Fancy dress, am i being harsh!

[Scrutinize]

Well said.

Wouldn't worry about it. You can't be there every minute of every day to stop another man touching her.

You're the one she's coming home to to bury her face in your lap so what does it matter if other men dribble over her on a night out?

Spend the evening with the lads and enjoy yourself rather than sulking at home. Tell them to hit you in the balls if you mention her name.

i thank you..........

He should probably worry that she does a bit of the pork swording and then comes back home for seconds passing on whatever diseases she's picked up along the way. It's ok though, because he trusts her.

this is a good point but unfounded, i suspect given her profile, if she does something she will come across really guilty about it all so it will be pretty obvious, either that or she is an awesome actress and been at it for ages.

 

[Souleh]

If she really cared about YOUR feelings, she wouldn't dress in such a way in order to get attention from boys.

If she's in a relationship, why does she need to dress slutty on a night out exactly? Sure, it's because everyone else is and it's fun.... obviously

Rule of life - women LOVE attention. She's dressing like that because that way she'll have all sorts of attention from other guys, irrespective of whether or not she actually does anything. It's pathetic and she should really take into consideration how it would make you feel.

Oh come on.

Its a two way street.

If a girl wants to go out with a fancy dress group, in costume, and have fun then let her! If this requires her to cheat on you then thats a failing in your relationship, which you are also to blame for.

Same way if he wants to go out with the lads then he shouldn't get anything from her about lacking trust..

This whole thread smells of distrust and misplaced thoughts on ownership of an unmarried partner.

Let her go. If she cheats then you know shes not one to stay with.

This monitoring of your girlfriend in clubs etc is freaky. Some of you need to get a grip

 

[Rainmaker]

Do what I did, go out and nail as many birds as you can.......if she don't respect the fact you don't approve of her going then she's only going for one reason! You've probably got a small wanger and she needs pleasuring.

I've got two birds on the go and my missus don't know. If I found out she'd been up to it then so what! i'm not going to wait till she gets to her 60's to turn round and say "You know that night I went out with the chav's? Well I got roasted several times and our eldest son Tarquin might not be yours....1 in 10 chance"

Not the situation to be in dude.....go out and sow your oats before she does!

You just admitted this in GD? Really? ahaha

OP I know how you feel but as others have said it comes down to trust. I wouldn't feel happy about my mrs going out like this either, but then I also recognise that that's my problem (a personal failing, if you will). Logic tells me that I know I can trust her and that anything else is insecurity dressed up as machismo, and does nothing to help a relationship.

 

[GodMac]

Why don't you tell me where she's going and PM me a picture and I'll go and keep an eye on her for you. I'll try it on with her and let you know what happens. That way you'll have an insider. Or get one of your mates she don't know to go spy on her.

Just imagine if he comes back and says she was as good as gold and never got up to anything. That means you can totally trust her......or your mate roasted her. But sharing with your mates is totally allowed.

 

[brightside229]

Dressing up, make-up etc isn't the point. It's dressing in nearly-not-there shorts, or having breasts and bum hanging out. What other reason can a woman have to do that?

If she respected him, she wouldn't do it.

Thank you! theirs one thing going out looking nice to feel good about your self on a night out,nice dress, makeup etc, and then theirs the extreme, going out looking half naked in clothes that only i should see her in the bedroom wearing!! in a way i feel disrespected that she would consider it!

 

[pioneer2000]

Why don't you tell me where she's going and PM me a picture and I'll go and keep an eye on her for you. I'll try it on with her and let you know what happens. That way you'll have an insider. Or get one of your mates she don't know to go spy on her.

Just imagine if he comes back and says she was as good as gold and never got up to anything. That means you can totally trust her......or your mate roasted her. But sharing with your mates is totally allowed.

Hilarious - needs to be done!

 

[Souleh]

Thank you! theirs one thing going out looking nice to feel good about your self on a night out,nice dress, makeup etc, and then theirs the extreme, going out looking half naked in clothes that only i should see her in the bedroom wearing!! in a way i feel disrespected that she would consider it!

Its fancy dress. You dont own her body. If you want to own her body, drop down on one knee.

 

[M1k3H]

First of, its another thing to trust your GF/wife when she's going out with her friends and another thing letting her go out dressed like a **** with a bunch of ****** girls you don't know.
People here pretending to be superior beings by saying "trust trust trust issues" are just ignorant about relationships.
OP, If I were you I would just tell her that I feel uncomfortable with her going out with such "friends" dressed like that.
Tell her you want to meet the "friends" she is going out with. If you see she insists then arrange for a night out with some mates she doesn't know, try playing the same thing on her, see how she goes.
If my GF would not show me any sign of respect, and just tries and test my limits, then she would face ---> door.
If people on here, like to be disrespected or don't have the balls to acquire said respect, it doesn't have to be the common action for all of us.
Trust is acquired through respect, so I expect everyone(not just women) to earn my respect.
Also relationships are about giving and taking. If she can't give up slutty clothes, and can't have good friends to go out with this only means she doesn't respect your feelings and should show her the door.

