That's what I'm worried about myself, I'm 34 and wouldn't mind kids down the line, age is not on my side. If things go well with this 23 year old and she gets bored in 7 etc years and finishes with me, I'd be in my 40s! That is what I don't want.
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You sound like me over thinking. On the other hand that could happen with anyone or do you just not meet anyone and never have kids!
I think I'm exactly the same but its revolves around anxiety. I must remember I'm not the only one!
I suffer it too, I just try and keep myself occupied, do things with friends, go to the gym.
Also on number of dates, I think Gloucester is crap for it, but that's probably because I don't go in Liquid.
Bumble?
Tinder actually. Speaking with quite a few across Bumble and Tinder though. She doesn't seem like a head case, we have good regular chats, seems interested/interesting, sounds like she has her head screwed on and I find her attractive so just have to see how it goes. Not looking to dive into any kind of relationship as you would expect but I need to get myself back out there and rebuild my confidence and self-esteem at the very least!
100%, but there is no getting away from the fact it is a nerve wracking thing to get back into.
Just have to see what happens really!
Very true, I'm past the point of being nervous though, I just go in with a very open mind.
I'm actually more concerned about internet psycho hose beasts having my number, name etc. I run a Ltd company so you can find out my home address from phone number, I've actually thought about getting a second phone for this reason!
I'm actually more concerned about internet psycho hose beasts having my number, name etc. I run a Ltd company so you can find out my home address from phone number, I've actually thought about getting a second phone for this reason!
2 years but only really seen her a week a year
It's a very sensible idea, especially in your case if they can hunt down your home address.
Yeh, that's what I am doing, mind = wide open! At the end of the day its the same situation for women. I imagine the majority have the same anxieties and apprehensions as men do so you've just gotta roll with it and try and have fun!
Haha, ive not come across any psycho's (yet), its also not hard for people to find you via Facebook through your mobile number!
Yeah that's how you'd do it, search for my number on Faceache and you get my name, google the name and you find companies house data.
I could turn off that number search link but that's not the point.
As I said before I'm slowly giving up on the idea, if this 23 year old turns into nothing I'll end up being some old single weirdo with a dog that plays too much computer games who goes to the gym, goes away with friends for drinking events and meet someone naturally.
As someone said earlier, i think you're over-thinking things too much. You could still be a dad in late thirties, early forties. I think the problem is my generation seems to have started having kids in their early twenties, and by the time you're in your thirties, you almost feel as if it's now too late.
Yup, everyone's nervous on a first date. With online dating first dates, I prefer something low stress like a coffee or a drink. I figure the main point is just to see if you hit it off in person. The second date can be more involved once you've got past the 'oh yeah, there's chemistry' stage. I've had too many first dates where the guy appears to be unable to hold a conversation.
Yup, everyone's nervous on a first date. With online dating first dates, I prefer something low stress like a coffee or a drink. I figure the main point is just to see if you hit it off in person. The second date can be more involved once you've got past the 'oh yeah, there's chemistry' stage. I've had too many first dates where the guy appears to be unable to hold a conversation.
Yeh we're just going to go to a cocktail bar in town and go from there.
Wont be a late thing as we both have work the next day, relying on public transport to get us home and most likely wont be getting there till a touch later due to work etc.
If you really want to be with someone then you have to go out and look for it. No matter how many times you try.
Not everyone has the ability to sit there and have people walk up to them showing interest.....unless you are female in most cases.
No, what I mean is that if you go out looking for a gf/one night etc, then usually it does not come off. If you go out with some mates for a catch up, cinema and beer after then at least in my experience I have had much better luck.
Previous 4/5 girls that I have met were all unexpected and just kind of happened.
I completely agree with that, my past relationships have come from not looking at all but ive never done online dating before so this could work o