Yep @tom_e it is always the gay mixed race girls who are rampantly racist homophobes. As @Tinders correctly asserts, girls that age can be nasty pieces of work.It was going alright until this afternoon
Nearly two year old has gotten another cough/temperature so probably won't be in nursery for the rest of the week and the 15 year old was attacked by a group of girls at school apparently for being a homophobic racist (she's a gay mixed race girl) so quite an accusation!
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Indeed, that bit of the story did make me want to chuckle but it wasn't the time!
Unfortunately the school are also rather useless, told her to file an incident report and then sent her straight back to her last two lessons with some of the mob.
Mum is obviously now on the war path wanting to punch them all and their parents so that's the other fun bit corralling her.
Why muzzle the lioness? Sends a bad message to your kids that they should roll over. I would go full "bosbevok" - the closest English translation is "bush mad". I would file that incident report and make it official. Then tell them they have 48 hours to give a satisfactory response after which point you will file a police report and have a word with your local reporter about hate crimes happening at the school. I would also suggest trolling through the FB pages for any poasts of the girls because apparently the police take these things very seriously.
Actually, I would lead with that as assault is unlikely to generate much interest but words that could cause offence...
It's mum going off punching everyone that I'm trying to avoid, self defense has it's place... An adult mullering what is in the eyes of the law a child is not a good look though
the rest I fully agree with and is already on my plan of action.
We're deep into the winter illness's, daughter started at nursery at the beginning of Jan so she's bringing back whatever absolute disasters are being grown in the 'yellow' petri dish room. 3 y/o is doing generally pretty, just seems to be pretty super tired at the moment but his speech has come on so much over the past few months. He's also been nailing it on his balance bike so looking to get him a pedal bike off FB!
Our twins have finally seemingly got over the worst of the nursery grubbyness. For a while there between them they were missing about 30-40% of the days they were supposed to be in. The nursery were even saying that it was unusual how much they have been sick. Fingers crossed they are now developing their immune systems a bit better and will be there almost all the time. They love it. Its just a tiring day for a 22 month old from 7:30 until 4:30.
I remember my friend saying he "has never been more ill than when his children started nursery". I thought it was an exaggeration but that first year had me on the ropes fighting for my life. It's slowed down this year but still feels relentless at times. It also feels like she brings the germ home, passes it onto mum who develops and hardens the strain then passes the new and improved version on to me!
The 3rd birthday is creeping up fast. The cliche of 'the days are long but the years are short' is so damn true.
She goes to something called 'Dancing Tots' on the Saturday and we go to Airhop (a giant trampoline place) on Sundays. She's taken a lot of interest and wants to go to ballet lessons but also really enjoys jumping and balancing at airhop so I think she'd enjoy gymnastic classes to...
It seems I am now into my extra-curricular era.
The 3rd birthday is creeping up fast. The cliche of 'the days are long but the years are short' is so damn true.
She goes to something called 'Dancing Tots' on the Saturday and we go to Airhop (a giant trampoline place) on Sundays. She's taken a lot of interest and wants to go to ballet lessons but also really enjoys jumping and balancing at airhop so I think she'd enjoy gymnastic classes to...
It seems I am now into my extra-curricular era.
Well, where does the time go.
Seems like yesterday that I was dropping them off at nursery and pre-school before work.
Now eldest is in her 1st year at Uni in Durham and youngest is doing A-levels this summer. It's just mad. He's got an offer for Durham and the idea of the two of them up there is nice - they are close and having each other's support will make us as parents relax a bit! Eldest has already suggested "sibling Sundays" when they cook a roast together.
The big thing is going to be when my wife and I are by ourselves again. I'm trying really hard to see it as a positive change but I am going to really miss having the kids around. As they get older they turn into really good company!
Seems like yesterday that I was dropping them off at nursery and pre-school before work.
Now eldest is in her 1st year at Uni in Durham and youngest is doing A-levels this summer. It's just mad. He's got an offer for Durham and the idea of the two of them up there is nice - they are close and having each other's support will make us as parents relax a bit! Eldest has already suggested "sibling Sundays" when they cook a roast together.
The big thing is going to be when my wife and I are by ourselves again. I'm trying really hard to see it as a positive change but I am going to really miss having the kids around. As they get older they turn into really good company!
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bloody kids.
My eldest, 10 a few weeks ago, has started to watch TV in his room during the night. Obviously, he will be tired at school. Fantastic. So we take his TV remote out of his room before bed. Hoping he gets sleep (he is neurodivergent-ADHD and ASD). This has been going on for a week just over. This morning he wouldn't wake up. I pulled his duvet back and lo and behold, TV remote. He must have found where we hid it during the night when I was asleep. Oh no.... he only went into his brothers room and took their remote and used that instead. **** knows how long hes been awake last night watching TV.
Tried to get him out the house for school but he just shut down on the stairs. So I left him whilst I took the other 2 to school. (mum in bed after night shift, lad is quite trusting in the house whilst she sleeps). Got back from school run only to find him asleep in the same spot on the stairs as I left him. Managed to force him to bed. Giving him a few hours before waking him up. Cant get out of routine too much with him and his condition. Oh what a fun half term this is going to be.
