Does anyone else have no friends?

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It is just life I guess people do what seemed right at the time.

I often wonder how oblivious or not the partner is in those cases when someone reaches that point in their life where the conviction has gone and they realise the future of their current path isn't where they want to be, etc. despite most social nuances being lost to me I seem to be highly attune to the little signs when someone's relationship has got to that stage that no one else seems to see.
 
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I have so many friends who are starting from scratch in their 40s and 50s because they put their dick in the wrong person. It's depressing :D

I'm in that age bracket and now i'm thinking what the hell did I do most of my life has gone, When I met her she was 18 and I was 22. Something else I learnt is never to sleep with anyone when you still haven't got over the last person.
 
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My advice don't have a crazy life when you are young and don't get involved with a bit of a mixed up person, My problem was I got drunk one night and had sex with someone I didn't really know and bang she was pregnant. My life ended from that point. Now 18 years later I have to start fresh.

.....and I'd be surprised if anyone in that position wouldn't have filled their boots, I know I would :D
 
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.....and I'd be surprised if anyone in that position wouldn't have filled their boots, I know I would :D

I never did. I probably missed out on a lot of fun, but the fear of pregnancy and being trapped was the more powerful emotion!

Being trapped (not just by young pregnancy) is one of my biggest fears. And still the main reason I don't want kids
 
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I never did. I probably missed out on a lot of fun, but the fear of pregnancy and being trapped was the more powerful emotion!

Being trapped (not just by young pregnancy) is one of my biggest fears. And still the main reason I don't want kids

You've a far stronger will than most then, a few beers and the chance of naked wimin, kryptonite :D
 
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You've a far stronger will than most then, a few beers and the chance of naked wimin, kryptonite :D

Its annoying. I'm happy to jump out a plane and do a sky dive, but sleeping with someone random? Nope. But the risk of life changing event is much more likely with the latter. Damn analytical brain!
Like I have a constant tug of war with heart and head!
 
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I have a very small group of people. I don't have "lads night out" or anything like that and never have done. It's usually go for a pint with one friend or go to a gig with another, etc.
 
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Yup I can relate to this thread & that Ceo fella & his video.
Business owner here. Lots of staff & building peeps, plumbers, leccy's who are all self employed & in a similar position that I work with & have done for many years.

Although I have a crack with them in my work time I purposely keep a professional distance. A small business owner could be lonely.

Luckily I hate socialising out of work, detest crowds, so I'm a pig in muck on my own.:)
Kids & married btw.
 
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I think this is exactly it.

I've noticed on facebook that when a guy gets with a girl, suddenly shes changing his account name to include hers, and or creating a new account name for them both. Then she'll not invite certain people. I've lost "friends", even family members on facebook for that reason. I don't think many guys can see how manipulative it is, until the dream turns to a nightmare and now they are back on their lonesome and find friends have disappeared.
I remember when my best mate first met his wife after a few months of them being together any friends of his had to arrange with her for when they were allowed to come round.....:(:p
 
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No idea as I mainly stopped going around with him after this..

Good man, i had a friend who we knocked about for years, he met a bunny boiler and cut off all ties to all his mates, never heard from him for years then one day messaged me saying he split up with his Mrs, aye cool jog on then matey :D
 
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I did get it's you and me and our child or its just you and your mates. I did start to cut down on most of my mates then it came down to me and her and my daughter, I didn't understand at the time why she said that but it was for the best my lifestyle wasn't a healthy legal one.:( to many partys etc... But if I was to go find my old mates even after 18 years they would be supportive. I have spoke to one old friend even though he has kids he has put me off him because he thinks our lifestyle was good and want's to tell he kids to go and do it. It may of been fun at the time but no way would I want my daughter to follow in my footsteps.
 
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I remember when my best mate first met his wife after a few months of them being together any friends of his had to arrange with her for when they were allowed to come round.....:(:p

A good few years ago now a good friend of mine started dating a lass who on the surface seemed great, she then started pulling similar stunts. When ever I appeared to visit him she was fine when we were all in the room together but would make her feelings known the moment he left the room. Turned out she was doing the same with his other friends, we all made a point of regularly turning up out of the blue (usually with a bottle of something) and outstaying our welcome whilst getting him wasted :D
 
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