conversation, how?

Hatter The Mad said:
This - nail on head. The problem you have is probably like what I had (and still battle with today, although I can easily fool people) - you're so wrapped up and so conscious about worrying you'll be a bad conversationalist or will not know what to say next, you don't give enough brainpower to what the other person is saying.

If you did and properly listened, your brain will offer up a whole variety of questions and subtopics to talk about.

It gets easier!
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this.
I find myself forever switching off at work as I know pretty much how the conversation will go and my brain reels off generic answers. the problem is, it doesn't always realise the conversation took an unusual twist, and the generic answer didn't apply :o

so I guess what im saying is, don't think a step ahead, stay with the step that is currently happening.
 
Here's a post from reddit I read the other day. A lot of replies seemed to be positive and saying it helped them. It seems kinda cliché and sad.. but.. yeah. I think I censored everything..

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TurnipHead said:
Here's a post from reddit I read the other day. A lot of replies seemed to be positive and saying it helped them. It seems kinda cliché and sad.. but.. yeah. I think I censored everything..

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[url]http://forums.overclockers.co.uk/showpost.php?p=22326122&postcount=11[/url] ;)
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Skillmister said:
That means nothing. I am a very different in person to online, keyboard warrior at its finest infact
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my point was, he clearly has the skills to read what someone said, and reply to it with something relevant. that's how talking works, only with speech and not text. yes you have to work hard with speech, but the same skills are required.
if he was on here completely missing everyones point, or writing some jumbled garbage, then I would question his ability to hold a verbal conversation.
yes, everyone is more confident online, and in reality, online you can be whoever you want, not so easy in real life. but conversational skill are still in essence the same. receive information, process information, reply with relevant information.
 
Hatter The Mad said:
This - nail on head. The problem you have is probably like what I had (and still battle with today, although I can easily fool people) - you're so wrapped up and so conscious about worrying you'll be a bad conversationalist or will not know what to say next, you don't give enough brainpower to what the other person is saying.
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yup, it's a bad habit. also when I sometimes do think of something to say cut the other peson off to say it (lol, that always goes down well).

so the trick to being less self-conscious is... being less self-conscious :p
 
FoxEye said:
yup, it's a bad habit. also when I sometimes do think of something to say cut the other peson off to say it (lol, that always goes down well).

so the trick to being less self-conscious is... being less self-conscious :p
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at the end of the day, you are who you are and you should never be anyone else. don't worry what they are thinking or what you have to reply with, just let it flow naturally. you might find your a funny guy that everyone in the office wants to talk to.
 
FoxEye, where do you live?
Perhaps a local member who is less self conscious could go for a pint with you and allow you to "practice" conversation in a safe and controlled environment?
 
[FnG]magnolia;22326204 said:
Alternatively you can actually show genuine interest in what they are saying instead of waiting for your 'cue'.
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what if you don't have a genuine interest in what they're saying?
 
FoxEye said:
The few friends I have here are married. And I don't go out socially at all :eek:

Haven't been out for years (just thinking about that is sad).
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I haven't been out socially for 6 years, other than with family, so I wouldn't worry too much. do you have any colleagues at work you talk to? or do you pretty much keep yourself to yourself?
 
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