Before this goes completely off topic, I think your perceptions are way off on this.
Laptops:
You don't get more than 2060s in laptops because OEMs don't have full confidence in AMD's resurgence to properly invest in new chassis designs. You can't just plop and AMD APU into a chassis designed for an Intel CPU and expect it to work properly.
By the time OEMs do have confidence in Ryzen APUs, Nvidia will have mobile Ampere so there's no point in investing in Turing-compatible AMD chassis design.
(it's not outside the realm of possibility that OEMs are waiting for the full run of Ryzen APUs before committing to chassis design given how they're likely to give all but the top Ampere mobile SKUs a run for their money).
Server:
It takes years to test and validate hardware for datacentre, and years to plan migration. You can't just click your fingers and totally change your infrastructure to another hardware provider. Some of these validations and migrations can take longer than EPYC has even existed. However, loss of power and capability is an immediate concern, so server operators have no choice but to buy in more Intel kit to recoup "overnight" performance lost from Intel's security woes.
Some server operations still benefit from Intel's single-threaded performance superiority ("vertical" scaling I think it's called?).
NEW contracts and server operations that require "horizontal" scaling (multi-threaded performance) are jumping on EPYC and have been for years.
Consoles:
AMD was in the Wii and powered PS4 and XBOne before Zen even existed. The revenue from those alone would've kept the company afloat despite their PC CPUs being woeful at the time. So it's not like they landed "the console contract" out of the blue, AMD has been working with the 3 console providers for over a decade already.
All in all, AMD DID keep going with about 5% market share because they are a tiny company compared to Intel. They don't actually need a massive market share to exist.
Now if Intel wanted to they could've have crushed AMD, but as I said before - and FoxEye also points out - there would have been serious legal ramifications if they did. So it's not really a case of Intel gave AMD a bone to keep them ticking over, it's more like they literally could not kill them off even if they were so inclined.
Regardless of how we got here though, you are correct in saying that Intel got fat and lazy, stagnant and complacent, and now it is really biting them in the ass. Mindshare is significantly shifting though, especially in the face of Intel's ongoing security woes, inability to produce competitive and efficient products and massive supply strain by being stuck on 14nm nodes (even after the years of bribes, even Dell are talking about moving away from Intel because they just can't supply enough product).