Does anyone else have no friends?

I think with friends you get out what you put in. If you want a large circle of friends you're going to have to socialise more and make the effort.

I'm an introvert at heart, so I need time alone to recharge. Something extroverts wouldn't understand. But it suits me.
 
30 years old, no friends or family in the world and I'm happy with this most of the time - people are pretty unpleasant in my experience. I could probably live out the rest of my days in a dark room providing I have an internet connection.
 
I used to have quite a few, but went through some interesting things during school and pretty much cut all ties with them, I don't even have most of them on social media. I had one real friend I kept in touch with and I distance myself from them. I made contact with one of them and ended up sleeping around with them and that didn't end very well :o

Thankfully got a couple from on here, and I get on with most of the people I work with, there's a few people I talk to through car groups but other than that I chuck myself firmly into work and one other person in a romantic aspect.

OP, you're not alone :p
 
Those people you see with the overbloated Facebook accounts (I used to be guilty of that) don't have anywhere near as many friends as you might think, or it may seem. I always thought that your family + 2 or 3 people is healthy, and it is, as well as the norm. Even having no friends is healthy, if you have a healthy outlook on what a friend actually is.

Though if you literally say nothing to anybody ever, you might have an issue.
 
I've always found other people difficult to manage, by best friend was killed when we were in our early twenties, 30 years ago, I got married, had kids, moved around the country so lost touch with friends I did have.

When I retire I may join a few clubs or something,

I think it's to do with your nature, some men are very gregarious. I've just never really worked out how to socialise, I've been to busy trying to keep my life together.

I think if you stay near the area you grew up in its easier to keep a social circle. In ways thats a bit sad though.

Keeping friends from school or university, could be seen as having a limited social outlook.
 
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30 years old, no friends or family in the world and I'm happy with this most of the time - people are pretty unpleasant in my experience. I could probably live out the rest of my days in a dark room providing I have an internet connection.
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No, they aren't, you've just settled on that because of some negative experiences most likely and the way you act in social settings.

What can someone really do that's so unpleasant anyway unless you allow words to hurt you.

Unless you put some effort in yourself then yes you probably will have negative experiences because people aren't going to bother themselves with someone who's disinterested and won't engage in conversation.
 
I'm fairly similar, always been a bit of a loner. I'm happy to chat and get on with people at work, but don't socialise with any of them outside of work. I have a very small handful of friends, but only one that I see and contact regularly, the rest I might just see every few months or once a year at Christmas.

Recently got engaged and seriously considered not having a stag do due to this (that and the traditional 'lads on tour' is my idea of a nightmare), but decided to have a small, quiet do with just a few people.
 
captain dilbert said:
30 years old, no friends or family in the world and I'm happy with this most of the time - people are pretty unpleasant in my experience. I could probably live out the rest of my days in a dark room providing I have an internet connection.
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The people YOU spent time with are unpleasant. That's where you went wrong.

There a plenty of good people out there who won't screw you over. Change your attitude and your environment and you will realise that.

Become that better person :)
 
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TBH most people think they SHOULD be doing certain things (like getting married, having 100s of "friends" on facebook, etc) because society says they should be. Not because they actually want to.

I have friends, some I've known a very long time, but not a huge amount. I'm quite happy to leave a place and people behind. I only hold on to the good ones.
 
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Sounds familiar, I only really have one friend who i speak to and meet up with every now and then. Don't get me wrong I'm not shy or anything but dealing with customers and suppliers at work during the weeks and most weekends its quite nice to just come home and go ahhhhhhhh relax! I have my own house and a long term (6yrs) Fiancé, we are quite happy together. I would most certainly class her as my best friend :)

I have a few hobbies but 60hrs a week at work wears me out :( so i don't get to do as much as i'd like.
 
interesting thread

I have a few people i call friends, i could say if i turned up with a sleeping bag at two of them they would accommodate no problems that said i see one probably 12 times a year and the other 8.

Other than that i have lots of people i know, and chat with but i lets put it like this, if i was to get married i would struggle to invite 5 males who were not family.

I often wonder why this is, but i know my reasons and its generally work related and then running my own business. Childhood friends were gone when i moved away etc and we all grew up.

It does suck to be honest, a lad who works for me never stops socializing with his mates and others. Still worst case is, i have you guys your all my friends.... ......
 
It's an age and perception thing. When I was young I was very outgoing and had a big social circle. I tended to be one of the very popular types who gets on with most people. But meeting my wife and living abroad I now would say I have hardly any friends but that is more because I don't have that much time now.
 
Me and the lady keep ourselves to ourselves most of the time. The only people I talk to regularly are my brother and his missus. Throughout my childhood I always had 4-5 good friends but I just sort of grew apart from them.

I am pretty happy though, I have always preferred a smaller, more tight knit group. Having said that I do talk to people from work on a regular basis, just don't go to see them or anything outside of work much.
 
Really only have one good friend now that I see on a regular basis. We try to see each other at least once a month and other than my wife he's the one person I know I could trust above anyone. My wife keeps in touch with her friends and about 3 or 4 times a year we do the thing were we'd have a meal at each others houses but that's about the height of it.
I do like meeting other folks though and over this last year or two have met folks who I'd now loosely call friends through Instagram and have spent weekends away with them visiting places and enjoying photography.
 
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