Can't believe I'm doing this...
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Soldato
Op, it's 2012.
If your GF is getting worked up about some porn on your PC she must have had one sheltered upbringing.
All I can say to you is - don't back down, you have every right to have porn on your PC - and there is nothing sick or shameful about it - in fact - I find it more weirder that somebody these days is willing to start an argument and risk a break-up over a perfectly normal occurance. Why lie to her - or back down..... unless you want to spend the rest of your relationship bowing down to her every demand..... only for you to resent her and be unhappy. If she wants a boyfriend/man who doesn't have porn - or doesn't use it - she is going to be looking for one hell of a long time.. and will probably end up being one of those grumpy lonely old spinsters in a few years time - wondering where it all went wrong.
Man up - and tell her to like it or lump it. How would she feel if you said she couldn't read her racy novels anymore becuase it gets her all hot and you don't like her when she acts all silly.... or she couldn't go to that male stripper night because it's degrading to men
Ask her if she would prefer you go out and get your fix with real women like most of your mates do behind their girlfriends backs - maybe then she would realise what a real jerk some guys can be.
As was said above - she needs to start thinking/acting like a real modern woman and not some embarrased primary school girl who's afraid to confront the real world, where men actually have testosterone for a reason. We like looking at females - and some females actually like showing stuff to us. It's not wrong... and she has nothing to fear from it - it's her thats insecure and SHE needs to deal with that.
She needs to get a grip to be honest. Unless she wants to lose you over something as pathetic as a few jpgs.
If your GF is getting worked up about some porn on your PC she must have had one sheltered upbringing.
All I can say to you is - don't back down, you have every right to have porn on your PC - and there is nothing sick or shameful about it - in fact - I find it more weirder that somebody these days is willing to start an argument and risk a break-up over a perfectly normal occurance. Why lie to her - or back down..... unless you want to spend the rest of your relationship bowing down to her every demand..... only for you to resent her and be unhappy. If she wants a boyfriend/man who doesn't have porn - or doesn't use it - she is going to be looking for one hell of a long time.. and will probably end up being one of those grumpy lonely old spinsters in a few years time - wondering where it all went wrong.
Man up - and tell her to like it or lump it. How would she feel if you said she couldn't read her racy novels anymore becuase it gets her all hot and you don't like her when she acts all silly.... or she couldn't go to that male stripper night because it's degrading to men
Ask her if she would prefer you go out and get your fix with real women like most of your mates do behind their girlfriends backs - maybe then she would realise what a real jerk some guys can be.As was said above - she needs to start thinking/acting like a real modern woman and not some embarrased primary school girl who's afraid to confront the real world, where men actually have testosterone for a reason. We like looking at females - and some females actually like showing stuff to us. It's not wrong... and she has nothing to fear from it - it's her thats insecure and SHE needs to deal with that.
She needs to get a grip to be honest. Unless she wants to lose you over something as pathetic as a few jpgs.
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WTF... man up you pussy!
My GF knows that I oggle other women... "look but don't touch" is the rule... she even comments when a naked girlie shows up on the screen... "she's got a horrible ass"... lol
Madness... I don't know how people deal with women who are quite so insecure.
It's perfectly natural for males to want to bork anything that they like the look of, your actions (or lack thereof) are what can carry you through a modern relationship.
I dealt with a good few of them when I was at uni... they were fun for short periods - but any length of time and it just got on my nerves.
Date older women - they've generally got over the worst of their insecurities, in my experience.
I've had two LTRs (long term relationships) in my life, currently involved with a Polish girl who's 6.5 years older than me... the last was a Dutch Belgian who was 10.5 years older than me.
I also have about 0.5TB of porn in an open share on my home network! What else am I going to **** to when I'm on the road? I've encouraged her to watch some of it for "tips" too when I see something enjoyable - I even give her the time stamp and file name
Mental woman more likely
Think we're getting somewhere, not sure what lasting damage this will have on our relationship but she's at least said that she accepts it but doesn't agree with it. Pretty mental night if I'm being honest! Massive overreaction.
what did she say to making some fap material for you ?
Soldato
Think we're getting somewhere, not sure what lasting damage this will have on our relationship but she's at least said that she accepts it but doesn't agree with it. Pretty mental night if I'm being honest! Massive overreaction.
I would be surprised if that's the end of it.
By the sounds of it - she will never accept it.
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How much do you fap? If it's enough to warrant 500Gb worth of porn, you must be really really sore right now.
Soldato
My mrs actually tells me to watch pr0n!!! Yey!
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Caporegime
We've been talking all morning but it only seems to be getting worse. Her biggest problem is that she hates the thought of me fantasizing about the women in the video I'd be watching while doing the deed... I've tried to explain that it means nothing, there is no attachment, nothing emotional, just stimulation. It's not worked.
She's told me that she feels "back at square one" and heartbroken. :s
Would also like to mention that I'm horrible with words/explaining my feelings. Like I know what I want to say in my head, but can't get it out, which is why I was asking for help in the first place.
Your posts here have been very easy to understand so don't be harsh on yourself regarding your ability to explain. It's far more likely that it isn't the delviery that is causing the issue but the subject matter. This is not your fault.
So many red flags. So many.
Yeah, it just entered my mind very briefly! To be honest though, she knows I visit this website, wouldn't surprise me if she checked my account now and then after this whole PC debacle.
More red flags.
You're both young and this type of discussion probably seems far more dramatic than it should have to be when she clearly has a number of other issues going on.
Ignoring all the porn stuff, would you say you're happy? Think of all the good and all the not so good and then be honest. Are you happy?
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Offer to make it up to her with a trip to Japan.
Then please please please listen to me mate, the same thing happened to me at the same age as you. I wasted 10 years on the same type of women, yes they're are good times but new drama every week and as the years rolled by the worst it all got. Don't stay in a relationship so that you arn't single and alone, it's a terrible reason not to break up with her.
Listen to me, learn from my experience. You say you're happy but you really are not
Soldato
asian pron.. trip to japan.. lol
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Think we're getting somewhere, not sure what lasting damage this will have on our relationship but she's at least said that she accepts it but doesn't agree with it. Pretty mental night if I'm being honest! Massive overreaction.
It won't be ok... this has only proved you have no balls and you will get walked all over.
It won't last... take the initiative and move on now - it will feel better in the long run.
Even if it could continue - you will always feel subdued and quashed - a bottled up life
Unfortunately for you, you won't take my advice and discover this the hard way which will have a more severe negative impact on you.
Sorry to be harsh - but it's the way it is.
I hope you get free of it one way or another and feel better in the long run.
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Variety is good... I also have a 3D blu-ray ISO in there & nearly all of it is 1080p
Still have quite a bit to sort through... darn tempting torrents