A self made man is an individual who wants to improve themselves and against the factors which life throws at them, grabs life by the balls and succeeds or fails and brushes themselve off and marches on.
I'm sorry you have no pride that you have done well for yourself, you should be proud, Elmarko.
Just out of curiosity, do you subscribe to the idea of philosophical determinism?
Roughly, in the sense that our behaviour is a result of cause & effect - that our mind is just another organ & our mental faculties thoughts & person is the result of the physical state changes within our brain - I would say a proponent of physicalism/materialism would be more accurate.
The wikipedia article puts it well.
Determinism often is taken to mean simply causal determinism, which in physics is the idea known as cause-and-effect. It is the concept that events within a given paradigm are bound by causality in such a way that any state (of an object or event) is completely determined by prior states. This meaning can be distinguished from other varieties of determinism mentioned below.
I don't believe in any unscientific concepts, I don't believe a belief in the kind of free will you are suggesting really fits with our modern understanding of both human behaviour or with the idea that only the material world exists - as it requires something additional outside of simple matter interaction in cause & effect.
I'm not berating hard work, it's great & people should be happy they were fortunate enough to make it out of a bad spot - I don't mean to diminish the significance of the event - just that pride in my opinion is a bit of a silly concept.
On a side note, are you a substance duellist?.
I can totally understand why religious people are, as they do strongly believe in the existence of something outside of our physical word - they often have already accepted the concept of "spirit" or a "none-physical mind" - not to mention free will is critical to most religious concepts (as they have heaven/hell/sinning etc).
It just seems most of these concepts arise from human ego, anything to deny our true existence as animals - which are carbon based biological machines - nothing special, just have developed technology & language (which animals have in less forms, via the use of tools or communication).
I mean, do you believe that animals (excluding humans) have free-will?.