Was I right to respond the way I did?

JamesJoanne said:
Was just curious how far she would go.
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I've been in your position before. I can tell you from experience, when you meet that special person you'll wonder why you wasted your energy overthinking about this girl.

I'm not a guy who as dated many girls. I know some guys go through 100's of girlfriends per year. I guess I'm the slow burner type of guy, like I suspect you are. But I agree with the theory that we have to meet many women before we meet the right one. If things don't click within the first 10 minutes of the date (click meaning both of you are relaxed and mirroring each other i.e. laughing together) then nothing is probably going to happen. I tend switch modes and just enjoy the date for what it is, and then move on. If she doesn't like you in that way, or you don't like a girl that way then there isn't much that can be done. Better to save up your energy and try for someone else. At least you got a date out of her :)

Women are as different as men. What turns one woman off about you will turn another woman on. It's not a judgement on you that you both didnt click. I've noticed people rarely will come out and say "i'm not interested in you". If I was you I'd be lining up as many dates as possible. You aren't married to these women so enjoy the dates for what they are. If a date doesn't go well then just treat it as a learning experience and move on.
 
Frankly, your date and subsequent experience sounds like almost every internet date when the other party isn't interested. You've now solidified her opinion of you so it's time to move on

Get used to using the phrase "NEXT" and stop over thinking it.
 
dowie said:
Perhaps true :D

But there are plenty more Polish girls in the UK (or indeed Poland if he is inclined to change his tinder location and get ready to book a budget flight for a weekend - since he's seemingly free now)
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I’d never find myself in the OPs position, as aside from being happily married, if I couldn’t snag a woman the old fashioned way, I’d give up, I could never see myself online dating, certainly not at my age.
However, from my one and only experience with a Polish girl, years ago, which turned into a sometimes magical, sometimes terrifying 8 year helter-skelter ride, culminating in her stabbing me, (only half inch deep, just blood, no damage), because she thought I had designs on her sister, had I been him, I would played it a tad cooler than that, she could have been the best thing that ever happened to him.
 
Ayahuasca said:
Chad is ploughing her right now via 1 message to her on tinder, whilst you keep checking if she's read your WhatsApp messages like an autist. Jesus Christ, just don't bother dating man, at least until you've sorted your own head out.
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And that's because chad isn't bothered that she didn't tell him loads of things about her or that they didn't have some deep conversation on the first date :D

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if she didn't ask anything about you, that probably means she's not interested in you, especially as she never made any effort to contact you. When a lady likes you, she will let you know.

also, my bro is married to a polish girl, and i have met a fair few of them through her, they tend to like very masculine men.
 
Efour said:
Jesus wept. Anyone posted forever alone.gif ?

How can people be so socially inept. I pity you.
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It's not really socially inept, OP had already decided he didn't like her, why does it matter what he said? It would be inept if he was trying to get a second date and then accused her of being a liar, but it didn't matter
 
She wasn't interested.

End of. Although I don't see what you said as super unreasonable... it's easy. You don't want to meet up again just be forward say no and move on this isn't the schoolyard.

Edit: The whole stop lying bit though... yeah bit far.
 
If she irritated you on the first date, why would you want another one and then get so irritated that her schedule didn't match yours.

Calling her a liar is very unfair.
 
I know someone who is in a senior work role,sensible, methodical, etc etc but does same thing in dating. Needless to say they aren't successful in dating.
Completly overreacts to something that is completely reasonable.
You would never think this person would behave that way if you knew them. It's a complete turn off. You have done exactly what he does.

Seems like you werent really interested anyway (she seemed uninterested) but still wanted another date.

Seems like you are too keen/intense. Its one of the dating 101 rules to not be too keen.
Also, to make a thread about someone you only had one date with screams over keen. You shouldn't be affected by it. If You are, you probably aren't cut out for Internet dating.
 
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