You say she goes to her mothers and you think nothing of it, yet you go and track her anyway?
People don't just start tracking others after an argument 2-3 weeks ago, there has to be more to this story.
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You say she goes to her mothers and you think nothing of it, yet you go and track her anyway?
People don't just start tracking others after an argument 2-3 weeks ago, there has to be more to this story.
Shes probably fed up of the clingyness you seem to have judging from your post,just let them do what they want, you cant keep them under lock and key for ever as mother will probably police will get involved if it escilates, just play by her game and she will see another side of you.
The probem with women is they dont want to feel trapped by someone and want there own space,yes you will see finiances change and issues will arrise,but you have to work that out for your self and be strong about it.
The probem with women is they dont want to feel trapped by someone and want there own space,yes you will see finiances change and issues will arrise,but you have to work that out for your self and be strong about it.
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You don't trust her and probably shouldn't.
She doesn't trust you and definitely shouldn't. You're spying on her to an extent that the NSA would consider excessive.
I think your relationship is dead and has been for a while. I'd be amazed if it can be revived. I think you'd both be better off out of it. In that case, you should try to negotiate a split with as little hostility as possible. Maybe with the help of a neutral third party to help you both stay as rational as possible during the negotiations.
Either way, you two need to talk about the rotting zombie that is your marriage.
Purely as an aside, I'm curious about the 7 years she mentioned in her low-grade pidgin. It implies that whatever is going on has been going on for 7 years. Might the message have been intended for you? How long have you been married?
She doesn't trust you and definitely shouldn't. You're spying on her to an extent that the NSA would consider excessive.
I think your relationship is dead and has been for a while. I'd be amazed if it can be revived. I think you'd both be better off out of it. In that case, you should try to negotiate a split with as little hostility as possible. Maybe with the help of a neutral third party to help you both stay as rational as possible during the negotiations.
Either way, you two need to talk about the rotting zombie that is your marriage.
Purely as an aside, I'm curious about the 7 years she mentioned in her low-grade pidgin. It implies that whatever is going on has been going on for 7 years. Might the message have been intended for you? How long have you been married?
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Run Forest, run.
You should go out and play a little
You should go out and play a little
whatever's going on, trust is gone, it's over
talk about what arrangement makes all three of you happy, and go with it
Nailed it. Sorry OP
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I was inclined to stick with this mature post but the below comment also was not sounding right..
She obviosuly isnt sending this message on behalf of her friend as it states they are lying and hiding to see each other.
What does the 7 years mean? She has been "seeing" this guy behind your back for 7 years?
Somethings been going on but we don't know the full story - more to it but I would just talk then move on.
It's changed in a very short space of time. The generational gap is tiny between parents staying together being the norm, and divorce rates being over 50%.
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This. Your zero trust means it was over regardless of whether she's cheated or not.
After installing software on her phone and tracking her, I'd say she's right not not trust you back. What a horrible thing to do to a partner.
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Sorry to make light of it, but she must be taking the pee. She managed to write that whole text like a 7 year old who hasn't been to school, and then wrote "interim." I think she's messing with you.
Don't really want to take sides based on the limited amount of information - I think there's a lot more to this, personally - but as others have said, if there's no longer any trust then the writing is on the wall for what is left of the relationship.
She has been cheating for a long time, she doesn't sound thrilled to be with you - your relationship has very low chances to continue to exist.
What you did with her account, tracking etc. is illegal and it will be used against you if you divorce. Cover your tracks, make sure not to reveal what you've been doing.
Your kid is your priority now, do anything you can to protect her from the storm that's coming.
What you did with her account, tracking etc. is illegal and it will be used against you if you divorce. Cover your tracks, make sure not to reveal what you've been doing.
Your kid is your priority now, do anything you can to protect her from the storm that's coming.
I'm pleased it wasn't just me who thought this...
Why would you want to be with somone who doesn't want to be with you, it's difficult now but you cannot waste your life on a relationship that is not working.
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OP, I don't know if you should just GTFO right now or if having a timeout (temporary separation) is of any benefit. That decision lies with you ultimately, and certainly what is best for your child will be a huge factor in whatever is to come ahead.
Trust is something that should be a given. I know, having been there before where it [seemingly] suddenly turns out that both sides aren't playing by the same rule-book. I say "seemingly" because frequently it is the case that the unassuming partner (the bloke normally?) doesn't realise things are so bad until a trigger event jolts him out of his stupor. Take your time, look at your life from the side like a passenger, remove yourself from your day-to-day for a short time if necessary. Consider the entire picture before making a choice.
Without Trust, there is no relationship. Things may be hard for a short time but ultimately you will be in a happier place - no point in her behaviour affecting you to the point where you are effectively having to spy on her to verify what she says. You are both better off without that behaviour - you more so than her.
Trust is something that should be a given. I know, having been there before where it [seemingly] suddenly turns out that both sides aren't playing by the same rule-book. I say "seemingly" because frequently it is the case that the unassuming partner (the bloke normally?) doesn't realise things are so bad until a trigger event jolts him out of his stupor. Take your time, look at your life from the side like a passenger, remove yourself from your day-to-day for a short time if necessary. Consider the entire picture before making a choice.
Without Trust, there is no relationship. Things may be hard for a short time but ultimately you will be in a happier place - no point in her behaviour affecting you to the point where you are effectively having to spy on her to verify what she says. You are both better off without that behaviour - you more so than her.