Bit of a pickle - women trouble....

Freak_boy said:
to me it looks like you have lost interest in your current gf. however if you do love your gf then do something about it. talk to her not look for someone else. does she realise this?

as for the working hours, dont worry about it until it has happened
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My best mate often gets bored of his gf who hes been with for nearly 6 years now, goes through the whole "oh should I just look for someone else" then changes something in the relationship and keeps going. If the sparks not there go find it by doing different things with your current other half. The problem isnt finding a nice woman in this day and age, its finding a nice one whos there to stay and not some **** who messes people about. Stick at it and liven things up abit
 
Alty said:
Do I stay with the gf of nearly a year even tho there is no spark...
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I think you just answered that question yourself, what’s the point in being with her if there is no spark? Ditch her and move on I say, better to do it now rather that wait until you’re really settled with her.
 
OK peeps I have spoken to her on the phone for the past 40 mins.....

I wanted to get a taxi but she said she wanted to talk on the phone instead. We discussed the whole future working hours thing and she admitted that if it carries on as it is (with her working 5-11) that it will put too much of a strain on the relationship n it will end. She said that she does not know if this will be the case for her future hours tho. Altho realisitically she said the hours would remain the same :(

We also discussed in detail me not opening up to her enough and how I do not like to discuss my feelings etc with her for fear of rejection etc etc (as most peeps are)...

She honestly thought that I was calling her to tell her it was over and not to discuss how things look for the future.

Thing is.... the future aint exactly looking bright is it?!?
 
Alty said:
OK peeps I have spoken to her on the phone for the past 40 mins.....

I wanted to get a taxi but she said she wanted to talk on the phone instead. We discussed the whole future working hours thing and she admitted that if it carries on as it is (with her working 5-11) that it will put too much of a strain on the relationship n it will end. She said that she does not know if this will be the case for her future hours tho. Altho realisitically she said the hours would remain the same :(

We also discussed in detail me not opening up to her enough and how I do not like to discuss my feelings etc with her for fear of rejection etc etc (as most peeps are)...

She honestly thought that I was calling her to tell her it was over and not to discuss how things look for the future.

Thing is.... the future aint exactly looking bright is it?!?
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nope, its orange :p

joking aside, looks like the conversation with her have at least give you better idea to what to do. for one thing, she sounds like she's expecting it, well...i guess you'll have some thinking to do. But i would sleep on it now, and think with a clear head in the morning.
 
To be honest I dont think i would be too phased if we just became friends n she moves on with another fella. I think we could have a good friendship n mebbe that would be more inportant than a poor relationship..... :confused:

**EDIT** am deffo going to bed now as I got uni tomorra. I shall make another post when i get back 2morra night - please feel free to post any suggestions in the meantime and more importantly........


Thankyou for listening!
 
**UPDATE**

have again spoken with the current gf n she is gettin a lil concerned with my behaviour of late..... she suspects something but is not 100% what.

The new lass is still well up for meetin up n goin out for drinks this weekend. I think that I am gonna go out for drinks n jus see what happens. BUT before any of you try n chastise me may I point out thusly: I will not be tryin to get my leg over!! I don't sleep with lasses on a whim n especially when I first meet em!

IF she tries anythin I am gonna get the hell outta there. She has since mentioned that her cousin finds me attractive and has hinted that they like to "share" :eek: I aint no brad pitt and god knows what any woman would see in me but if they try anythin then I at least know where I stand!

After careful thought I feel that the nekkid pics etc that this lass has sent are totally innapropriate considerin we have only known each other such a short time! As such she can't really be the type that you would take home and introduce to your mother!

I really don't see anything happening between us and have decided to stick it out with the current gf altho I am goin out for drinks solely outta pure curiousity!

**EDIT** surely this doesnt make me a bad person? :confused:
 
Personally mate, i'd tell you to be careful. People give up on things far too easily these days - thinking the other side of the grass is greener which in many, many cases is not the case. My advice would be just to be careful. Don't give up on things just for the sake of a bit of excitement, you might end up regretting it.

Relationships are a double edged sword....
 
My take on it is firstly you should have nothing to do with any woman who's willing to send naked pics to you when she's never met you, and got in contact through a dating site. Secondly, you're messing your GF about something rotten, pack it in.
 
Alty said:
**UPDATE**

have again spoken with the current gf n she is gettin a lil concerned with my behaviour of late..... she suspects something but is not 100% what.

The new lass is still well up for meetin up n goin out for drinks this weekend. I think that I am gonna go out for drinks n jus see what happens. BUT before any of you try n chastise me may I point out thusly: I will not be tryin to get my leg over!! I don't sleep with lasses on a whim n especially when I first meet em!

IF she tries anythin I am gonna get the hell outta there. She has since mentioned that her cousin finds me attractive and has hinted that they like to "share" :eek: I aint no brad pitt and god knows what any woman would see in me but if they try anythin then I at least know where I stand!

After careful thought I feel that the nekkid pics etc that this lass has sent are totally innapropriate considerin we have only known each other such a short time! As such she can't really be the type that you would take home and introduce to your mother!

I really don't see anything happening between us and have decided to stick it out with the current gf altho I am goin out for drinks solely outta pure curiousity!

**EDIT** surely this doesnt make me a bad person? :confused:
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[crystal ball]
I see a bar...i see many, many drinks, i see a lowering of inhibitions, i see alcohol afflicted judgement...i see you doing the nasty with Miss X...[/crystal ball]
 
i am still not 100% sure what i'm gonna do now - have been asking mates at uni, bus drivers and even my hairdresser what I should do - there just seems to be too many conflicting arguments! :(
 
aaahhhh well alas I dont wanna get banned for em!

So this new lass just aint gonna cut the mustard I reckon - who in their right mind sends nekkid pics to someone who they havent met (as previously mentioned n commented upon).

My next question is:

Assuming I go n have drinks with this lass when (if at all?) should I mention that I am with someone else instead?
 
Alty said:
aaahhhh well alas I dont wanna get banned for em!

So this new lass just aint gonna cut the mustard I reckon - who in their right mind sends nekkid pics to someone who they havent met (as previously mentioned n commented upon).

My next question is:

Assuming I go n have drinks with this lass when (if at all?) should I mention that I am with someone else instead?
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That's down to you. If you're seriously considering flying the nest though mate, do the decent thing and break up with your current missus.
 
Wooooaahhhhhh back up a lil first! Didn't I previously mention that if I went to go for drinks I WOULDN'T sleep with her/them? :confused:
 
Alty said:
Wooooaahhhhhh back up a lil first! Didn't I previously mention that if I went to go for drinks I WOULDN'T sleep with her/them? :confused:
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I'm saying IF things go that far is all.
 
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