you didn't ask the father did you?

Skidder · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:38

I did. It's just a tradition. If you think one tradition is worth observing you may as well go the whole nine yards.

Skidder · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:39

Irish_Tom said:
about my feelings towards her.

Sex wise? Or emotionally? Sounds cringey. Would probably have been easier just to ask.

kaiowas · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:39

Ask the father? I didn't even ask my wife properly

It was more of a (drunken) conversation (in a tent at a car show) that drifted towards a conclusion that we should probably get married rather than a proposal.

We don't tend to do tradition for tradition sake (xmas dinner here is steak and chips), the wedding itself was very low key with minimal guests (Our parents plus my brother and his other half only) and anyone not invited didnt even know it was happening.

LizardKing · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:41

Nope! they lived 200 miles away at the time and i wouldn't have felt comfortable just ringing him out of the blue. Im not one for tradition!

Also i didnt do the whole proposal either, it was much like Kaiowas, less the tent and car show

something daft already!! · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:42

It is a common courtesy to ask. Rude not to IMO.

Ayahuasca · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:42

Marriage in 2019 lul.

In all seriousness I’d ask if it wasn’t too much of a hassle, not living hundreds or thousands of miles away or you already know he’s a complete arse etc etc.

D.P. · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:44

Yes I asked, down to respect and tradition. My father in Law is very traditional so he greatly appreciated it. Of course his answer would be entirely irrelevant.

Diddums · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:45

27 sheep that woman cost me.

robfosters · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:49

If you’re gonna ask, best to knock her up first. Makes it harder for him to say no.

CircleFaust · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:51

the thought of it makes my skin crawl
an awkward and embarrassing tradition in this day and age if you ask me

why would you feel disrespected as a father out of interest ? just because of the tradition

Ayahuasca · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:51

robfosters said:
If you’re gonna ask, best to knock her up first. Makes it harder for him to say no.

Easier and cheaper just knocking him out to assert dominance.

d_brennen · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:52

Yes, over beers. He had been asking when I was going to take her off his hands for at least 2 years prior, which helped

robgmun · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:54

I'm as old fashioned as it gets but i didn't either time.

robfosters · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:54

d_brennen said:
Yes, over beers. He had been asking when I was going to take her off his hands for at least 2 years prior, which helped

Why was he so keen to get rid of her?

d_brennen · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:56

robfosters said:
Why was he so keen to get rid of her?

In a friendly jovial manner, you know, how humans interact IRL. Try it sometime, it's not scary

cainer · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:56

yes i asked her father first, but i didnt find it hard to do as ive known my brother since birth

robfosters · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:57

d_brennen said:
In a friendly jovial manner, you know, how humans interact IRL. Try it sometime, it's not scary

Ooooooh!

Ayahuasca · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:57

d_brennen said:
In a friendly jovial manner, you know, how humans interact IRL. Try it sometime, it's not scary

I thought it was a fair question tbh, there are plenty of parents who push their daughters to get married to someone successful/loaded for example even if they know very little about who they’re marrying. It’s an illusionary status bump for them as well.

Housey · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:58

I told, I didn't ask.

Shawreyboy · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:59

Yes, I did. Asked her dad at 23:30 on NYE and he gave me his good graces (if he said no then I wouldn't have asked), promptly asked the now Mrs Shawrey to be at 00:00 with Fireworks in the garden going off in front of her whole family and friends. Needless to say she accepted.

She was in a previously abusive and controlling marriage that she eventually had the strength to walk away from and it never asked the father for her hand in marriage so with that in mind I duly followed the age old tradition.

Shawrey