Heart broken

boheme said:
What you should NOT do is contact her when she gets home, leave her to decide and finalize her decision. If she doesn't contact you after a week or so of being home then I'm afraid to say she will probably have moved on. It seems you have already acted in a somewhat needy way (as i did myself), and i 100% regret some of the 'profound' things i said whilst in that state. But you really need to hold out and not be tempted to talk to her unless she starts conversing first. I'm not saying it's going to be easy as clearly you still love her, but until she comes running to you, you really need to be off-hand with her, even if you are a nice guy like you seem.
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I know exactly what you're talking about.. the ******* ridiculous stuff I said in a letter about how I felt etc was pretty funny in hindsight.. wish I didn't write it now though!

(Girlfriend split up for uni as first thing she said after getting back from a month abroad).


I've decided to act more like a standard guy instead of a pussy, and not fall for girls I am in relationships with for the foreseeable future - it's unnecessary really .. I'll just tap them and not worry too much about how I feel for them :p
 
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Update!

So she got back from holiday Saturday, I didn't get in contact with her, she didn't with me. I then text her Sunday morning asking to see her and she said she was free tonight. So I went round for half an hour, tried to get a better understanding of what's going on in her head, asked if there was a chance of us trying again etc. Answer was as you all expected. I accidently came out with a comment which had the word slapper in, which didn't go down too well but I never meant it quite that way. Went downstairs, shook her dads hand and said thanks for everything, gave her mum a hug and went.

I will be cutting off all contact, she wants to keep in touch but I know that won't help me get over her so its all or nothing for me. Deleted her off facebook (which for some reason annoys me SO much seeing her on there) and I won't be making contact with her for the foreseeable future. I will blatantly see her out eventually and that'll suck but what can you do. I imagine being friends is ok when you both want out, in this situation it just won't work.

For the record, the reasons she gave went along the lines of:

- Wants to think about herself and do what she wants when she wants
- Doesn't want to be in a relationship at the moment
- Doesn't have the same feelings

At the moment i'm ok about things, might be different when I wake up tomorrow or when I see her next but I'm glad I went and saw her tonight as at the moment it feels like closure in a way.

Silly bitch doesn't know how good she had it :)
 
Would it be better for you if I acted surprised?

And and it seems you have wasted a month of your life even though I and others told you this would happen.
 
Slinwagh said:
Would it be better for you if I acted surprised?

And and it seems you have wasted a month of your life even though I and others told you this would happen.
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Sometimes people need to make mistakes, to learn.

Seem's this was the case for Ripper here, cut him some slack. Jeez...
 
Silly bitch? Slapper?

Yeow. You can't help your feelings, once they go, they're gone.

It is however easier just to get bitter for a while, so yeah, what a stupid bint, hope she catches something nasty.
 
Slinwagh said:
Would it be better for you if I acted surprised?

And and it seems you have wasted a month of your life even though I and others told you this would happen.
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Yes well done you were right. Yes I did waste over a month of my life feeling like **** and I probably will for the next month. Hopefully i'll meet someone else a bit more mature though next time, the fact that she's 2.5 years younger than me has shone through during all this. Less I see/hear of her the easier it'll be so I just need to make sure I can avoid her but i'm blatantly gonna see her in the pub or in town eventually with other lads so how I handle that remains to be seen.

Live and learn I guess.
 
Everyone goes through this in life, and yeh it hurts and you feel like **** but the best bit of advice thats been said in this thread is just break ALL contact with her, the worst thing in the world to do is to stay friends and keep phoning etc. I stayed friends with an ex who really hurt me and i couldnt get over her, but when i realised i have to break contact it was a lot easier getting over her.
Break contact totally and move on
 
You could always do what I have done a few times, stay as a distant friend, just don't initiate any contact, let her and keep any conversations short.

This, in my experience, shows girls that you CAN get over them and get on with your life and as soon as they see that, suddenly they want attention again.

I have a few ex's that I get regular booty calls from because they know that's all they are going to get.

I might be a b******d, I don't care, what they put me through its worth it.
 
Will it really though? I'm in contact with another girl who I know is up for it but I wouldn't want to go out with her.
 
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