Damn it all to hell!

Rossmac · 18 Aug 2007 at 03:32

Smashing Pumpkins - Stand Inside Your Love

This will make you get over it really really quickly.... time tested technique

Nix · 18 Aug 2007 at 03:33

Protoman said:
situation: friends(10 years ago), then someone i know, then friends(year ago), then good friends, then strong feelings, then best friends, tell of feelings, even better best friends, love, lead on/reading signs wrongly, tell of love, still best friends.

shes just interested in another guy, and obv tells me cause we're best friends. i dont mind her telling me, shes worth the pain (EMO STATEMENT!!!)

Of for Christ' sake. Stop making yourself a martyr, there's just no need! Grow a pair and take a stand for what you want.

Is she aware of how you feel?

Margaret · 18 Aug 2007 at 03:33

Protoman said:
shes just interested in another guy, and obv tells me cause we're best friends. i dont mind her telling me, shes worth the pain (EMO STATEMENT!!!)

It'll probably blow over, when she gets rejected pick up the pieces.

That sounds so lame.

sarutobi · 18 Aug 2007 at 03:35

Nix said:
Of for Christ' sake. Stop making yourself a martyr, there's just no need! Grow a pair and take a stand for what you want.

Is she aware of how you feel?

that is what i want though, i want to be her friend, shes a really good friend

and yes, as ive said

Zefan · 18 Aug 2007 at 03:36

Protoman said:
that is what i want though, i want to be her friend, shes a really good friend

and yes, as ive said

Don't hang around her being her best friend if you want more though, believe me you don't want to be that person.

Nix · 18 Aug 2007 at 03:36

Protoman said:
that is what i want though, i want to be her friend, shes a really good friend

and yes, as ive said

But being friends isn't going to work is it? You obviously want more and it negates the current dynamic.

So, what exactly have you told her?

Rossmac · 18 Aug 2007 at 03:37

Well, situation is different for me. I'm asexual. You should try it, it's a blast!

sarutobi · 18 Aug 2007 at 03:38

it does still work after i told her exactly how i feel

Zefan · 18 Aug 2007 at 03:39

Protoman said:
it does still work after i told her exactly how i feel

So you're going to be comfortable knowing she's shagging blokes at uni?

Seriously, disconnect. It's the best thing you can do. You really don't want to be the "best friend who wants more", every one I know has ended in big, big ****.

sarutobi · 18 Aug 2007 at 03:40

thats really not an option, id have no self respect if i did that

Margaret · 18 Aug 2007 at 03:40

She might end up hating you if you act clingy, nothing worse than a clingy person, been there.

allllec · 18 Aug 2007 at 03:42

Jihad said:
She might end up hating you if you act clingy, nothing worse than a clingy person, been there.

Indeed.

Did you read my earlyer post btw OP?

Rossmac · 18 Aug 2007 at 03:42

Zefan said:
So you're going to be comfortable knowing she's shagging blokes at uni?

Seriously, disconnect. It's the best thing you can do. You really don't want to be the "best friend who wants more", every one I know has ended in big, big ****.

Well it doesn't always end up in big big ****, I know of some situations were it works out well.

allllec · 18 Aug 2007 at 03:44

Rossmac said:
Well it doesn't always end up in big big ****, I know of some situations were it works out well.

i think im assuming **** is a different word to what you guys mean

sarutobi · 18 Aug 2007 at 03:44

allllec said:
Indeed.

Did you read my earlyer post btw OP?

yeh i did, the reason im stayin friend with her, is because

1. its best for her
2. im not a lamer who stops being someones friend for selfish reasons

Zefan · 18 Aug 2007 at 03:45

Protoman said:
1. its best for her
2. im not a lamer who stops being someones friend for selfish reasons

You owe her nothing, look after number one.

allllec · 18 Aug 2007 at 03:47

Protoman said:
yeh i did, the reason im stayin friend with her, is because

1. its best for her
2. im not a lamer who stops being someones friend for selfish reasons

Thats enough justification for me then. :cool:

. Good man

sarutobi · 18 Aug 2007 at 03:47

Zefan said:
You owe her nothing, look after number one.

nah, im not about that im afraid

i put others before me most of the time, im a nice guy, maybe thats why i finnish last lol

Nix · 18 Aug 2007 at 03:53

Protoman said:
thats really not an option, id have no self respect if i did that

Or you can turn that on its head. Have some dignity and move on. By hanging around claiming 'self-respect' for whatever non sequitur you've concluded you're validating my assumption about the emotional doormat.

Mate, hold your head high and earn her and more importantly, your own respect for doing what you have to. Sometimes you have to look out for number one.

sarutobi · 18 Aug 2007 at 03:55

you do realise its not easy to just stop caring about someone, especially when you dont want to stop caring about them

plus it wouldnt really be fair on her to stop being her friend cause i like her.