Bro Code - Was this against it?

I think everyone is missing the main issue here.

Your friend tried it on with her, got shot down, then she went straight to you after. So him feeling rejected to then hear her getting banged by his friend who probably knew about the rejection (to his mind anyway).

You need to explain to him that you didn't know what had happened between them and if you had known what she did you wouldn't have slept with her because you value his feelings over 5 minutes.
 
tell him to man up..

she isnt interested in him end of , its not his sister or his ex so imo theres no bros code involved
 
Davepen said:
Any chance of a copy and paste?
Cant urban dictionary at work :/
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LOL basically your mate is trying to save her ie buy her things, be there for her etc etc. In other words hes a doormat all because he wants a piece of her which he will never get.
 
Spawn said:
LOL basically your mate is trying to save her ie buy her things, be there for her etc etc. In other words hes a doormat all because he wants a piece of her which he will never get.
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Yeah I see that.

He is being there for her in the hope he will get something out of it.

But he wont.
 
elmarko1234 said:
Don't worry about it.

In the long run it may do him some good to move on, it's unhealthy for people to become obsessed with women they have no real emotional/romantic connection with (nothing more than infatuation) - you did him a favour.

He just needs to learn that being a friend to a girl is just that, not to be used as a method to get in the back-door (pardon the pun) - I've known people to do exactly that, going around befriending loads of girls (then claiming them), if you respected these "claims" from any dude you would be single forever.

Besides, you can't claim a partner, if she isn't interested in him that's it - game over.
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Nail. Head. The whole "bro code" thing makes it sound like she doesn't have any say in the matter, and you "stole" her off him. She's got free will too, and it's understandable for him to upset about it, but he shouldn't be angry at you. Likewise, you should probably offer up a small apology, but don't regret what you did, and have a laugh about it.

Now if you'd done it maliciously, then it'd be a different story, but you didn't, so who gives a damn? People need to quit worrying or getting upset over such small inconsequential things. And like elmarko said, in the long run he'll probably thank you for getting him out of that situation :)
 
If the guy had just met her and was after her then I would say that you were in the wrong but based on the amount of time you have both known her for, she's fair game.

As mentioned, at what point can you say that someone has struck out. She doesn't like him in that way and hasn't for years so how on earth can he be surprised if anyone else has a pop.
 
It would be rude and ungentlemanlike to turn away fresh lady garden delivered direct to your bedside in the early hours of anyday. Your friend needs to man up realise it was never going to happen and move on, maybe what she did after he failed to seal the deal was her way of reinforcing the never going to happen.
 
shephga said:
It would be rude and ungentlemanlike to turn away fresh lady garden delivered direct to your bedside in the early hours of anyday.
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It sounds like it was anything but fresh and probably still harbouring decoration and wildlife from the past several occupiers... :p
 
shephga said:
It would be rude and ungentlemanlike to turn away fresh lady garden delivered direct to your bedside in the early hours of anyday. Your friend needs to man up realise it was never going to happen and move on, maybe what she did after he failed to seal the deal was her way of reinforcing the never going to happen.
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PianoBasher said:
It sounds like it was anything but fresh and probably still harbouring decoration and wildlife from the past several occupiers... :p
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lol, guys! :o
 
PianoBasher said:
It sounds like it was anything but fresh and probably still harbouring decoration and wildlife from the past several occupiers... :p
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Ah-ha but I did not specify what the lady garden was fresh from, could be freshly bashed. Point is being woken by a rude girl looking for action, it would be hard not too.

Although does make you think of the other scenarios -


1) if the original poster had not sealed the deal, then posted here about passing up the opportunity - the abuse he'd get

2) if it had been a man sneaking into a ladies bedroom whilst she slept being woken for sex, it would be a very different forum thread.
 
shephga said:
1) if the original poster had not sealed the deal, then posted here about passing up the opportunity - the abuse he'd get

2) if it had been a man sneaking into a ladies bedroom whilst she slept being woken for sex, it would be a very different forum thread.
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1) I dunno, passing up the opportunity means I wouldn't have posted here, as I would have no issue, and would not want to lose man points for tuning down guaranteed sexytime. :)

2) That's true, but then it's not like I was unaware of what was happening.
 
Tell him to man the hell up. If he is that needy and despearate a ho won't look at him twice, he obviously is giving out that vibe which says "I'm desperate, please sleep with me" Its not a good thing and you may have saved him from a fate worse than death as she would likely only take advantage of him and he will become her little puppy, ending up suicidal when she meets a real man who treats her like dirt.
 
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