House mate situation

OldCoals said:
Apart from the fact the pay wasn't steady. Well Done. A*
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well at saunsbury's it was permanent with a set amount of hours - he said he did overtime and didnt get enough so walked out - to the job that was cash in hand.

id say his job was steady - albiet not paid well (but at least on time and a minimum amount)
 
You cant withold his belongings, its stealing. He could call the police and get you into trouble. Give him his stuff and agree a payment plan with him, get it in writing so you can take action if he doesn't stick to it. Be reasonable and only ask what he can afford to pay.
 
Sounds like he's had hard times but he has acted to your detriment.

Just support him for now, waive the money, and be more cautious next time.
 
It isn't the OP's fault that this person has arse cancer, so why the hell should he be £600 out of pocket thanks to this idiots poor life choices. I mean, quitting a perfectly stable job to work somewhere that only pays him a pittance via cash in hand and only when the boss wants to.
 
I was reading the OP assuming this was going to end in some sort of question or dilemma - like the friend still there and how to approach him about moving out etc..

but the friend is moving out and has promised to pay the rest of the rent... so I'm really not seeing the dilemma or why you need to hold onto his clothes etc.. when he's supposed to be your friend and is clearly going through a rough patch - I mean you say he's missed payments not that he hasn't made them so surely with him moving out he's not building up any further debt with you and you'll be paid back?

presumably you're not going to have anyone giving you rent next month either or the month after that anyway, why cause a load of aggro and potentially lose a friend of several years over concerns about the timescale of repayments of a few hundred pounds...
 
Nitefly said:
Sounds like he's had hard times but he has acted to your detriment.

Just support him for now, waive the money, and be more cautious next time.
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This. I also suspect it's not legal to hold on to his stuff, and if as you say he is suicidal you're going to feel pretty bad if something happens.
He's supposed to be a mate, and he's got cancer.
 
Nah, sorry. Quitting his job without finding another one knowing he owed basic living expenses. Sympathy ends there, cancer or not.

Wish I could do that most days. "Suicidal" ...boo hoo... Get some head pills and useless NHS therapy like we all have to. Start a bad drinking habit, but always pay your way the best you can and never take advantage of generosity.

Life is a tough, horrible mess and a total slogging graft. Maybe he never got the memo.
 
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Arthur Hucksake said:
Nah, sorry. Quitting his job without finding another one knowing he owed basic living expenses. Sympathy ends there, cancer or not.

Wish I could do that most days.
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Even if the cancer means he's unable to continue doing his job?

FFS, how ill do you have to be to get any sympathy on this forum, if you don't have a job, and might be on some kind of benefits? :p
 
I can't imagine a driving job being too comfortable if you have bowel cancer. OP I'm sure you would have had a lot more sympathy for your position if you hadn't mentioned that, but for me, that would change everything.Your friend is potentially dying, and is certainly facing a pretty bleak future.
 
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Arthur Hucksake said:
Life is a tough, horrible mess and a total slogging graft. Maybe he never got the memo.
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But we all have the option to make things better or make things worse. To share, or to shaft. To be sensitive and generous, or ruthless and uncaring.

Because we aren't animals, the law of the jungle doesn't need to apply in dealings between us. Especially when we're dealing with "friends".

I think people who claim to live by the mantra of "survival of the fittest" are mostly terrible human beings :p
 
Have you seen actual proof he's got bowel cancer? I don't mean walking out of a doctor and "yes I've got bowel cancer", I mean hearing it straight from the horse's mouth. Sounds like he drunks a lot. So did a former relative and he bled out his arse like it was an abortion. This was due to booze, not cancer.

This could be self inflicted and he's hiding behind the cancer card. Not saying that **IS** the case, just playing devils advocate.

That said, he clearly has issues and you are in the position to be the bigger person. His physical / mental health is worth more than a few hundred bones.

Find a new tenant, tell him to sort himself out and wish him all the best.
 
Give him his stuff back, get your key and tell him too sod off. Cancer or no cancer he doesn't sound like a friend.

Always on the take from people and never gives anything back, guess he thinks the world owes him a living by the sounds of things..
 
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