am a right idiot

steve-h · 9 Jul 2011 at 15:09

Tummy said:
I'd start begging for forgiveness now if I were you.

Amnesia · 9 Jul 2011 at 15:09

so your ex stops you having sex with her and every other girl in the world.
time to turn gay

NeverWinter · 9 Jul 2011 at 15:50

Fail.

bledd · 9 Jul 2011 at 16:10

I'm with Nix on this. Can't stand couples who keep 'breaking up' every two weeks.

The way it's panned out, you've burned your bridges. Move out & move on

Cleeecooo · 9 Jul 2011 at 16:37

Get on with your life.
You did something cruel bringing another girl back there when you had an agreement not to.

If I've understood this right, you can see other women, you just can't bring them back there? If you can't see any other women at all, then I agree with Nix

Darg · 9 Jul 2011 at 16:51

You broke up to learn to be apart but still lived together? That was the stupid part right there. What you did was just starting to move on. You should have moved out as soon as you broke up.

Right now that's what you should do.

JRY · 9 Jul 2011 at 17:11

Cleeecooo said:
Get on with your life.
You did something cruel bringing another girl back there when you had an agreement not to.

If I've understood this right, you can see other women, you just can't bring them back there? If you can't see any other women at all, then I agree with Nix

That is correct. She did say I can see other women but as long as I don't bring them back

arknor · 9 Jul 2011 at 17:17

Amnesia said:
so your ex stops you having sex with her and every other girl in the world.
time to turn gay

its probably his house hes moving out of aswell :eek:

Morba · 9 Jul 2011 at 18:00

You've broke up, neither of you have any right stoppig the other bringing someone back. If neither of you like the idea, move out simple

Deadbeat · 9 Jul 2011 at 18:17

Sorry OP, I'm gonna deviate from the masses here and say you were actually in the wrong. It doesn't sound like you've forbidden each other from seeing other people, only showing the delicate situation between you due respect. As you said, if she'd brought a bloke home, you'd be pretty devastated too. Absolute honesty is what's needed - tell her how bad you feel and hope she forgives you. Sounds like you could really have something worth saving with this girl - not many couples could split and still cohabit, especially not in the close way you seem to have done.

Shocker as scientists discover shades of grey between being single and being in a relationship.

kylew · 9 Jul 2011 at 18:26

Viper² said:
IT'S I'M (OR I AM) NOT AM.

Thanks.

This, so so many times.

Pestilence · 9 Jul 2011 at 18:32

I think the real question is:

Did you manage to finish off before you were discovered?

wannabedamned · 9 Jul 2011 at 18:36

Something just occurred to me.

You should have tried for a threesome...

Dave85 · 9 Jul 2011 at 18:41

Gazanimal said:
Try the infamous line from Ross in Friends.

"We were on a break!"

See how she reacts

Thats all I kept thinking reading this thread

Gackt · 9 Jul 2011 at 18:44

Nix said:
Look, you're either together or you're not. Less of this umming and ahhing.

If it's unfair you bringing girls back, it's just as unfair for her to keep you strung along whilst she's being a headacase.

Stand up for yourself. If you're not together, she doesn't have a damn bit of authority over your sex-life anymore. You're a grown man, not a bit of convenience for her.

/Prepares to be flamed.

This. So much this.

All the emotional sdfjkashnfkjshdlk comes from when people don't commit properly to one course of action. Half-breaking up. Living together afterwards. Staying in contact. All these things wreak havoc on our fragile minds. Perhaps in time, a friendship could be rebuilt, but not while you're living together. This is madness!

My own personal experiences would like to say that she's probably been sleeping around but keeping you there as a security comfort. But then I'm jaded and broken when it comes to love.

LordSplodge · 9 Jul 2011 at 19:47

JRY said:
naw, we split the rent in half.
in actual fact its my loss. She loves to cook and does most of the cooking.
she also keeps the place amazingly clean. What more of a housemate could you ask for?

Oh I don't know. One you can actually **** would be nice.

Ahleckz · 9 Jul 2011 at 19:58

What kind of rule is that? Its your home, you can do as you please. tell her to grow up and go back to YOUR home.
Sheesh.

JRY · 9 Jul 2011 at 20:05

Deadbeat said:
Sorry OP, I'm gonna deviate from the masses here and say you were actually in the wrong. It doesn't sound like you've forbidden each other from seeing other people, only showing the delicate situation between you due respect. As you said, if she'd brought a bloke home, you'd be pretty devastated too. Absolute honesty is what's needed - tell her how bad you feel and hope she forgives you. Sounds like you could really have something worth saving with this girl - not many couples could split and still cohabit, especially not in the close way you seem to have done.

Shocker as scientists discover shades of grey between being single and being in a relationship.

yes, I admit this. I was cruel to have done such a thing. I was very very drunk though. And as posted previously sober or drunk still wasnt an excuse to do it if I really cared for her.

arc@css · 9 Jul 2011 at 20:07

You made a mistake, maybe a very costly one, though it doesn't mean that a considerable part of you doesn't care for her. Only time will tell. Good luck!

Loki · 9 Jul 2011 at 20:24

Nix, Nail, Head, Hit

Mate it sounds like the lamest break up ever, your living with your ex, she cooks and cleans, your not **** buddies and you can't bring home skirt when you want to. She obviously has feelings if she is bothered you bring home some lady friends

Two choices

1) Move out and Move on
2) Get back together and live happily ever after