My eldest, 10 a few weeks ago, has started to watch TV in his room during the night. Obviously, he will be tired at school. Fantastic. So we take his TV remote out of his room before bed. Hoping he gets sleep (he is neurodivergent-ADHD and ASD). This has been going on for a week just over. This morning he wouldn't wake up. I pulled his duvet back and lo and behold, TV remote. He must have found where we hid it during the night when I was asleep. Oh no.... he only went into his brothers room and took their remote and used that instead. **** knows how long hes been awake last night watching TV.
Tried to get him out the house for school but he just shut down on the stairs. So I left him whilst I took the other 2 to school. (mum in bed after night shift, lad is quite trusting in the house whilst she sleeps). Got back from school run only to find him asleep in the same spot on the stairs as I left him. Managed to force him to bed. Giving him a few hours before waking him up. Cant get out of routine too much with him and his condition. Oh what a fun half term this is going to be.
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I get big anxiety over my 3 lads and how they will cope at big school and collage and hopefully uni. Getting their own place, I worry if they can do it or not. Lads are 4, 7 and 10. As they are currently, I can't compare to how I was (im doing ok with life and have done so in the past), I just can't see them growing up and being adults.
is this weird?
When the youngest is 18 i'll, be 64. Life creeping up so fast, I hope I last to see them all grow up.
Could you temporarily take the TV out of his room? Or is that likely to cause more issues than it solves?
I remember my parents taking a TV out of my bedroom when I was 10/11 because they caught me playing NHL 1997 on the PS1 until 1 in the morning...
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Normally he would go into a meltdown if we took tv/xbox out, but with him being on a different medication he controls his emotions much better. My wife took both out his morning before she went to bed. he didnt play up as he knew he did wrong doing what he did. Hes in bed now sleeping. Giving him a few hours. Going to drag his ass out to do school run with me later too.
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So. I spoke to a friend a bit ago. He suggested Mac filtering on the router for the kids devices. I knew it could be done but never thought about doing it, until he mentioned it. So, thats my project for today, going through all the Mac addresses and adding time restrictions.
I remember trying to do that. Not as easy as imagined...you will need to bear in mind that you have a number of IOT devices such as fridge, washing machine, decoder, energy monitor, tablets, bluetooth speakers the list goes on. Seriously, it was a ball ache and and on my VM router, not every device was apparent.
It is easier to take physical possession of devices that are verboten and perhaps come up with a more ingenious hiding method or by a time lock safe
Would your son benefit from a calming routine at night before bed. I am thinking sensory brushes or humidifier with essential oils or something along those lines. My 14 year old now uses a a little cube that plays nature tracks and projects the Aurora Borealis onto his roof like this or even a fidget toy like this
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I have done 2 devices so far (the other lads room,) The wife and my phone, my xbox,my tv,pc are all listed named, until other devices are turned on they just show up as unknown. Quite easy really. I was expecting something more difficultI remember trying to do that. Not as easy as imagined...you will need to bear in mind that you have a number of IOT devices such as fridge, washing machine, decoder, energy monitor, tablets, bluetooth speakers the list goes on. Seriously, it was a ball ache and and on my VM router, not every device was apparent.
It is easier to take physical possession of devices that are verboten and perhaps come up with a more ingenious hiding method or by a time lock safe
@Droolinggimp I was editing my post and you had already posted your reply. Check out the last line with other options
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in reply to your edit. He is in a set routine and has been working for some time, has music on, night light, weighted blanket. Now, this waking up watching tv might be from 1 of 2 things.
1. For his birthday (end of Jan) he had my old PC, but we got him new desk, speakers, keyboard etc etc. 2 weeks ago he was playing minecraft on game pass for PC and tried out the world editor thing. He was trying to work it out and clicked on a help link and it took him to Youtube minecraft video. We banned Youtube from the kids a while back due to watching too much minecraft stuff and affecting them mentally. So he watched a few MC videos and I told him no etc. That night he was up from 2:55am till 8am watching mince craft on his TV in his room volume down real low. We didnt know until his brother went into his room to wake him up for breakfast. It was weekend so no school.. All I heard was DAD HARRYS WATCHING YOU TUBE. He denied it, but I checked watched history and yeah. 6 hours of it. this messed him up all weekend and also first few days at school. Since then he now has the bug of wanting to watch mine craft or tv during the night.Thought we had it sorted but after today, guess we didn't have it sorted.
2. 4 weeks ago he stopped using Stimulant ADHD meds he used to take every morning before school, and went onto a different one that builds up over the months until its in his system and working consistently. these new ones will help stimulate and help with concentration over time but maybe the fact they are different and do they affect night time. He takes Melatonin at night to help him get to sleep whcih still works and hes generally off after 60 mins after taking them. ADHD team nurse knows about it all as we have review 2 days ago for his new meds. They been upped to the next strength now.
2a. Is it an age thing? thinking he can do what he wants pushing limits?
edit: its getting to the point we might have to take his books out of his room. We dont want to stop him reading but he will read and read and read until we stop him physically. We have caught him reading at 2am on occasions a while back. Love him reading but he doesnt know when to stop, no sense of time. Same with temperature, if hes complaining hes hot he wont take a layer off he will juts be hot until we prompt him to do so. Sensory thing.
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Depends what your kids want to doDoes it have to last that long
.With #1 we currently have 6 hours of gymnastics, 6 hours of swim club, and 4 hours of diving club. He's not far off getting moved to the next squad in diving, at which point it will be one trip a month to Southend (eugh) for the 10m board. And he's only 8!