It is a mixture of agenda and generally what each individual considers "enough".
As an example some will see not having a decent headroom to run every single game available now and have enough for games coming out in a few years as not enough.
My personal view point has not changed. I was fine with the 10gb on the 3080 as it played every game at the time just fine and since then we have barely a handful of games that need more and from those any given individual may want to play what, one? Big deal... When you look at the alternative which is had nvidia tried to put more vram at the time it would have made msrp higher.
The vram issue imo is only an issue for people who intend to keep the card for a very long time and those that are inflexible and find the thought of tweaking settings unimaginable. For those you can buy a 16gb or 24gb card though, but even with those there will be situations where you need to tweak settings. Like with an AMD card you will need to tweak RT settings for example.
I am on a 8gb card now, not an issue for me as it plays 99% or more of my steam library just fine without vram issues. Next gen cards are not far away anyway so when I am on one of those no doubt it will have 16gb or more. What will I have missed out on in the mean time? Far Cry 6 or god forbid should I say Godfall?
Horses for courses