Advices needed : Relationship

Leodido

Leodido

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last week-end i met this really nice girl, and we went out to party friday and saturday, we chatted a lot but we weren't really alone, there was her mate and a friend of mine. It was a lot of fun, then thursday we went out again and it was a blast, this friday same. Thing is im really a shy guy and i kinda lost my self confidence(lot of mmo involved and not getting out), she seems like a shy girl as well so it could be a good point for me. So now i'd really like to set things so she knows that i feel this way but i dont really know how i could do that, i keep telling myself she 's kinda attracted by me, she never rejected me so im hoping she is just waiting for me to do the move, but on the other way i know her only for like one week maybe she will think im putting too much pressure on her. Need advices hoping i dont sound too pathetic :o
 
Just ask her out. If she says no she says no. Don't be afraid of rejection, it'll rule your life.
 
I was in the same position a few years ago. Drinking alcohol loosened me up before I went in for the kill.

Try that!
 
You've come to the right place for relationship advice :D

Dear John/harry/frank/Jim/Whatever
Just ask her stragiht out no messing. If she says Yes then Climb aboard. If she says No then Bail out & move on Sharpish :cool:
 
Hmm... well I was quite shy when I met my boyfriend, and I only knew him for about a day before I knew I liked him, and he liked me, and two weeks later we started going out, so if it feels right then I think just go for it :) and the best way to do that if you're shy, and if she's shy is to spend time with her alone, somewhere quiet so you dont feel like you're being interrupted and just casually approach the subject of liking eachother and then just ask her if you get positive response to the subject :)

You'll do fine. All she can say is no, but you wouldnt be asking about this if you didnt think there was a chance :D

Good Luck.
 
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Funny this should come up, I met a nice girl a few days ago whilst at a works social event. She gave me her number, don't work with her - so it was all good.

Ironic that for the last 7 months I've tried internet dating and got nowhere.

I posted this exact txt in another thread -

"I grew a set of balls and found some confidence, called a girl who gave me her phone number a couple of days ago to see if she would like to meet up for drinks tonight..

Turned out to be a good idea, said yep and we're going for meal and drinks later on this evening - bonus...!! "

Just do it, woman love it when a man calls them and asks them out - if she's interested in you, you'll not get rejected. If she says no, then simply move on. The rejection might seem hard, but it'll help you in the end, as it will mean you'll be more confident next time. Woman love confident men, its very attractive to them.

I've wussed out in the past on girls that I 'could' have stood a chance with, once in that magical friend zone, no escape. If girls start to talk about asking other men out with you or use you as a comfort zone as a friend, then its well and truly over. No chance of romance so if you like her, ask ASAP for a date with her.

Just ask her if she'd like to join you for a few drinks, and have a place all planned out, don't leave it up to her to make the arrangements. They like it when you've got a clear idea on where to meet and times etc. Just say is this ok with you? If she says yes, but I prefer - whatever time then agree. Shows you're willing to take the lead and please - remember if you up to a dinner date, order for her when she decides on what she would like.!! ;)

Good luck mate...
 
Have a few drinks to loosen up and then just talk to her about it. Let her know how you feel and if she feels the same.
Do not, i repeat, do not get wasted and do it. people do and say silly things when they are drunk which ruin their chances.....:(
 
i had many occasions to tell her tonight but i just couldn't, i need to grow some balls sometimes i was like petrified.
next try tomorow i hope... cheers
 
ADVICE...

Don't make it out to be a "Omg date". Ask her if she wants to join you on a shopping trip or something casual so you can spend time alone with her. Never fails.
 
i didn't make it out to be a omg date, it was nice we chatted a lot till the bar closed but i lost my balls somewhere and i was so afraid she would reject me i couldn't ask her the way she liked me, on the other hand if she always says yes to go out with me it's surely she likes me so i dont really want to sound stupid about it but if i dont say anything it will be even more hard not really knowing...

I'll ask her out again... :p
 
sounds like ** already in, she must be shy cos the girls i know would have gotten annoyed and made the move.
 
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