Bro Code - Was this against it?

I think you need to speak to him about it. First, say sorry you upset him and you understand why he feels that way. Second, he needs to get over this girl because if she's made her intentions clear to him, he shouldn't really be putting himself and you in this possition after all this time. Finally, reiterate that you don't want to taint the friendship but he also needs to push things forward.

The nitefly way of settlement by compromise :p
 
Text her telling her to come round for seconds late one night.

Setup same situation - In bed - Lights out - Waiting for her

Get freaky

Laugh comically in the morning at how it was your friend in your bed last night not you.

Everyone goes home happy and laughing.

Worst case scenario = Three lots of Good Aids
 
Skyline said:
This "only want to be friends" bs is just so the can continue to play with your emotions and get on with their stuff.
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Or in this case, they like having an emotional tampon to hand who will listen to their woes and offer sympathy whilst dying inside a little each time she moves on to a new bloke. :p
 
He is a friend, have a chat and maybe just suggest to him "it's time to move on?".

We all have to, in 15 years he will either be dead or laughing about it.
 
Don't worry about it.

In the long run it may do him some good to move on, it's unhealthy for people to become obsessed with women they have no real emotional/romantic connection with (nothing more than infatuation) - you did him a favour.

He just needs to learn that being a friend to a girl is just that, not to be used as a method to get in the back-door (pardon the pun) - I've known people to do exactly that, going around befriending loads of girls (then claiming them), if you respected these "claims" from any dude you would be single forever.

Besides, you can't claim a partner, if she isn't interested in him that's it - game over.
 
Sounds like you're doing him a favour really, he needs that kick up the bum to get over this girl.
 
Nitefly said:
You are both in breach to extents.

He should respect that if she's not keen, he would be a bit of a douche to prevent anything.

You are in breach for having constructive knowledge of the havoc this would cause. You were drunk fair play, but ultimately you should know better.

These things happen sadly, but the question is what next. I'd expect him to be very jealous and bitter - I probably would be :p
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Disagree.

Just "liking" a girl doesn't give you some kind of permanent shotgun rights. I'd say there was a limited window where a guy shouldn't pursue a girl a friend of his likes.

It's a different matter if they have had a relationship previously. It also muddies the waters if the girl literally jumps in a guys bed, like in this situation.
 
elmarko1234 said:
He just needs to learn that being a friend to a girl is just that, not to be used as a method to get in the back-door (pardon the pun) - I've known people to do exactly that, going around befriending loads of girls (then claiming them), if you respected these "claims" from any dude you would be single forever.
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Pretty much the plot to There's Something About Mary. :)
 
elmarko1234 said:
Don't worry about it.

In the long run it may do him some good to move on, it's unhealthy for people to become obsessed with women they have no real emotional/romantic connection with (nothing more than infatuation) - you did him a favour.

He just needs to learn that being a friend to a girl is just that, not to be used as a method to get in the back-door (pardon the pun) - I've known people to do exactly that, going around befriending loads of girls (then claiming them), if you respected these "claims" from any dude you would be single forever.

Besides, you can't claim a partner, if she isn't interested in him that's it - game over.
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This is spot on.
 
icecold said:
Disagree.

Just "liking" a girl doesn't give you some kind of permanent shotgun rights. I'd say there was a limited window where a guy shouldn't pursue a girl a friend of his likes.

It's a different matter if they have had a relationship previously. It also muddies the waters if the girl literally jumps in a guys bed, like in this situation.
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This is why I said to extents, I don't really think the OP has done anything wrong. I should have made that more clear.
 
elmarko1234 said:
Don't worry about it.

In the long run it may do him some good to move on, it's unhealthy for people to become obsessed with women they have no real emotional/romantic connection with (nothing more than infatuation) - you did him a favour.

He just needs to learn that being a friend to a girl is just that, not to be used as a method to get in the back-door (pardon the pun) - I've known people to do exactly that, going around befriending loads of girls (then claiming them), if you respected these "claims" from any dude you would be single forever.

Besides, you can't claim a partner, if she isn't interested in him that's it - game over.
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This is quality, nice one :)

Some really great advice here guys, thanks so much for the input.
 
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