Overs 40's : Are you Happy with your lot?

easyrider said:
You can still travel when 40!

I plan to buy a transit van and spend my holidays off work half terms, 7 weeks off in summer to drive about Europe playing my guitar meeting people and chilling with my collie dog.

Rather than rotting at home watching **** Marvel fodder and playing games killing time...

I need to use the time I get off as teacher to better use....

Leave work on one Friday before half term, get the ferry from Hull over to Rotterdam and hit Germany for a week etc...

Maybe fall in love with a German girl...English women suck :p
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Bohemian teacher holidays are soooo much more fulfilling than ant man :)
 
/puts up hand

So, i'm almost 44 and in a pretty good place at the moment, but some parts are crap....

Great job pays very well, is a challenge, but I enjoy most / some of the time and am paid well over what I think I'm worth

Recently moved to our "forever," house but needs a substantial amount of work doing to it

I have two fantastic daughters I love with every fibre of my being and a wife who is not very well and in for a potentially life changing op next week

I honestly feel nothing substantially different to me 20 years ago and part of me feels no different to the younger me, part of me sometimes feels like an old man, in should stop drinking so much cycle more ...

Enjoy and love life, make what you want from it and plough on with what you want to do ;)
 
40 next year, but I'm short (5' 4"), disabled (not road legal either), can't have kids for genetic reasons. No woman wants a short guy who can't drive and can't have kids. So it's gameover as it is until whatever unfolds in my next life.
 
Pawnless Endgame said:
40 next year, but I'm short (5' 4"), disabled (not road legal either), can't have kids for genetic reasons. No woman wants a short guy who can't drive and can't have kids. So it's gameover as it is until whatever unfolds in my next life.
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Sorry to pour scorn on a bad lot but there is no next life. You have to make do with this one. You don't need to worry though, just stay positive and you'll enjoy what time you have.
 
I'm doing ok (46 now with a nice house by the sea, flash car, family + cats) considering I got expelled from school @ 15 :S
I get to play my games and drink beer which would have been a life goal @ 15 lol
I have a good work life balance and have watched my daughter grow to become a beautiful young lady, her indoors keeps me presentable to the world and looks after me I think i'm doing fine :)
 
Rotty said:
my younger brother put his spare cash into pension and property and now owns about 6 houses so will be fine when he retires

I've spent mine on cars, holidays and alcohol :p
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And wasted the rest? :)

I'm over 40 and content with my lot. Yes, my health is flawed and will only get worse. Yes, my job is crap. Yes, I am poor. Yes, I am about 2/3rds dead (I'm nearly 50 and it's unlikely I'll live much past 70). But I've nearly paid off my mortgage (less than 5 years to go!), I have no other debts at all and every month I spend less than I get paid. Not much less, but less. As Charles Dickens had one of his characters say: "Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure nineteen six, result happiness. Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure twenty pound ought and six, result misery." I know that I can cover likely uninsured emergencies (like household appliances failing) without any problems and that's a good position for a peasant to be in. I'm sure that many people on these forums would regard having only £2000 in spare money as being in dire straits and would worry if they were in that position, but for someone in my position it's splendid and helps me sleep easier. That didn't happen until I was past 40, but that's because it took me a long time (and then lots of drugs and therapy) to get my head straight and then more time and work to pay off the debts I'd ran up. It wasn't about my age, not really. "Life begins at 40" is something made up to make people feel less bad when they're forced to really face the fact that they are deteriorating and will die.
 
Pawnless Endgame said:
40 next year, but I'm short (5' 4"), disabled (not road legal either), can't have kids for genetic reasons. No woman wants a short guy who can't drive and can't have kids. So it's gameover as it is until whatever unfolds in my next life.
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Sorry to hear about your challenges - but you should make of this life what you can, next comes nothing.
 
Sliver said:
Sorry to pour scorn on a bad lot but there is no next life. You have to make do with this one. You don't need to worry though, just stay positive and you'll enjoy what time you have.
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I believe that the planet recycles itself. The dead will re-manifest. I say 'manifest' instead of soul, as not to make it a religious debate. I don't care much for religion.
 
Angilion said:
I've nearly paid off my mortgage (less than 5 years to go!)
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This is one thing I wish I'd tried harder at. I'm only 3 years into my mortgage, which at my age isn't good. I think that's part of the problem of living in London though, you need a pretty decent wedge of cash to buy. Having said that, if I was more driven by it at an earlier age, I guess I probably could have. The flip side is I would have lived in smaller houses/flats for the last 20 years and probably had a lot less disposable income.
 
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