Does everyone front happiness...

[Bleek]

Bleek - you seem very keen to tell us how wonderful you are and how everything in life is good and you're a great friend to all your friends who think you amazing, etc.

I'm a good friend I know that for sure, an admisible fact if you will.

Can you maybe concede that something is wrong, if you feel so awful all the time? Maybe you have a tendency to dwell on things? Maybe you have a bit of a superiority complex?

Of course I have issues, hence this thread. A complex is not one of them, it might have been lost in translation earlier in the thread but I'm happy with what and who I am, I know I'm decent, dependable and aesthetically pleasing but that doesn't seem to be enough.

... and yes someone is going to come straight back and say "well then what's your problem".

Maybe it's time to realise that everyone is in a bit of an existential muddle (why else would people get religious?) and it is just time to get on with it and stop looking for deep and meaningful fulfilled happiness?

I realise too that I'm not alone in all this, I'm not even sure I'm looking for deep happiness but just a few grains from time-to-time might suffice.

Something said to me the other day - actually in relation to the over-examination of kids in schools (which is now on the slow turnaround) - is that a pig doesn't get fattened by weighing it. You need to feed yourself things, varied, little things, that contribute to your overall well-being. You won't get happy by analysing your lack of happiness.

I appreciate what you're saying and where your coming from, I guess as many others have stated, I need to find these 'little things' that spark my enthusiasm and quell my apathy which is one of many symptoms of this.

One thing is for sure I do take solace in discussing these things with people, it's both interesting and therapeutic - for me at least.

 

[James J]

I still stand by what I originally said and I don't mean it to be humorous in any way, shape or form.

 

[Bleek]

I still stand by what I originally said and I don't mean it to be humorous in any way, shape or form.

Which is by no means a good thing, for me not you, but by all means lay your cards to bare and I'll dissect your fodder.

 

[jakeke]

A little thing which might help you appreciate things a bit more is how lucky you are to have working limbs/eyes/face and you're not living in poverty/disease and pain like much of the world. You're extremely blessed to be healthy and wealthy (compared to so many), if you can't be happy in this part of the world then imagine how much worse things could be.

I made a few assumptions there, you could be severely deformed and posting from your Ethiopian hospital bed

 

[burtie]

I don't front anything I'm a right miserable sod inside and out.

 

[James J]

Which is by no means a good thing, for me not you, but by all means lay your cards to bare and I'll dissect your fodder.

I should also mention that I actually don't mean it in an offensive fashion either lol. I firmly believe you try and use your intellect to mask other short comings in your life. I've seen it happen before with a very good friend of mine and upto now (from what I've read), you seem like his carbon copy lol.

He was depressed though, hence my initial "diagnosis".

Unless you can find a way of getting yourself out of the rat race of normal everyday life and do something truly fun and worthwhile, you have to run with the rest of us I'm afraid.

Also spend a lot of time with people you actually like to be around and engage abit more in their lives and see what you feel like then. It's very easy to over-think even the most simple of situations when your sat on your own with no one to talk to!

 

[bunga_aj]

Of course I have issues, hence this thread. A complex is not one of them, it might have been lost in translation earlier in the thread but I'm happy with what and who I am, I know I'm decent, dependable and aesthetically pleasing but that doesn't seem to be enough.

LOL. I could learn to feel for you, the OP, if you weren't behaving like a monumental asshat. "I'm this, I'm that. Can't be my fault, I'm so awesome, it can't possibly be" etc etc. Yawn.

I can't speak for anyone else, but that is an extremely off-putting personality trait. Not just knowing that you may or may not be more intelligent, better looking than others - you seem to have a need to try and inform people of it too. I'd call that a complex.

 

[Participant]

life would be so simple if I were an idiot. I supposedly have a very high IQ compared to the average person...

Perhaps I just don't feel forfilled?

Or perhaps you really are an idiot?

 

[Dinomania]

I can't speak for anyone else, but that is an extremely off-putting personality trait. Not just knowing that you may or may not be more intelligent, better looking than others - you seem to have a need to try and inform people of it too. I'd call that a complex.

 

[Tom L]

I am usually happy unless something particular upsets me or concerns me, which then I raise to my partner.

