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@subbytna tagged mate, after reading back a few pages. It’s been a rough ride for us this year. Found out wife pregnant earlier this year, first check indicated twins and possible co-joined (Siamese). More in-depth check revealed mono mono twins (same sac), so big risk of cord entanglement etc. For months several visits a week to hospital for ultrasound scans and ctg (heart rate). DurIng one of those checks a heart deceleration with one twin meant hospital transfer by helicopter at midnight, further checks and twins delivered by c section 5 days later, delivered at 31 weeks. Several weeks in hospital, lots of checks, but now I happy to say my beautiful, healthy, twin girl little heroes have been home 6 weeks. I adore them to bits.
Twins though!! My goodness, adorable as they are it’s hard work. Wife and I exhausted, if it’s not twin that needs a nappy change or soothing it’s the other, there is no respite. The wife and I are having moments were we can’t stand each other, purely due to tiredness, and we’re hanging on for milestones where they start sleeping better/through the night.
Never known anything as tiring but rewarding! Support from dads of twins welcome!
Happy days glad babies are doing well now. Must have ben a scare for you for sure. Twins are rewarding but the first year is BRUTAL. Absolutely brutal. I didn't enjoy the first year as I was destroyed by tiredness. I hear new parents of single babies complain they are tired and I can't help but laugh at them. They have no idea what tiredness is until they have twins or triplets. The 2nd year things settle down and they don't become easier, things become "different"
When they sleep through the night, you'll feel like after 8 hours sleep you'll be able to run a marathon, just wait and see what I mean. It'll happen and you'll smile when you remember this post
The phrase you're looking for is one I use as it's really the only word that accurately describes things....relentless!Wife and I exhausted, if it’s not twin that needs a nappy change or soothing it’s the other, there is no respite.
Finding a person to baby sit is also almost non existent when you have twins, 1 baby no worries....2, " Sorry I'm washing my hair that night" time
I can't stress enough how important it is to get you and your lady, some "us time" Even an hour for a walk together. Talk to her and make sure you're communicating a lot. If you don't, twins can break a marriage, through stress. Keep at it. Your wife might not want any nookie due to tiredness, accept it and just wait. I was over 6 months after the boys were born before I got any action. Fairly sure then it was only out of pity for me
If you REALLY want brownie points, tell her to go out with a friend, even for a coffee and you keep an eye on the babies. Daunting yes but once you do it, you'll not think it daunting at all in future.
Also while I remember, take it in turns to "have a different baby" each night and swap the next night, so that one baby doesn't get too attached to one parent.
Babies cry, as long as they aren't in danger, don't worry if one is crying while you're changing the others nappy. Crying baby will survive and be ok if you have to tend to the other one for a few mins. Don't think "baby is crying and I can't sort her out as I'm dealing with this one, I'm a bad dad" or any of that guff. Twin dads are superheroes, even if I say so myself
Buy boxes of wipes, yes boxes, not packs of wipes, boxes. When you're going through 10-20 nappies a day, wipes are a miracle for all scenarios. From baby's bums to wiping puke from the floor to wiping puke off yourself to cleaning the kitchen worktop when you spill formula milk.
Feel free to bounce me a trust message via email if you want to keep in touch and have a shoulder to give off to I know EXACTLY what you're going through and all help, even if it's just an ear, is welcome.