Hassle form parents for playing computer games?

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opethdisciple

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Just need a platform to vent. Had to turn PC off, as lost the enjoyment to play.

Since I was a boy I've always been made to feel bad for playing computer games. In fact any games to be honest. My dad smashed up my Super Nintendo and also broke my wrestling ring one Xmas. Just hated me playing games and wanted me always to be doing something 'constructive'.

The problem is I'm 33 and still live at home. I know I need to move out, but I'm saving cash up and plan to move out this time next year.

My gaming system is up in the loft where my dad keeps all his paper work, so came in to find me gaming and then went off on one. "This is not the behavior of a 33 yr old and that I need to get some responsibilities...."

I'm at work all week.... what else does he want me to do. And it's not like I spend hours on the PC. One hour here and there. I live my life, I go out and socialize and I game from time to time as a mode of entertainment.

My dad is from a small village in Cyprus, techno phobic so doesn't understand it at all. Just about gets on with an iPad. He just doesn't and will not get it. My sisters bf who is similar age to me is a barrister and he plays games.... but for some reason they don't click that gaming is a form of modern entertainment these days.

Clearly proves that I need to move out and sharpish. :(
 
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Staying in gaming is a good cheap way to save up for a deposit.
From your OP, which is one point of view I can't tell if:
1). Your Dad is being unfair
2). You are a bone idle waste of space and have spent your 20s either out of work or blowing all your money on crap or booze.

Either way 33 years old is too old to live at home and you really need to move out.
 
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Malakas! All you need to say.

My parents used to have issues with it too. Used to work night shift, I'd play for a few hours to unwind and I'd get it in the neck the next morning. I honestly don't get the problem.
 
With all due respect, you're 33 and live with your parents and spend your spare time playing video games. I can see why your father is frustrated. Maybe his frustration is directed at your situation rather than at you personally. If my son was in your situation I'd be frustrated and feeling like I've failed to help integrate him and get him started on his own trajectory.

Maybe this is the wake up call you need? Take it as a prompt for a new beginning.
 
Well, if your parents are anything like mine (just my mother tho) they won't be happy whatever you do. If you go out, they'll be complaining you are not home enough and if you are home they'll complain you are home too much :p
 
33 and at home that's the underlying issue here.

Is your sister still at home and what is her age ? You mentioned her boyfriend who games as well maybe your parents are buttering him up so your sister is sorted in the long term
 
Honestly, there is more to life than computer games. It is there to entertain when you have time. If you have a lot of time for games then perhaps that is something to focus on for change.
 
Few jumping on the high horses here,

To me it sounds like he doesn't understand that it's entertainment, is he of the generation to sit in front of the TV all night?
 
Get yourself your own place sharpish dude.

I'm 23, and cannot wait to have a place to myself. In a few more months I will do. I cannot bare it any longer. How you've made it to 33 I do not know lol!
 
I'm 33, I game ALL the time. In the comfort of my own home, without anyone calling me out on it. Once you move out you'll have the freedom go live your life however you wish to.
 
My parents are similar. Always gave me grief for gaming, yet they can sit there staring into a tv screen for hours.
 
Just for the record. I am in full time employment, have been to uni etc... I'm not bone ideal.

I work all week and am knackered. I deserve a little bit of down time as and when I want to.

He doesn't get that other people play games and that it is a part of modern life.

Playing a game is just like watching a movie etc.. except he doesn't see it like that.

Yep I need to move out. The problem is, since my dad turned 60 I have noticed he has aged a lot now. Our time together is surely getting very short, and yet he is basically making me feel like I need to move out as I am clearly being stifled and made to feel angry and depressed, when the other 2/3 of my life (work and social one) is going just fine.

By pushing me out, he's going to see even less of me.

Is this just the way it's meant to go?

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I could have and probably should have moved out ages ago and rented. But they told me it was a waste of cash and wanted me to save up for a mortgage. So that's what I've been doing.

I work in IT for a Contemporary Art gallery.

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I was only playing a bit of the witcher 3.
 
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My mum used to give me a lot of grief for gaming.

Until I pointed out that all those hours of "wasted" time spent in front of the computer, tweaking and tinkering to get those games working are the reason I'm working in IT earning more than her and her husband combined ;)
 
Just tell them if they'd prefer you were at the pub with your mates drinking and doing who knows what, or down on the sofa watching some reality TV nonsense. Truth is they will never understand, because they just want you to do what they want, and be happy with it.

Get out from under their roof and then you can live by your own rules. They will then complain that you are wasting money on rent and they never see you, but it's either that be driven insane by your parents still treating you like a child instead of a grown-up.

When they tear up and ask you why you are leaving and abandoning them, make sure you tell them it's because your Dad told you that you needed to grow up and take responsibility for your life, so that's what you're doing.
 
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