Girlfriend mad at me.
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Soldato
Maybe reinstall the operating system.
Soldato
The correct response is "here's your coat."
So is your girlfriend the mother of your daughter or not?
Or are you dating your own mum/gran/whatever?
Caporegime
There are deeper underlying issues then. She’s used this as an opportunity to unload on you.
Openly siding with your mom in this situation was pointless though. You should have just played the game.
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Been good obviously had our arguments along the way like any other relationship.
Soldato
how to tell I don't have kids, without telling you I don't have kids...
unless the child is really hurt, I would just laugh with/at the them... I do it all the time when my great neices or nephews fall over.
they fall of their bike... check for injuries... say "What you crying for?.... then laugh
playing football... they lose a 50/50 with another kid... if they get up and start to cry... say "stop being a *****" then laugh...
once I lightly banged my neices head on the car door frame as I was putting her in the babyseat, she started crying.. I started laughing... then she started laughing with me..
she always used to hold her head in her hands when I put her a car afterwards...
This is the reason why I'm not allowed to don't take them to the park by myself.. lol
unless the child is really hurt, I would just laugh with/at the them... I do it all the time when my great neices or nephews fall over.
they fall of their bike... check for injuries... say "What you crying for?.... then laugh
playing football... they lose a 50/50 with another kid... if they get up and start to cry... say "stop being a *****" then laugh...
once I lightly banged my neices head on the car door frame as I was putting her in the babyseat, she started crying.. I started laughing... then she started laughing with me..
she always used to hold her head in her hands when I put her a car afterwards...
This is the reason why I'm not allowed to don't take them to the park by myself.. lol
Caporegime
Seek help.
That would be enough for me to break up with her TBH. You don't need that kind of drama in your life.
Don't leave. Call her out on her BS.
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Soldato
Soldato
To talk about er indoors
I know but I have my life in this house including my 1 year old daughter! All my money is in it from doing it up
Caporegime
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Questions
1) Was your mum due to pick her up from Nursery, and girlfriend was fully aware and onboard with that?
2) Does your girlfriend generally over-react to things like it sounds like she did here (on the scant information we have)
3) Do the generally have a good relationship day to day?
4) Are you a mummies boy that spends too much time with your mum at the detriment to your other half?
1) Was your mum due to pick her up from Nursery, and girlfriend was fully aware and onboard with that?
2) Does your girlfriend generally over-react to things like it sounds like she did here (on the scant information we have)
3) Do the generally have a good relationship day to day?
4) Are you a mummies boy that spends too much time with your mum at the detriment to your other half?
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Yeah that sucks for sure. If you can have an adult conversation with her, maybe in a day or two when things have calmed down a bit, and try to deal with some of these issues, then it's worth a shot, for the sake of your daughter if nothing else. But from what you've told us, that may not be possible. If the relationship can't be saved, you need to look out for yourself and your daughter and not let your GF dictate terms.
Why would she be saying this? Feels like we are missing a ton of context here...
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Soldato
The context will be she spent too much time on mumsnet.
OK fine, serious answer....
As much as you love your girlfriend, it's not rational/normal behaviour for someone to overreact as she is doing, over a minor child injury which was sustained at a nursery, none of which is your, or your mother's fault. It is even further worse for her to make threats about it and using it as leverage to get her way. No matter how much you fear you could split up, this is not a time to do as she is asking, otherwise it sets a dangerous long term precedent that she can repeatedly behave in similar ways to get what she wants. You need to stand firm, remain in your house and tell her to stop being stupid. The most likely outcome will be that she will learn she cannot behave in this way and that she was in fact wrong.
As much as you love your girlfriend, it's not rational/normal behaviour for someone to overreact as she is doing, over a minor child injury which was sustained at a nursery, none of which is your, or your mother's fault. It is even further worse for her to make threats about it and using it as leverage to get her way. No matter how much you fear you could split up, this is not a time to do as she is asking, otherwise it sets a dangerous long term precedent that she can repeatedly behave in similar ways to get what she wants. You need to stand firm, remain in your house and tell her to stop being stupid. The most likely outcome will be that she will learn she cannot behave in this way and that she was in fact wrong.