Two things.
Why do gays have to bring their sexuality into *everything*?
"Hi, Mr Hairdresser, I'd like a haircut. Did I tell you I'm gay? Short back and sides, please. Thanks."
"Mr Employer, can I have a job at your company? You know I'm gay, right? Has your workforce had it's tolerance training? Will they all accept my gayness?"
"Mein Doktor, I'm having pains in my chest. Can you make sure the hospital is aware of my special needs, being gay?"
"Yes, this is gay dog. I'm like dog, but GAY."
*If* they didn't rub it in everyone's face, they could pretty much live however they wanted, and still be openly gay, just not some kind of conduit to the Plane of Gay, so that everyone is instantly struck by your gayness.
I'm sure it's the minority giving the majority a bad name, but there we are.
You know if you swap "gay" for almost any minority you're still spot on. My biggest fear when hireing people is if they're in a minority. If they don't get the job because they're genuinely ****e I can just smell a lawsuit