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gettothechopper said:
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FYP :)

I sympathise, OP. Consider this, if you do break up, there's nothing stopping you from maintaining a good friendship with your ex, and still being a father to your son.

It may not be as bad as you think. As others have said, talk to your girlfriend, talk to your family, talk to friends you trust to get some perspective. Ultimately though it comes down to how you feel. If it's not working, you shouldn't pretend otherwise but it needn't be a nasty breakup.

Lotsa luck, fella.
 
Sounds like 90%+ of British women.

Scream equality when it suits them but when it comes to a career they're quite happy to stay at home and be a mum, just like in Tudor times. Its rather hypocritical, truth be told. Welcome to the world of women.

I could not cope with a woman like that, I'd have to tell her we were separating and purely support the child and make sure 100% the money was going on the child. That alone should motivate her to get a job. If it doesn't and she happily chooses to stay on welfare then its a clear indicator you did the right thing. Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind and obviously as you have a young'un its going to be harder.

Maybe on the weekend you should take care of the child and tell her to go out and experience the world a bit more and she may realise what she is actually missing being stuck up in the house all the time. Even if she did a part time job that'd be something.

In terms of house work, if she's doing 100% of it then you really can't complain as thats hard enough as it is without bringing up a child, never mind with bringing up a child.

If she's doing some of it then she should work too. If she's not doing any then in my opinion she's taking the mick. No way should you be out working all day and coming home to do the house work too.

Relationships are give and take.
 
I was in a similar situation to you a while back, actually wrote a thread about it on here :)

You really have to think about the good things you have. Having a son that is happy is a big plus, its also a credit to you that you stuck around and did the right thing. I think you have just got complacent and dont realise how lucky you are, put a bit more work into the relationship with your mrs, take her out and make her feel a bit special. Her being happy will make you happier and things might start looking up a bit.

TBH this is the least you should do. If it doesn't work then you can say you tried. If it does work maybe in 10yrs time you could be looking back on all this and be glad you stuck around. Since I started to put a bit more effort into my relationship I haven't looked back, me and the mrs are back to being best mates and I make her laugh everyday so she's happy :)
 
smoove said:
Last time when things came to a head, we agreed that we would seek some relationship guidance, but I cant see how it can be much use
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That's more an indication of your own naivety than anything like factually accurate. Professional counsellors can and do help countless poeple in all sorts of situations, plenty much grimmer than yours. You indicate you dont want to give up and would try anything, so give Relate a go. Not exactly anything to lose. And continue to get medical help for the depression.
 
busman said:
Having a son that is happy is a big plus, its also a credit to you that you stuck around and did the right thing.
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Why should he be credited?

Should I be credited for taking a dump in the toilet instead of in the living room?

Standing by your child is what is expected of anyone.
 
.Lethal said:
Why should he be credited?

Should I be credited for taking a dump in the toilet instead of in the living room?

Standing by your child is what is expected of anyone.
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Totally agree, but staying with the mother for the sake of the child isnt. He can still support the child if him and the mother split up, not ideal though.
 
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