A bit of a problem, not sure what to do?

It's a tough situation for sure...but just because they're your parents doesn't give you a right to invade their privacy.

Have a quiet word with your Dad and just ask him straight as snooping and jumping to conclusions will just make the situation worse.

Just remove the keylogger and talk to him if you're worried.

There's not a lot else you can do I'm afraid.
 
Curio said:
I AM a husband. I have female friends. However, I don't go texting them about "dumping me" or whatever that text said.

EDIT: The text said "dumped me before we even started"......yeah, that's nothing to worry about then (insert huge rolleyes)
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We don't know what the text meant, you're making assumptions. It could have been totally harmless. Me and my girlfriend send texts to each other that without context or knowing our relationship very well would look very suspect indeed. There could be something in it, sure, but we don't know. Nor is it the OPs business. I looked at his age, he's 26. He should respect his parents enough to accept that they are adults and hopefully not daft and they will sort these issues out themselves.
 
When do I talk to him, now or when back? :s

It's not as if it is an easy subject to bring up. I can't know for sure anything will happen but why else would you try and hide something like that with other reasons for going up there.
 
As I started to read the OPs post about receiving the text message, I thought you were talking about your Dad and your Sister getting it on! :O

Either way, it's a tough one to call. You could always talk to your Dad about it, just say you found the pics in the recycle bin. If he lies and says it's nothing, then go from there. You can either talk to your mum, or continue with your dad, although letting on you've been hacking into his stuff is not a good road to go down.

Whatever you do, you need to do it properly. Talk to your Dad, find the truth, or talk to your mum about it ("has dad been acting strange" etc). Or leave it alone and forget about it.
 
That is a good point I could mention the pics in the recycle bin and ask where they came from, that would be simple as its right there.
 
Sounds like a horrible situation to be in bud. If that was my dad I would confront him and tell him straight make up your mind just don't be playing stupid games at your age.
 
Sounds a bit of a bugger.

I'd approach him and say something along the lines of you are worried about his relationship with your mum and leave out the secret details you know.
 
Terrible, how dare your Dad have friends from the past he decides to catch up with.

Definately hack more into his personal life.
 
Tell your dad what you know and tell him how you know. ask him if he wants to talk about it and if its bad tell him he needs to talk to your mum.

leave it at that.
 
pluck up the courage and ask him straight. he's probably a bit excited and flattered about the contact with the old flame and if there had been an 'lol' after the 'you dumped me text', you may be looking at this in a different context. i would ask him and use the photos in the recycle bin as the starting point and ask innocently who it is and it should go from there if he has nothing to hide...
 
simulatorman said:
Tough call. On one hand you might save their marriage on the other destroy it. I wouldn't want to make that decision.
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This.

Stay out of it if I were you. It may well amount to nothing or , no offense intended, your mother might have/be doing something similar or either of them could have done it in the past.

If it's not affecting you or the rest of your family steer clear. If you're wrong there will be a whole **** storm closing in on you.
 
Also ask yourself how you'd feel if your son (or your dad even) came up and challenged you about your personal life after 'investigating' your computer accounts (even if they were just left 'open').

Sure, some families are so close they may be able to openly discuss this, but the fact that he 'seems' to be hiding it suggests that he's not comfortable with the idea being public.

You're probably the most 'like' your dad to be able to judge his reaction. As to telling your mum, I think that would be far worse than discussing with your dad, if you feel you have to do something.

Again, I'd likely stay out of it (and yes, that's with hindsight of my parents splitting - I was annoyed at many aspects but fundamentally it wasn't any of my business).
 
I think it's very much your business due to the effect it would have on your family. Even with that in mind the best play might still be to do nothing and hope it's resolved in time.
 
[TW]Fox;19496023 said:
Terrible, how dare your Dad have friends from the past he decides to catch up with.

Definately hack more into his personal life.
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Someone else who didn't read the thread properly. :p
 
[TW]Fox if it was that simple he wouldn't need to lie about it.

He has said he is going for a **** up with some old swimming pals and has taken money and his c/c with him but has made no arrangements to actually sleep any where, no hotels or owt.
I see no talk between these pals any where, unless it is all done through his phone, which I doubt. As he supposedly met them again via facebook.

She said she had today off work and he has decided to go up today mid day from work instead of tomorrow morning like he was going to.
 
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