Damn it all to hell!

If she was as close a friend as you say she is she would do what is best for you and stop talking to you.

Do yourself a favor and get out, you'll risk messing up your first year at uni otherwise.

:Edit: We're not telling you this for giggles, we're really trying to help.
 
Protoman said:
nah, im not about that im afraid

i put others before me most of the time, im a nice guy, maybe thats why i finnish last lol
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Look, consider this a proverbial kick up the backside. Seriously, go back and digest what particularly Fox, Zefan and myself have been telling you.

You will only have yourself to blame if you don't take a stand for yourself.

Protoman said:
yeh i did, the reason im stayin friend with her, is because

1. its best for her
2. im not a lamer who stops being someones friend for selfish reasons
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Why is it best for her?

There's nothing romantic about being a martyr so pack it in!

Zefan said:
Do yourself a favor and get out, you'll risk messing up your first year at uni otherwise.
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Seriously, take this on board because you've got me concerned too.
 
It's clear that you're not going to listen to advice at the moment (understandably) so I'm going to retire from this thread for now.

Please, for your own good, read this thread when you wake up tomorrow and really think about it.
 
Protoman said:
cause losing a best friend would not be a good thing for her right now
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Let me guess, you feel 'stronger' so you're willing to sacrifice yourself for her? All very noble really.

Stop being pathetic. If you have to stay friends then I suggest you either break off contact or distance yourself for a short period of time so you can collect your thoughts. You're only making it more difficult for yourself.
 
Nix said:
Let me guess, you feel 'stronger' so you're willing to sacrifice yourself for her? All very noble really.
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wrong guess, her lifes just not goin well at the moment. it would be really lame to just leave her in it.
 
Protoman said:
wrong guess, her lifes just not goin well at the moment. it would be really lame to just leave her in it.
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Then if you have to stick around, suck it up - not for her but for yourself. By sticking around you're just an open invitation for her to continue dumping her feelings onto you. You must understand that nothing will come of this. The sooner you realise this, the sooner you can get over her.

I seriously recommend you take some time out though. You cannot be her only friend. Distance yourself, who knows - it'll probably work in your favour in the long run!
 
Protoman said:
wrong guess, her lifes just not goin well at the moment. it would be really lame to just leave her in it.
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Sounds harsh but I bet you that you don't mean as much to her as she means to you.

You say losing a best friend would not be the best thing for her- no ones telling you to cut her completely, but she's got her own things atm like you say, and she's your problem, and on top of that you're making her problems yours too.
 
Protoman said:
situation: friends(10 years ago), then someone i know, then friends(year ago), then good friends, then strong feelings, then best friends, tell of feelings, even better best friends, love, lead on/reading signs wrongly, tell of love, still best friends.

shes just interested in another guy, and obv tells me cause we're best friends. i dont mind her telling me, shes worth the pain (EMO STATEMENT!!!)
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This reminds me of a situation I was in when I was around your age (17 I think). I met a guy when I started high school, we were friends, we dated, we split and stopped talking for a couple of months, then became really close friends for the next few years. I always kinda assumed that we'd end up together, and a lot of the time I probably flirted far too much with him as I just thought of it as fun and never realised how he felt about me.

When he left school, he finally told me he liked me, and his timing was wrong, I was with someone else. I lost contact with him for a long time, and I think it was one of the best things we could have done. If he'd stayed at school, or we'd both been able to drive at the time, I would never have let him go as a friend, and it would have eventually just messed with both of our heads.

There is a reason your friend doesn't want to be with you (that was definately the case with my friend), and she is the only person who can change her mind. She will probably continue to flirt with you, because she knows that you'll flirt back and give her attention, but you can't stop her being with other people. If you can't cope watching her with someone else, you have to cut away and look for someone who loves you for you.
 
Protoman said:
ive already said its a girl

i know im only 18 and have a lot of life to live, but this is the one thing im sure about. You ever get that where you just KNOW
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Yeah and its not something you can know at 18.

Women are trouble. If you can't handle rejection, just stay away.
 
Protoman said:
a) talk to a friend about it - check
b) talk to her about it - check

c) write about it on a forum - check
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d) get a copy of Mayfair or Over 40's and forget about her.......

as Whitney Houston once sang "learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all" ;)
 
aayzof said:
I'm in the same situation as you mate. properly in love with the best friend, she doesn't feel the same etc. we've messed around but never been together. i've been with other girls but always end up losing interest because i'd rather be with her. been going on for like 2 1/2 years. its so stupid. youve just gotta suck it up and find some other **** to keep you amused.
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Have either you or the OP stopped to think that perhaps you feel like they're your best friend but they're actually not? If they were truly your best friend then would they really be messing around with you when they're aware of how you feel? Or would they unload their relationship issues on to you knowing that it's going to cause you pain? That's not a best friend.

I don't agree that it's a case of sucking it up. It sounds like a case of you both needing them more than they need you so you need to get back to reality and put a stop to you being the ones that keeps them amused whenever they need. If you don't then it's going to completely mess up your heads and the love you think you might feel now will turn into really bitter resentment.

Life has the ability to change a lot at university if you want it to because you have so many avenues open to meet new people. You can either take that opportunity to move on with your life and give it a good try or you can wallow in the supposed fact that she's the best girl ever and no one can come close.

Do you really think they're going to be giving you a second thought when they're with other guys? They won't be and the sooner you come to terms with that and realise they're not worth wasting your feelings on, the sooner you can find someone who actually feels the same way in return and is actually worthy of your feelings.
 
The only reason she doesn't want you is that she can have you any time she wants. When you get to Uni, pull anything that moves, particularly the fat birds/ten-to-two birds or general kebab shop mingers. Then have a 'laugh' with her over how silly you were to be besotted with her. 10 minutes later she'll be begging to give you sucky-sucky-long-love and keys to her kinky cabinet. Women are strange beasts and to snare an anmial, you must first THINK like it.

Plus, you'll have lost your cherry with the fat bird, learned what not to do with a woman in bed (it's not like the films you've seen, well, sometimes...) and you'll have learned how to control yourself so you last longer than 30 seconds - all in all, she'll aprreciate it.
 
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