself there is no such thing as 'the one'. There are just many, many suitors who you will match with on some level or another. There will be thousands of suitable women who will like similar things to you and get along with your personality. If you really have gone decades of your life still thinking that there is a 'one' then I'm quite surprised by that. It's a wonderful outlook, but realism dictates otherwise. The fact of the matter is, with so many billion women in the world, there will be several others that are just like this Thai girl, or if not similar.
Indeed, even though im very fussy I know there are lots of potential girls I could match with. Yes they would and are hard to find as not usually the sort to Internet date, and I like geeky types, and im very lucky to have the girl in with now, but I wouldn't put big big plans off for holiday romances.
Good luck what ever you decide.
I agree with your logic. But ive not exactly been staying at home moping and doing knitting patterns here in the UK lol I force myself to be very social etc and just about every gf ive had here have been all kinds of crazy in one way or another. This is the first (maybe 2nd) woman (not gonna say of how many haha) who has managed to grab my attention from the first second...and ive met and chatted with a fair amount.
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Well I haven't visited London yet, but she did come to Guernsey this weekend, what have I gotten myself in to here! Looking likely that I'll head to London the weekend either of the 9th or 16th December.
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Two short sentences, enough to completely destroy me right now. And now I have to go to work, knowing I'll see her later. What have I done..
Were you dating when she said this or did you confess your love so to speak to a friend?