If you’re going through a large amount of cards and they all feature similar traits it’s not that you’re the unluckiest person in the world, it’s that it’s within normal variance and “normal”.
It’s like people who exchange multiple ps5’s and say they all have whine, how unlucky they are.
It’s what the psu does in the ps5, and high end graphics cards are going to exhibit some noise, especially at high frame rates.
I’m not saying there aren’t some that have excessive noise, but I do feel certain people have unrealistic expectations and are NEVER going to find a card that exhibits the noise or lack of noise levels they are expecting.
I get what your saying but I had 3 ps5's and the last one was completely silent. 9 4090s and this one is silent, the Series X was silent first unit. It's annoying as anything swapping them out but I'd be lying if I said I didn't get results by doing so. It's a machine that's going to be used extensively so for me (in a home cinema) who finds buzzing far worse than fan noise, worth going the extra mile. Plus if just one part makes a noise it renders all the other silent parts in builds/rooms useless.