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Getting Married in June - Pre Nups / Advice

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by sbk1972, Apr 11, 2017.

  1. fretted

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    Why marry if you are so worried about having to support your kids in the event of a divorce?
     
  2. Etheco

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    Just don't get married?
     
  3. dl8860

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    Did you obtain all this property before you started a relationship?
     
  4. Tunney

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    If you don't have a joint account already, you shouldn't marry her.
     
  5. MookJong

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    I would have a good look at the marriage vows again before you do anything else.

    I cannot imagine having done a prenup with my wife, especially after 15 years! If I didn't trust her I wouldn't have married her. We had a joint account as soon as we lived together, it has never been an issue even once.
     
  6. Chris Wilson

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    It may be possible to protect your assets by marrying abroad in a jurisdiction that fully supports pre nuptial agreements, it's a very complex subject and you should take full counsel from a specialist, which in itself will be costly. After such a lengthy period of co-habitation and having kids it may well already be too late to keep full control of your assets though. Good luck :)
     
  7. balky12

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    Yea I'm interested in when properties were acquired...

    Hopefully it's not the mindset of 'over the last 15 years, whilst I was the only one working and bringing home the bacon, so they must be mine! All she did was stay at home and look after the kids!'
     
  8. Vonhelmet

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    Indeed. Worry about your nuptial agreements, never mind pre-nuptial ones.
     
  9. Chris Wilson

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    Problem is wives aren't so hot on the honouring and obeying bit these days <LOL>
     
  10. Psycho Sonny

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    pretty much this. they have 2 kids already. been together 15 years. as soon as they get married regardless of what the pre-nup says she gets half.

    he needs to stick all his assets into a company if he wishes to keep them. there is no point saying he is smart getting a pre-nup as it's worth nothing in this situation.
     
  11. Vonhelmet

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    Flagrant sexism. Awesome.
     
  12. nick.lidgett

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    If you cant trust them then you shouldnt get married
     
  13. postbox

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    It's because the relationships were already dead in the water and one half panics, gets over excited and tries to reignite any feelings by getting married / having kids / getting a puppy etc - then realising soon after they still have the same issues once the dust settles.
     
  14. The Judge

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  15. Chris Wilson

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    I'm a bit old school, in case you hadn't noticed ;)
     
  16. FishFluff

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    That's certainly not the phrase I'd use to describe you, but ok.
     
  17. Mr Badger

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  18. Mr Badger

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    IANAL however isn't the point of a pre-nup to protect individual assets owned prior to the relationship? As others have pointed out, after 15 years and a couple of kids you are most likely wasting your time with one now in the UK.
     
  19. Cleisthenes

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    I've just realised what a terrible acronym that is :D
     
  20. Hades

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    Q: Why is divorce expensive?
    A: Because it's worth it.







    :D