Feeling left behind

you make time..1 night a month...1 night a week..whatever you can get


my really good mates work shifts as well..I am lucky enough to work monday to friday normal hours

but we try to meet at least 1 tuesday night a month when they can all get time off..that seem to be the change date for their patterns

we dont have to get blind drunk..its just good to get together for a catch up and a couple of beers

it may be difficult to make that connection again after a couple of years though

mind we are all in our 40's now and the kids are off to university to relive all the horrors we endured!
 
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I moved in with my now Mrs and her 2 boys and now we are married, live in another country and have a baby too. We still are in touch with friends though, it could be not for a while, but always make time to chat on some sort of email/chat app etc. And we make sure we catch up.
Same with my parents, as they're in New York, so we make time to catch up and talk. Real friends you can not talk to for an age and it's still the same.

You shouldn't stop all life because you have a family, but you dip in and out of what you can do.
 
One example (I won't give details)
Someone I know id often posting expensive holidays and purchases
What no one knows is his partner is a full blown escort.

Yes he has a very expensive car and these nice holidays but to get that you have to accept the unseen stuff
 
al4x said:
One example (I won't give details)
Someone I know id often posting expensive holidays and purchases
What no one knows is his partner is a full blown escort.

Yes he has a very expensive car and these nice holidays but to get that you have to accept the unseen stuff
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In all fairness most people get shafted at work on a daily basis and don't get paid half as much.
 
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In all fairness most people get shafted at work on a daily basis and don't get paid half as much.
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I'd rather get shafted at work than have my Mrs come home from work and knowing full well that she has just been shafted by numerous other people...

Does he himself work? If he does he gets shafted, then comes home to his severely shafted Mrs. How about that?

TL; DR: shafted.
 
I just couldn't handle it myself.
I have no problem with the 'job' itself but just find it very difficult to wrap my head around.
I know it happened after they got together but not who had the idea (shudder)

I can't really handle talking to them as I know nothing is true tbh.
I knew in and out didn't add up.. Now it does! Good money if you can handle it mentally. Shockingly
 
Same here, I have no problem with the job, nor think any less of the women who do it. If you can earn good money from it then why not? I know of a young lady who can command £800 to a £1000 a night. She is early 20's mortgage free and enough shoes to sink a battleship.

But I don't think I could be in a meaningful and intimate relationship with someone who had that as a job.

on topic though, OP, your life is good mate. Everyone wants something more of something they haven't really got. Whether that be money, time to socialise, relationship, family, etc.
 
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Same here, I have no problem with the job, nor think any less of the women who do it. If you can earn good money from it then why not?

But I don't think I could be in a meaningful and intimate relationship with someone who had that as a job.

on topic though, OP, your life is good mate. Everyone wants something more of something they haven't really got. Whether that be money, time to socialise, relationship, family, etc.
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Yep I was just trying to illustrate a point that social media in particular only gives you usually the rosey bits

I think I'm starting to grow out of the 'want everything' mentality
It only hurts you.

One way that helps me is literally not going on fb (not to difficult as I don't have many (any)true friends)
 
To add to the last line of what balky12 said, when you do get that thing you think you've wanted it often isn't as good as you thought it would be. Especially material stuff.
 
Stop working nightshifts! I've done them on and off for the past four years and they are a quick way to destroy your life. The amount of social events you have to turn down, the amount of 'oh maybe I'll see if I'm working' then being ignored. And then when you can go to stuff you're just knackered. Not to mention the drastic health consequences. They are pure evil and I am doing everything I can to stop them myself.

On a more positive note, you have a house, a partner and a kid. Squeeze in a bit of social time with mates and you're living the dream!
 
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