Do it. What have you got to lose?
Do horrible, terrible, unforgivable things to her then never. speak of it. again.
*disclaimer: don't break the law. it's illegal.
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Do it. What have you got to lose?
Do horrible, terrible, unforgivable things to her then never. speak of it. again.
*disclaimer: don't break the law. it's illegal.
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First time I go out after deciding to cut all contact, who's also out in town with all her mates?
Sigh, I ignored her when I first saw her, don't think she expected that. Then throughout the night we randomly made eye contact but looked away straight away everytime. She was four yards away from me on the dancefloor for the majority of the night, I made sure I kept my back to her because I really didn't want to see her at all
I don't feel like I should be civil, she's the one who made me feel like absolute crap for such a long time and she's made it clear she doesn't want me in that way anymore so why should I bother being polite? It ruined my night just knowing she was there though even if I did my best not to notice her, hope that gets easier!
Sigh, I ignored her when I first saw her, don't think she expected that. Then throughout the night we randomly made eye contact but looked away straight away everytime. She was four yards away from me on the dancefloor for the majority of the night, I made sure I kept my back to her because I really didn't want to see her at all
I don't feel like I should be civil, she's the one who made me feel like absolute crap for such a long time and she's made it clear she doesn't want me in that way anymore so why should I bother being polite? It ruined my night just knowing she was there though even if I did my best not to notice her, hope that gets easier!
You should have gone elsewhere.
I was with 6/7 other people and there is nowhere else decent to go other than the places we did. I handled it but I was dreading accidentally turning round and seeing her with another bloke, hence me doing my best to look the other way all night. Fortunately we had three hot girls with us and I did my best to make it look like I was enjoying myself even if I wasn't.
First time I go out after deciding to cut all contact, who's also out in town with all her mates?
Sigh, I ignored her when I first saw her, don't think she expected that. Then throughout the night we randomly made eye contact but looked away straight away everytime. She was four yards away from me on the dancefloor for the majority of the night, I made sure I kept my back to her because I really didn't want to see her at all
I don't feel like I should be civil, she's the one who made me feel like absolute crap for such a long time and she's made it clear she doesn't want me in that way anymore so why should I bother being polite? It ruined my night just knowing she was there though even if I did my best not to notice her, hope that gets easier!
When thinking about being civil and polite, think about yourself. Not so much being civil towards her, just being civil. Will it benefit you to be anything else?
You're the only one who can answer that. It helps for some people, not for others. You probably wouldn't know until afterwards. That's the nature of experience - you get answers after you needed them.
Just be honest with this other woman if you decide that way - if you're just after sex, don't tell her otherwise.
Thinking about it maybe you're right, it wouldn't have hurt to say hello and just get on with my night, but I just don't think she deserves the time of day from me at the moment thats all.
I was thinking more in terms of not being rude - I thought you had been civil and polite enough by saying nothing at all and that you were wondering why you bothered.
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I think even if it killed you inside saying a quick "hello" or "have a good night" would probably be the most effective way of dealing with her because a) You're being polite and b) it looks like you arent bothered.
NOTHING hurts a girl more than the the thought that you dont even care!
NOTHING hurts a girl more than the the thought that you dont even care!
I would love nothing more than to make her feel like **** about doing what she did. Like I said I think I handled it well and made myself look like I was enjoying myself with plenty of other people even if I really wasn't, I think next time I probably will just say hello once and leave it there.
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If you looked like you were enjoying yourself that will have a similar effect! The whole "dont know what you have til its gone" thing is very true. If she sees you out enjoying yourself it will mess with her head a little. If it doesnt you had a lucky escape anyway so either way dont worry.
i see my ex out all the time mate and she was an absolute **** to me! been 3 months apart now and after weeks of breakin up she is now going out with a very popular well known D&B MC whos an absolute rat and i laugh everytime i see them together, just keep ya head up bud and keep a smile on ya face it will get a lot lot easier!
atleast u handled it well thats all that really matters, if you still hurting just dont in anyway show that to her! dont ignore her when you out atleast let her know that she knows your around and it will make your night a lot better and hers worse! if shes got any feelings atoll she will be feeling same way as you if not then she aint even worth talking about!
atleast u handled it well thats all that really matters, if you still hurting just dont in anyway show that to her! dont ignore her when you out atleast let her know that she knows your around and it will make your night a lot better and hers worse! if shes got any feelings atoll she will be feeling same way as you if not then she aint even worth talking about!
Because there is no point in being bitter and angry about anything like that.
It will eat you up inside and stop you from moving on.
Best thing to do is just say hi when you see her and treat her no differently than anyone else. Even if that is fake to start with it will soon become second nature to you. When it does you'll realise that you really are over her!
Don't do it to get her back/for revenge. It makes you as bad as her and I think in the long run you would regret that as you seem like a decent guy! Think of yourself first, not how she feels! Karma will make things even in the long run
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Thats what i said! Absolutely dead-on advice. Follow this and you cant go wrong!
I ******* hate this. Even though i've cut all contact I can't get her out of my head and its really starting to annoy me now. I was coming home from work the other day and I drove past her, my stomach just sank (butterflies) even though I only saw her for a split second. I can't handle this to be fair. I want to be in a relationship, its that simple. I'm not one for the single life
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This year I caught sight, completely out of the blue and many miles away from home, of my first serious ex from over 20 years ago. I still got the butterflies thing. And if I'm honest it ruined my day out. Some women just get under your skin for life. :-/
You need someone else to fill the vacuum, and quickly. When you meet the right person it'll be a lot easier to deal with those accidental meetings... I promise. In the mean time you probably need to minimise contact for your own sake, because you're clearly still in that very difficult early stage after a difficult split.
If you meet again under social circumstances I'd be inclined to escape as soon as it's convenient if she's getting to you. While many will say tough it out, only you will know what's best for you, and hanging around feeling down isn't going to do you, or those you're out with, any good.
Good luck moving on.
Andrew McP
Its hard at first but it will go or at least become easier in time, i felt the exact same way about my ex. But i kept my chin up and got on with my life, started going to the gym again, focussing on my work, being with my friends and generally doing things i was never allowed to do or had time to do while i was with her. think of it as a oppurtunity if you will. But the main thing is you'll be fine, just keep on trooping