Was I right to respond the way I did?

JamesJoanne said:
I did give the full story. I just said in my txt that she could just tell me shes not interested and not lie just to avoid me. Although this is coming on strong, I don't think it is entirely unjustifiable given the circumstances
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In the future rather than accuse of lying say they can feel free to be honest with you.

It makes a big difference.
 
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I've got to ask, if the first date didn't go well anyway, you didn't think she was into you, then why on earth did you even want to set up a second date?

That aside, it is hardly uncommon for people to have plans already for the immediate weekend coming - plenty of people value their weekends and will try to maximise the use of them to the point where if they were to be asked during the week to do something that weekend then they'd quite likely have to cancel other commitments in order to do so. It certainly isn't grounds to call someone a liar.

Anyway, I'd try not to overthink it, it is one date that didn't work out out of potentially endless dates you could have from that site.
 
adidan said:
In the future rather than accuse of lying say they can feel free to be honest with you.

It makes a big difference.
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I dunno, that is basically implying the same thing and I think it would be better to just not accuse someone of lying at all (whether directly or by implication) when there aren't really any grounds for it.

The fact she has plans for the weekend/is meeting a friend is hardly suspect.
 
TBH OP sounds like you're a real keeper, she's certainly missing out :eek:

Seriously though no need to come on so strong as it just seems desperate and that is not a trait that women find attractive.
 
Diddums said:
Really? You have to ask?

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Perhaps true :D

But there are plenty more Polish girls in the UK (or indeed Poland if he is inclined to change his tinder location and get ready to book a budget flight for a weekend - since he's seemingly free now)
 
dowie said:
Perhaps true :D

But there are plenty more Polish girls in the UK (or indeed Poland if he is inclined to change his tinder location and get ready to book a budget flight for a weekend - since he's seemingly free now)
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He's got this to compete with in Poland though:

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I think you're overacting if I'm being honest. You just need accept that you're not compatible and move on. Some people just aren't as interactive in conversation or as social as others, it's just who they are. Maybe that's partly why they are on POF in the first place.

The problem is social media has encouraged "social avoidance" which I personally find quite ignorant. The important thing is to balance real life with that online.
 
If she didn't want to go on a second date at the weekend then you should have just left her on the back burner and found someone else on PoF to date at the weekend. If she really did like you then she would have contacted you next week for a second date or not have contacted you at all. No need to get rude by calling her a liar etc as that won't get you anywhere.
 
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