However, if I am content or just relaxed, chilled etc, my facial expression appears glum, which makes me look grumpy and moody, which upsets others.

When I am overjoyed, I will show it, when I am content, my expression appears normal, but comes across glum apparently I struggle to show any happiness emotion even when I am content and relaxed.

Deep down, when I think about it, I am very lucky. I have a great job in the career I wanted, I have the perfect financee and we have so much to look forward to in our lives, my family support is great and social aspect is good so in hindsight, I should count myself lucky. I just struggle to show this emotionally as I have never been an 'up and jumpy and bubbly ' type character.

Anyone else like this?

 

[Radiation]

I don't see why some people are getting funny with Bleek, he appears to have posted nothing but reasonable, so some of the responses to him seem quite uncalled for and maybe those who have made such negative posts should take a look at their own self instead, ego can be a nasty thing.

 

[Bleek]

Or perhaps you really are an idiot?

/thread?

 

[Bleek]

I can't speak for anyone else, but that is an extremely off-putting personality trait. Not just knowing that you may or may not be more intelligent, better looking than others - you seem to have a need to try and inform people of it too. I'd call that a complex.

People were making assumptions, I was merely being frank and honest but I guess that offends people.

 

[Bleek]

I don't see why some people are getting funny with Bleek, he appears to have posted nothing but reasonable, so some of the responses to him seem quite uncalled for and maybe those who have made such negative posts should take a look at their own self instead, ego can be a nasty thing.

I'd buy you a drink, are you legal?

As above, I've just been frank and open, I am perhaps too honest at times but I don't see that a failing.

 

[Radiation]

I'd buy you a drink, are you legal?

As above, I've just been frank and open, I am perhaps too honest at times but I don't see that a failing.

Yeah, judging by the posts people are simply making a lot of their perception of you up rather questionably and their ego is showing it, so i think they've got the wrong impression and are posting unreasonably as a result, who knows where this comes from but it really only reflects poorly on them, not that i want to get involved of course, its just an observation and my own opinion.

I found out myself that being too open and honest isn't always best (even though it really should be) as people can often act with anything but logic and reason sadly.

 

[bunga_aj]

I don't see why some people are getting funny with Bleek, he appears to have posted nothing but reasonable, so some of the responses to him seem quite uncalled for and maybe those who have made such negative posts should take a look at their own self instead, ego can be a nasty thing.

I assume that given you have posted this immediately after what I have said that this was aimed at me most specifically.

It's got nothing to do with my ego and everything to do with the OP's ego. Touching on your latest post (at time of writing), I appreciate honesty and honest people as much as the next person but frankly there's a big difference between being honest and being a bit of an arrogant twit.

Anyway, this is the interwebs, everyone's different. Yadda yadda yadda. Have fun.

 

[Bleek]

There is also the issue of how people are perceived in writing, often expression is sckewed and yes I'm guilty of that.

I'm a dry person, it's part of my charm (see I'm doing it again) which is completely lost in text, in person however I think you'd appreciate (understand) it more.

 

[bunga_aj]

There is also the issue of how people are perceived in writing, often expression is sckewed and yes I'm guilty of that.

I'm a dry person, it's part of my charm (see I'm doing it again) which is completely lost in text, in person however I think you'd appreciate (understand) it more.

You're probably right. Now continue in your depressive wallowing ^_^ jk.

 

[Bleek]

You're probably right. Now continue in your depressive wallowing ^_^ jk.

Well I have an overwhelming urge to plough virginal soil.

I'm kidding.

Maybe.

I've lost nearly a stone in a month, lost my appetite recently, this feeling doesn't seem to be abating. This one is weird as I've always had an appetite and love food - I enjoy cooking it, I enjoy eating it, damn I enjoy passing it.

I might get that low I'll come full circle?

 

[checjb]

I often wonder if it's an issue of intellect, life would be so simple if I were an idiot. I supposedly have a very high IQ compared to the average person, I didn't realise it would taunt and torture me so.

Perhaps I just don't feel forfilled?

Well I'm fairly smart (degree, PhD, post-doc) but I'm happy as can be so I think your misery = high IQ hypothesis is worthless.

I hope things turn around for you though. I've never been unhappy for more than a hour or so (I've always just "willed" myself out of it) but I imagine it can be a grind.

C.