The OcUK Relationship Counselling and Hugs Thread

rdb2012 · 22 Feb 2017 at 20:00

So I started speaking to this girl, which I know through friends/family. I don't know much about her, she's very slow at replying, but she does end up replying at the end. She claims, she's busy with work but I don't really text much unless she replies.

Today, I asked her for first date to go for dinner. Was that a bad idea - bearing in mind I have met the girl before but I don't know much about her. She said yes to do something, but no reply yet regarding going for dinner.

Should I have just asked for simple coffee date?

Raymond Lin · 22 Feb 2017 at 20:03

edit - contain swear word.

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Why Modern Dating Makes Me Want To Punch Myself In The Throat

McBain · 22 Feb 2017 at 20:04

Her reply will probably give you your answer.

Sliver · 22 Feb 2017 at 20:10

rdb2012 said:
Today, I asked her for first date to go for dinner. Was that a bad idea?

Shy boys get no sweets. Asking her out was the right move. Good luck.

R.O.S.S.I · 22 Feb 2017 at 20:20

So I got home tonight and she isn't here. She's left a note telling me she has made me some breakfast, portioned some food into meals in the fridge for me and to make sure I'm eating ok. Then she said to let her know when I want her to come round to sort everything.

jsmoke · 22 Feb 2017 at 20:24

rdb2012 said:
So I started speaking to this girl, which I know through friends/family. I don't know much about her, she's very slow at replying, but she does end up replying at the end. She claims, she's busy with work but I don't really text much unless she replies.

Today, I asked her for first date to go for dinner. Was that a bad idea - bearing in mind I have met the girl before but I don't know much about her. She said yes to do something, but no reply yet regarding going for dinner.

Should I have just asked for simple coffee date?

Sound exciting, start of a new life maybe.

Guest2 · 22 Feb 2017 at 20:39

I have a friend who i've known for a couple of years and recently started sleeping with. It's good (soooo good) but we agreed from the start it was just going to be a bit of fun as we live at opposite ends of the county (almost)

We have been texting each other in between a few visits (pictures and stuff

). We seem to have reversed roles as I think I am (or have) fallen for her. Is it usual to wake up at 3:30am thinking about someone and thinking about them during the day more often than you would like?

I have previously slept with a few girls but they have been one night stands or holiday things that only lasted a day or 2. This one I have liked and been friends with for a couple of years. We have agreed a couple more visits then a proposed end date so we can start dating (and sleeping) with other people, she is already dating by the sounds of it and I am messaging someone but not yet met.

Can long distance relationships work somehow? I have a friend who suddenly married a girl living in... Vancouver! How the hell that works god only knows

Sliver · 22 Feb 2017 at 20:43

Hate to be a Debbie downer but this is destined to fail. You say you've fallen for her? Better un-fall as she will be moving on soon enough as she has already said. Long distance relationships rarely work out.

VincentHanna · 22 Feb 2017 at 20:44

Guest2 said:
Can long distance relationships work somehow?

We have agreed a couple more visits then a proposed end date so we can start dating (and sleeping) with other people, she is already dating by the sounds of it and I am messaging someone but not yet met.

Not if she's already seeing other men!

[FnG]magnolia · 22 Feb 2017 at 20:47

Good things that will come from this situation: none.

Rannoch · 22 Feb 2017 at 20:48

"she is already dating" :rolleyes:

Minstadave · 22 Feb 2017 at 20:50

This will go well!

Maverick2332 · 22 Feb 2017 at 20:57

Sounds like she's already moving on, the best thing would be to do the same...

Rannoch · 22 Feb 2017 at 20:59

If you can be 'f-buddies' without the emotional attachment then go for that.

Guest2 · 22 Feb 2017 at 21:00

It's going well as i'm getting getting some at least. Think i just need to man up and come to terms with the fact long term won't work and move to someone else as she has/is

Rannoch · 22 Feb 2017 at 21:02

If you can get some without much effort then it's a result

aardvark · 22 Feb 2017 at 21:04

do you even have to ask - of course it isn't going to work, in fact its not working already if she is seeing someone else.

Raymond Lin · 22 Feb 2017 at 21:04

rdb2012 · 22 Feb 2017 at 21:13

jsmoke said:
Sound exciting, start of a new life maybe.

Hope so, just broke up with my ex

so I am hoping to settle down now and i am hoping this could be the one! Will wait and see.

Rannoch · 22 Feb 2017 at 21:17

R.O.S.S.I said:
So I got home tonight and she isn't here. She's left a note telling me she has made me some breakfast, portioned some food into meals in the fridge for me and to make sure I'm eating ok. Then she said to let her know when I want her to come round to sort everything.

Bin it and get down the boozer, ignore her calls and texts.