Poll: Cheated on?
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my wife cheated on me with my one of my best mate, if was after my 1st born and she was at home all day and my so called mate (of whom we was friends from aged 14) would go round and visit whilst i was at work, also they would go out in the evening once a week and meet and say she was going out with a workfriend. We was both 25 and it lasted about 4 weeks before i found out /got suspicious and just told here straight and asked if she was seeing him. Shoe lied for about 5mins or so and i could tell anyway.
and guess what i did.
Laughed, laughed hard, told her what a plum she was that all the things she wanted with my so called mate would never happen and all the reasons she wanted to leave me wouldn't change with a new bloke, basically made her fell really bad. Phoned my so called mates parents up and told them and they was motified and threw him out of their house (he was living at home), in the end he moved North.
now we have 3 kids and been happily married for 17years, wasn't easy to start with becasue of trust ect,ect but now we both look back and laugh, she knows what a mistake it was, she also knows if she did it again she would be out on her ear
i think, lol
and guess what i did.
Laughed, laughed hard, told her what a plum she was that all the things she wanted with my so called mate would never happen and all the reasons she wanted to leave me wouldn't change with a new bloke, basically made her fell really bad. Phoned my so called mates parents up and told them and they was motified and threw him out of their house (he was living at home), in the end he moved North.
now we have 3 kids and been happily married for 17years, wasn't easy to start with becasue of trust ect,ect but now we both look back and laugh, she knows what a mistake it was, she also knows if she did it again she would be out on her ear
i think, lol
Not been cheating on myself, thankfully. I'm usually quite good at reading people so I'm hoping my instincts won't let me down. Time will tell though.
I honestly can't say if I'd take someone back after they had abused my trust in such a manner. I know your emotions will be all over the place but through principle alone, I don't think I'd give them the time of day. It's good to stay friends with exes, but judging each break-up on their own merits; sometimes it just isn't realistic.
I just can't understand why you'd need to cheat on someone if you loved them? I can understand the yearn for some excitement or change or even revenge but no matter the excuse, it just shows a serious lack of character. Mistakes happen, hell we're only human, but in my mind if you do succumb, you're weak.
It's a sad reality that life isn't as pretty, simple or innocent as you're led to believe when you're eight years old. If more people just did the decent thing, a lot of people would be saved a hell of a lot of unnecessary hurt.
I've learned a few hard lessons in my short time. I imagine I still have many more to learn. I'd like to say I'm trusting of people, but it's hard when you know what people can be like. A cold heart is a good healer, but it's not the way to live.
I honestly can't say if I'd take someone back after they had abused my trust in such a manner. I know your emotions will be all over the place but through principle alone, I don't think I'd give them the time of day. It's good to stay friends with exes, but judging each break-up on their own merits; sometimes it just isn't realistic.
I just can't understand why you'd need to cheat on someone if you loved them? I can understand the yearn for some excitement or change or even revenge but no matter the excuse, it just shows a serious lack of character. Mistakes happen, hell we're only human, but in my mind if you do succumb, you're weak.
It's a sad reality that life isn't as pretty, simple or innocent as you're led to believe when you're eight years old. If more people just did the decent thing, a lot of people would be saved a hell of a lot of unnecessary hurt.
I've learned a few hard lessons in my short time. I imagine I still have many more to learn. I'd like to say I'm trusting of people, but it's hard when you know what people can be like. A cold heart is a good healer, but it's not the way to live.
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My first love cheated on me so we broke up.
About a year later, bumped into each other in a club and got it on. Went back to my place, did the deed and arranged to go out again the following evening.
Met up, went out again. I go for a strut on the dancefloor, manage to pull a random (literally unheard of for me) in full view of ex. She fumes, i leave with said lady for the night. Revenge is sweet.
About a year later, bumped into each other in a club and got it on. Went back to my place, did the deed and arranged to go out again the following evening.
Met up, went out again. I go for a strut on the dancefloor, manage to pull a random (literally unheard of for me) in full view of ex. She fumes, i leave with said lady for the night. Revenge is sweet.
Im best friends with my first major ex. We got together 2 years ago for about 3 months but it just didnt work out. We broke up, gave it a month to simmer down and then just became friends again. Since then we have gotten closer and closer and i wouldnt trade that for anything in the world.
Theres no way on the other hand i will ever have any contact with this girl again.
my old gf, back in 2002 cheated on me with some dude. well, I found out his phone number, did an adrdress lookup, walked 5 miles to his house and beat him with a metal pipe. I sorta regret it, as I hospitalized him for quite a while...I wish i didn't take it that far...the girl wasn't even worth it, even though I stayed with her for 8 more months after that.
The relationships I've been in and have cheated I feel I invested more than the other person/people ever did... I guess it could therefore be a bit revengeful because I felt they had let me down and hurt be - but thats not me making excuses, if I wasnt happy I should have just ended it.
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[TW]Fox said:
Yeah, poor guy might not have even known your ex was attached, so from his point its an unprovoked attack.
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