Soldato
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To preface this: I consider this a point of personal growth, not illness. I'm male. I'm not some leftist crazy or right wing nut if that really matters to anyone. I certainly understand any doubts anyone has over my conclusions based on the limited information I'm giving here.
Not too long ago I spent some time trying to meet up with some trans women after spending the entire of my adult life adoring them. So I got chatting with someone on one of those apps who told me they wanted to dress me up as a woman. I jumped at the chance, didn't pass of course, but it brought back a lot of confusing feelings.
So after a number of attempts to put my thoughts to writing in a large trans community, editing, rewriting, and finally deciding that I was incapable of making enough sense of it to ask, I went off to read previously asked questions that turned out to be almost identical to my own.. The answers suggested what I suspected and were all very understanding, but still didn't really put my mind at ease, until.. one point that repeatedly comes up - If you could press a button and become X gender and everybody remembered you as X gender, would you do it? - which seems to make the whole thing very simple because yes, I would. I believe it, not just because of the button. This is obviously not something that's just come up and I've had wants for as long as I can remember. I've realised I'm not just interested in being with these people, but being one of them, which on the surface seems a bit ludicrous because why would you want that if the real want is for a different existence entirely? That's never going to happen though is it. It's about what's feasible.
I'm unsure I could ever go through the process of transitioning because other than the obvious acceptance from family and friends, some who've expressed disgust towards trans women, and whether I'd ever pass, I love women and very rarely find men attractive. I'm also thirty now. Past the prime age for hormone treatment. Still this is something I must explore, if only in the way I dress and present myself.
So going by current gender identity concepts it seems I'm a trans woman who's mainly attracted to women. Laugh, sneer, whatever, it now seems to make a lot of sense to me.
This must be so tough to deal with mentally, whoever you are, you'll work it out and it'll be fine