 

[GodMac]

Its fancy dress. You dont own her body. If you want to own her body, drop down on one knee.

I find that statement quite sexist!

 

[brightside229]

Its fancy dress. You dont own her body. If you want to own her body, drop down on one knee.

I never said i did own her body, and even if i married her i still would not, but i would expect in either case for her to atleast have the respect for me to not show it off to every other man that wants to take a look! if i wanted that i would have got with a pornstar.

 

[M1k3H]

Its fancy dress. You dont own her body. If you want to own her body, drop down on one knee.

so since I am not married I can go around and fool with other girls and my excuse to my GF will be your quote? hmmm

 

[Souleh]

I find that statement quite sexist!

I never said i did own her body, and even if i married her i still would not, but i would expect in either case for her to atleast have the respect for me to not show it off to every other man that wants to take a look! if i wanted that i would have got with a pornstar.

I dont mean you'd physically own her body.

so since I am not married I can go around and fool with other girls and my excuse to my GF will be your quote? hmmm

Yes you're right. Since going out for fancy dress and doing the dirty are the same thing! Congratulations on your superb understanding.

Have you ever looked at another girls body either accidentally or on purpose while in your relationship?? Double standards??

 

[loltim]

You don't trust your girlfriend then?

Do her a favour, tell her you don't trust her so she can end it and find someone who does.

Can you look at it this black and white? She's going dressed as a hooker, not spongebob square pants.

 

[Souleh]

Can you look at it this black and white? She's going dressed as a hooker, not spongebob square pants.

When you go to the beach, do you insist that your other half wears a burka?

 

[shoes]

Beat her up a bit before she goes, no one will want her then.

Saying that it IS burlesque and the lapdance IS always better with the stripper is crying..... tough one.

 

[GodMac]

Brightside229, here's some real life advice. I had a GF years ago who said she was going to a party that her ex BF is going to, but I wasn't invited. I told her I didn't want her to go but she said "Don't you trust me?". I said I did and said I'd pay for the taxi home. Next day I got to her house to find out that she was absolutely shatter because she stayed all night at the party. To this day I believe she slept with her ex and it was her plan all along.

Since that day I have never had a GF treat me wrong again. Any sign of disrespect and that's it get your bags and leave! Don't be a chump, grow a pair my friend and don't accept it. Otherwise you will live your life being told what to do.

If you need guideance, go onto YouTube and search for Kenny Powers - MFCEO of Kswiss.

This guy is my mentor and no one gets one over on Kenny.

 

[BennyC]

Do what I did, go out and nail as many birds as you can.......if she don't respect the fact you don't approve of her going then she's only going for one reason! You've probably got a small wanger and she needs pleasuring.

I've got two birds on the go and my missus don't know. If I found out she'd been up to it then so what! i'm not going to wait till she gets to her 60's to turn round and say "You know that night I went out with the chav's? Well I got roasted several times and our eldest son Tarquin might not be yours....1 in 10 chance"

Not the situation to be in dude.....go out and sow your oats before she does!

Why don't you tell me where she's going and PM me a picture and I'll go and keep an eye on her for you. I'll try it on with her and let you know what happens. That way you'll have an insider. Or get one of your mates she don't know to go spy on her.
Just imagine if he comes back and says she was as good as gold and never got up to anything. That means you can totally trust her......or your mate roasted her. But sharing with your mates is totally allowed.

You sir are quite a catch. You're full to the brim with expert advice.

 

[M1k3H]

I dont mean you'd physically own her body.



Yes you're right. Since going out for fancy dress and doing the dirty are the same thing! Congratulations on your superb understanding.

Have you ever looked at another girls body either accidentally or on purpose while in your relationship?? Double standards??

doing the dirty? what are you? 5? your reaction to girls is "yikess" ?
So now you are classifying looking at other bodies as what? cheating? I look all the time, and comment with my GF about it. I am not ignorant that OBJECTIVELY there are prettier girls than her, so yes I look, but for me, she is the ideal female to be with.

Again, If you don't like to be respected by your partner, or can't claim the respect from your partner, doesn't mean we should either.

It doesn't matter if she lied to me about going to the market, or cheated me with the whole town. For me, both things are signs of disrespect and will not take it.

As I am fully honest and try to fulfill her wishes, and respect her feelings, to the best possible way, I expect her to do the same.

 

[Mr Jack]

When did she leave you?

I think his mummy told he was too good for any other woman, personally.

 

[GodMac]

You sir are quite a catch. You're full to the brim with expert advice.

BennyC, I used to be totally the jealous type like Brightside229 but you either put up with it and get crapped on or you harden to the situation and take the control. I've never been hurt since and never will.