Girlfriend mad at me.

[Ayahuasca]

I know but I have my life in this house including my 1 year old daughter! All my money is in it from doing it up

You'll have a lot more to worry about than money if you stay with her and she keeps doing this over minor issues.

As I said, she's probably been holding back on other things, and she's seen this as an opportunity to dish out an ultimatum.

 

[Pants]

She’s saying I need to go back to my mums or she will leave.

Let her leave and calm down if that's what she's needs. Don't be a door mat and offer to leave yourself.

 

[uber soldat]

They do be Cray Cray yo.

 

[VincentHanna]

OK fine, serious answer....
As much as you love your girlfriend, it's not rational/normal behaviour for someone to overreact as she is doing, over a minor child injury which was sustained at a nursery, none of which is your, or your mother's fault.

I read it that the mum somehow caused the injury? Still an accident though.

 

[Kenai]

Why would she be saying this? Feels like we are missing a ton of context here...

The context will drip feed out, like it did with neighbour complaining about his extension that was taking forever and a week to build

 

[baz178]

Questions

1) Was your mum due to pick her up from Nursery, and girlfriend was fully aware and onboard with that?
2) Does your girlfriend generally over-react to things like it sounds like she did here (on the scant information we have)
3) Do the generally have a good relationship day to day?
4) Are you a mummies boy that spends too much time with your mum at the detriment to your other half?

Yes I spend a lot of time with my mum always with my girlfriend there ! We all go shopping together at the weekend.

 

[Ayahuasca]

Yes I spend a lot of time with my mum always with my girlfriend there ! We all go shopping together at the weekend.

 

[cheesyboy]

The stereotypical 'mother in law' problem is that of men and their wife's mother.

But the reality is usually that the problem is between the wife and the husband's mother. And, often, it's because the men are a bit to forgiving of their mother's bull****.

This case sounds like wife being over-sensitive, but is it the end result of a festering problem?

Are you a massive mummy's boy, OP, and this is just the straw breaking the camel's back?

Or is this out of the blue?

E:

Haha, just read that OP is, in fact, a massive mummy's boy.

 

[jaybee]

So is this basically a case of the straw that broke the camel's back? Overbearing mother in law who's way too present in the relationship brings back daughter covered in a facial injury. Then the grenade went off? *grenade being your girlfriend, not the thing that caused a facial injury just to not cause any confusion for anyone skim reading thread

 

[baz178]

The stereotypical 'mother in law' problem is that of men and their wife's mother.

But the reality is usually that the problem is between the wife and the husband's mother. And, often, it's because the men are a bit to forgiving of their mother's bull****.

This case sounds like wife being over-sensitive, but is it the end result of a festering problem?

Are you a massive mummy's boy, OP, and this is just the straw breaking the camel's back?

Or is this out of the blue?

No im not a massive mummy’s boy be we reley on my mum to pick her up from nursery Wednesday to Friday.

 

[Stu999]

I believe the correct response is "Make me a sandwich, woman."

 

[nightwish]

No im not a massive mummy’s boy be we reley on my mum to pick her up from nursery Wednesday to Friday.

Either way, there's gotta be more to this than a minor scrape at nursery. If you both value the relationship, figure out a way to talk about what the real issue is, and accept that may require some compromise and/or sacrifice for both of you.

 

[mrk]

No offence she sounds like a bullet that should have been dodged a long time ago and I question why you stuck around as people like that show their tells early on.

 

[darkgen]

Reverse uno on it and slam some doors, speed dish cleaning while mono-toning "I'm fine!".

 

[baz178]

No offence she sounds like a bullet that should have been dodged a long time ago and I question why you stuck around as people like that show their tells early on.

What my dad said haha, I know she lost her mother 2 years ago sadly so don’t know if she looks at my mum with her daughter and doesn’t like it deep down.

 

[aVdub]

Does your girlfriend own a dog and has it ever stepped on a bee

 

[VincentHanna]

Yes I spend a lot of time with my mum always with my girlfriend there ! We all go shopping together at the weekend.

My mum lives 25 minutes away, I haven't seen her for about 4 weeks...

Spending too much time with your mum sounds particularly insensitive on your part if your girlfriends mum only passed away a few years back.

 

[jaybee]

Does your girlfriend tend to flare up like this typically on a sort of monthly timescale?

 

[200sols]

No offence she sounds like a bullet that should have been dodged a long time ago and I question why you stuck around as people like that show their tells early on.

This.

 

[the shadow]

Tis the season marry her